How do i handle my child when she is throwing a fit??


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Emma - posted on 03/28/2010




Well, with my 3 year old i just walk away if its at home, if she is still making a racket after a while i pick her up and put her in the spare room as the noise can get annoying, she has only don it once when we where out, i walked away and called back are you coming when i was a couple of meters away she decided she did not want to be alone on the floor of the shop and got up.
and the other thing that worked when i did it to my nice was when she throw a huge tantrum in a shop i did the same thing it took about 30 secs and she was up and looking at me like i was mad, she never throw a tantrum with me again i think she got embarrassed lol

LaDonna - posted on 03/27/2010



0 !!! the naughty seat 1 min for every year of there life!!! time starts when they quit freaking ou. soon they just do it !

Kristin - posted on 03/27/2010




How old is your child? If in public, usually removing them from the situation and enforcing a calm down/time out will do it. If your child is 2+, it's a minute per year and tell them why they are there. No interaction again until the timer has run out. Timer starts over EVERY time they leave time out. If at home, make sure they are safe and then ignore them.

With older kids, sometimes egging them on will get it to stop. With my 5 year old, if he's attempting a tantrum, I will ask him if that's the best he's got, come on let's see this tantrum, where's the sprawling on the floor with kicking and screaming? After a few minutes, he just looks at me like I've lost my mind. At that point I can ask him what that was all about and get clear answer.

It's a little tougher with the less than 2 group. Because they can't really communicate well and still require a lot of emotional coaching, they get frustrated easily. Do what you need to to calm her down and then ask lots of questions. Removing her from the site of where it started can really help with the calming process. As can holding her and talking calmly to her. I've asked mine to take deep breaths and slow down. I tell them that I can't help if I don't understand what's up and this fit/crying/drama is making it so that I can't understand. At this age, they are smarter then we give them credit for.

No matter the age or what you do, be consistent. I hope this helps. Good luck.

Jennifer - posted on 03/27/2010




Well, how old is your child? If she's old enough, you could just walk away from her (depending on where you are at the time, of course!). If she's just a baby/infant, try to soothe her to the best of your ability. If she's a teen, just tell her that you've had enough, and if she doesn't stop she'll start losing privelages at the rate of one for every two minutes until she stops. In our house privelages include the phone, radio, television, reading books not school-related, friends, and even her bedroom door. I don't know if any of this helps, but good luck!

Michelle - posted on 03/27/2010




if you are at home and she is doing it, walk away, if you don't respond, they will start to realize when they act up like that, it is unacceptable, and will not get a response....that's what I do with my 3 and 4 yr olds, I used to loose my cool, and agrue back with them, or even bribe them to stop the tantrum, but if I ignore it, they realize it after a minute or so, then they start playing and going about their day.

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