how do I stop yelling all the time?

Krysti - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




I used to be pretty mellow, and only hollered occasionally. I have 6 children at home; ranging from 3 to 16; 5 of which are stepchildren. Lately, none of the kids have been taking care of their few responsibilities at home,and they are so lazy none of them pick up after themselves or anything. It seems as though I have been yelling from the time I get up to the time I put them to bed. I have also tried things such as earlier bedtimes, and not allowing them to do fun things such as play at their friends house. I do not like yelling all the time, and it's not helping either. Does anyone have any suggestions for ways for me to react differently or ways for me to get the children to do what is asked of them? Please help.


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Jamie - posted on 01/21/2010




you didn't say if the 5 stepchildren respect you and your position in the family scheme of things ... if so then keep your word don't throw threats around like a ball what I mean is if you are screaming b/c the clothes are left all over the floors in your living room and you have threatened to throw them out ...then do it. If the kids know the rules and expectations of you and your husband in your home then you don't need to yell around about it just pick them up and throw them out right on top of the garbage heap.Then make sure the offending child is the one who has to throw something in the garbage they will get the idea.good luck

Krysti - posted on 01/21/2010




Thank you Kryss. You know, I had my first son almost 20 years ago, and that was the way it was with him and me. I never had to yell at him. Ten years ago, I had my daughter, and 2 years ago I was blessed with my new husband and his 5 children. I think you are right; I have lost control and my house is now running me; not the other way around. I'm having the worst time with the ones who are old enough to know better; the 9, 10 and 12 year olds. Wish me luck!

Anna - posted on 01/21/2010




Hi can I suggesting to watch Nanny 911 she help a lot

She has all the tecnique that really working!

Kryss - posted on 01/21/2010




Okay b4 i begin i dont know how i would act with 6 kids...but i can tell you what i do with the one i have...when he stops doing the t hings he knows i expect i sit him down and we TALK and we also have wht we call "Clean patrol" silly yes but it gets his attention and he knows its time to pick up and clean up, if your children dont get that YOU are in charge...then yes you will have to scream ...and yell . I was told along time ago when my son was born... that when you have to scream you have lost control when you have control... you will not have to scream... and i have to agree, i have not had to yell at my son...and he knows his place, mayb a family talk is in order and if theres a dad in the picture have him back you moms sometimes we can be push overs and forget that we are over the house and children are just that ...they have to know their place...its the way i do it in my house........mayb it will help you. I have a set bed time a set dinner time a set homewrk time and ..we have clean patrol and ya know its wrked for me:)

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