How do I get my 2 yr old to listen to me?

Alysia - posted on 03/11/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Every time i talk to my son lately he totally ignores me and does the opposite of what i tell him to do. How do I get him to listen to me and do what I say?


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I wish I knew the answer! What I do with my 18 month old, doesn't always work but is definetly worth it to keep doing. I just be patient with him and keep telling him to put whatever he has back. He will stand there and stare at me for a while but then he will go and try to put it back, he lacks some coordination so he needs help sometimes. Sometimes he needs a little nudge. You have to remember that they're still little kids and even though what we're saying may make sense to us, may confuse them. If he chooses to ignore you just get down to his level right in front of him and get his attention and tell him firmly what you want him to do. If he's busy playing with a toy and doesn't want to do what you say, try taking the toy away and telling him that when he does what you say, he can have it back. I do this with my 18 month old and even though he may not understand it now, he will eventually learn. I believe the key is consistancy. If you tell them that they're going to get something taken away if they don't do what you say and they keep pushing it and don't do it after a couple times of telling them and you don't take that thing away.. nothing is really getting accomplished there except they're learning that you won't really stick to your word and they will also learn that they can get away with anything. I believe it's important to follow though at a young age rather than later on. Good luck! :)

Charlynn - posted on 03/11/2010




I'm struggling with the same thing with my 4 and 2 year olds. I found this link today ( with a series of clips that talk about why children don't listen and how to help them learn to listen. I found it helpful and am going to try some of the techniques that were discussed.

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In my experience (I have a six yr and three yr old), you are going to have to take him by the hand and make him. You can try time-outs, but you will probably have to keep putting him back in there. The key is consistency and patience. I am still working with my son on this issue.If I ask him to do something, he usually says no, so I hold his hand and lead him to pick up his toy for example and then lead him to the toybox. If he refuses, he goes to time out until he complies. 2 years is the testing time where they try to see who is in charge so know is the time to let him know that you are in charge.

Amy - posted on 03/11/2010




I wish I knew!!! My 19 month old is starting the same thing. So frustrating! Hopefully we both figure it out soon! Good luck.

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