How do I prepare my three year old for baby number two?


Melissa - posted on 02/24/2009




My son was almost 3 when my daughter was born. We talked to him about the baby pretty much from the time I found out I was pregnant. A couple of my friends were pregnant at the same time & due before me so I think that helped him to understand that there would be a baby coming home. He stayed with my mom when I had my daughter & she brought him up to the hospital to meet her after she was born. His daddy took him & let him buy her a present & he still remembers he gave her the little teddy bear. My husband also took off time from work while I was in the hospital & did special things with him so he wouldn't feel left out. He also took him on a special trip a couple weekends before I was due. After my daughter was born I also made sure to include him in anything he wanted to help with. He helps change her diapers & he loves to play with her.

Maureen - posted on 02/23/2009




My first two are only 15 months apart. The third arrived three years later. We took both to a sibling class offered at the hospital. They took a tour and see where I would be. They knew who would take care of them. We had grandmother bring them to the hospital when we were leaving so that we all went home together. They still remember what the nurse told them about how to hold the baby, and care for him. Early on the two kids had toys and activities they got to do while I was nursing their brother. Today the youngest is 9 months and all kids get along great.

Hatta - posted on 02/23/2009




We did many of the same things as Candi and our kids are also 3 years apart. Then when our son came to the hospital to meet his sister we gave him a small wrapped present "from" his sister. Also, during the pregnancy we encouraged him to pat my belly and talk to the baby, something he continued to do after she arrived was pat her and talk to her. I'd like to say at 6 and 3 they are perfect friends, although they do have days of playing without fighting and other days that melt my heart because of how kind they can be to eachother.

Candi - posted on 02/23/2009




My daughter Riley was almost three whenever we had Cooper. One thing that we did to try to prepare her a little was we made a book about me being pregnant through cooper coming home from the hospital. We also included who she would stay with, how the hospital would be, stuff like that. She got to help draw and color the pics on each page and then we read it everyday until he came. It kind of got her thinking and helped her to kindof know what to expect. It is definitley a change for them once the baby is actually here, but Cooper is 9mths now and they have a lot of fun together! Good luck!


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Carmen - posted on 02/24/2009




Dear Moms,

I thank you very much for your response. We will try all the things you suggested. Thanks again.

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