how do i get my 5 month old baby to sleep in his cot and not in my bed?

Rebecca - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




my son has been sleeping in my bed since hes been born he liked to be layed asleep on you and hated his moses basket but i want the space for me and my fiance to cuddle at night but we cant cause the babies there in the middle. can any one give me any advice or tips?


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Brittany - posted on 03/12/2010




i'm in the SAME boat with my 11 month old! it sucks because i'm like you, i want my bed back, but i can't stand to let my son "cry it out". i tried cry it out, and it didn't really work. he got progressively worse and worse! so i gave up and he still sleeps in my bed. my mom gives me all kinds of grief about it, but i try to push the negative comments aside. every baby is different, so you may have to try different approaches to be successful. i wish you luck though!

Kristin - posted on 03/07/2010




Have you looked into the cosleeper/attached bassinet type beds for him. He would be on the outside of the bed but in a bassinet. Just a thought.

My cosleeper didn't get out until he was almost three. But, I couldn't get that kid to nap alone either. He sleeps alone in his bed now and has been since he got his toddler bed. So, it does end, but don't put a 5 month old in one of those.

When our son was about 5-6 months I moved him to the outside and took over the middle spot. It worked he and I both slept the same and my husband didn't need to worry about rolling over on him. I think one of those cosleeper bed attached bassinets is a good way to go for the extra space if you want to keep him in the room and close by. Our second slept in a bassinet from the start and then moved into the pack n' play but still in our room. He still needed a dirty shirt of mine though. I kept them in there until they no longer needed night feedings.

For grown up "cuddle" time, we found other locations to be together. Kind of spiced things up too, as wow can that get lost along the way. With #1, we corraled him with pillows (no not close to him) and had him directly on the bottom sheet of the bed to prevent him from inadvertantly rolling off the bed. Worked great until he started crawling.

Good luck!

Tracy - posted on 03/07/2010




my son started out in a bassinet and he would not sleep. We put him in a crib and he started sleeping through the night at 3 weeks old. There seems to be something about the small bassinets that babies hate. All my kids hated them (have 3) Also I found a few tricks that might help were: Try bundling them in their crib (my first wouldn't sleep unless he was tightly wrapped, he was more comfortable that way), try giving them one of your T-shirts to sleep with (then they have your scent beside them without you personally), try leaving a night light on (my first liked a light on even as a tiny baby) or if it is already light in the room make it darker ( my second couldn't sleep unless it was very dark in her room) Try playing classical music (all my kids liked to listen to mozart while they were falling asleep). I really really suggest not to let them sleep with you, once they get in there, they never want to leave.

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I wait for mine to fall asleep then place him carefully in his bed. It works for me. Sometimes he gets up, but I just do it over again or lay him back down and give him a bottle(dr.s say not to give a bottle at bedtime) but i do it anyways. This is my 3rd and their all fine.

Cathy - posted on 03/05/2010




My daughter was the same way. I would put her to sleep in my bed with me and then mover her CAREFULLY when she fell asleep. I would always lay a warm fuzzy blanket down for her to lay on and I had a pack n play basonette that vibrated. I also go the rainforest thing so when I started laying her down in her bed only while she was awake I would turn it on she would watch it and go to sleep. I placed it low and next to her, secured it, and then when she got a little bit older she would wake up and push it herself and go back to sleep. It goes through alot of batteries but it is worth its weight in gold. Good luck!

Christy - posted on 03/05/2010




Put the baby on a crib to sleep. There will be lots of crying at first but he will get used to it eventually. And ANYTIME he sleeps he needs to be in his exceptions. Give him a blanket or stuffed animal to hold for comfort. You may start with the "lovey" in your bed with him, then switch him to his bed with it.

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