How do i take away the pacifier from my 1 year old son?

Andrea - posted on 03/05/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My son just turned 1 and my husban and I want to take his pacifier away but we are to scared as to how he will react. He can't sleep with out it!!! how should we go about this?

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Kylee - posted on 03/07/2010

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To some degree I agree with Ella. Go Cold Turkey and put up with the fight. It will only take a couple of days. On the other hand, I have 5 children and they were all different. My first child threw hers away on her own at about 10 months. My second was a tough one. We let her have it only for bed time after the age of one. No daytime sucking (and I know a lot of people who do this.) I was a big thumb sucker when I was young so I figured it was best for them to have the dummy while they needed it because it could be taken away from them at some stage whereas a thumb is stuck with them forever. A dummy is not a big deal, especially for bed time only. When he is old enough to understand, maybe two or two and a half, give the dummy to the easter bunny or Santa Claus. This worked with child 2 and three for us. My fourth wouldn't take a dummy and my fifth took one but only for a couple of months. I personally think that one is not a good age to take away something that is such a comfort to them, especailly at bed time. They don't understand. Another year and he'll be fine. During his waking hours however, keep him distracted with other things and you may find that he weens himself altogether. Don't offer it to him at bed time, but if he asks for it, let him have it. Just not during the day.

Tracey - posted on 03/06/2010

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i agree with the cold turkey idea. i tried once to get my daughter off the pacifier and i failed. it wasn't because she actually needed it, she just fussed and i gave it to her. about a few weeks later at this time i was not buying any more and we were down to i think 1-2 pacifiers. i brought her home from daycare and laid her down for a nap. I was getting off work in the middle of the day so she took naps when we got home which was awesome for me. i laid her down and went into the kitchen and i realized i had her pacifier in my hand so i tossed it and she was fine without it from there on. she was like 13-14 months. it really is, just take it away. toss it, do whatever but the sooner it goes the better off you will be cuz the older he gets the harder its gonna be. and you will get frustrated when he cries and wants it, but take a long weekend to do it cuz after that he will forget he even had it. i told my husband for baby #2 will have a pacifier till age 1 cuz it is a lot easier habit to break than the sucking of the thumb or fingers.

Andrea - posted on 03/08/2010

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Thank you all for your advice! I have some thinking to do! Have a great week!

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I went cold turkey with my 1st. I actually threw them all in the trash, so I wouldn't be tempted. She cried herself to sleep pretty hard for about a week, then it was over. :-)

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Noora - posted on 03/09/2010

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Frankly, i burn the pacifier infront of my kid and told him that its not good to use it any more. and i kept it a side to show him everytime he remembers it, but as a back up i bought a new one and kept it a side but never had to use it again.. b'coz he never wanted to use it anymore b'coz it looked black and horrible..

Felicia - posted on 03/08/2010

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Well, I never used one. But my sister-in-law did. Quiting the binkie is like quitting smoking.....do it cold turkey. Yes you will have a fussy baby for a few days. But, it sure beats having to find a store when you are driving down the road to replace a lost binkie.

Tabby - posted on 03/08/2010

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Give him more toys to play with, somethign he can put in his mouth.. My 8 month old hasn't had a pacifier for at least 4 months now.. I guess i forgot to give it to him and he forgot or didn't care and sucks on his fingers all the time.. His index finger is the pacifier now. maybe put some food on it that he thinks is gross.. hehe.. or hide them and hope he forgets about it. they will wein themselves off if eventually. they will suck on that pacifier to calm themselves down, so maybe find another way to calm him down without it!

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When we wanted our daughter to ditch her sucky for the night we exchanged it for something that was really appealing to her, a flash light. And every night she got to choose between her sucky or her flash light. She only got one, and she only got it at night. She choose the flash light every time, and forgot about the soother completely!

Megan - posted on 03/07/2010

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we took it away cold turkey! now she sleeps thru the night instead of waking to find it! it was 3 days of torture but worth it! i sleep and she sleeps so much better - no more midnight searches. sad to hear her cry for a minute or two when i lay her down but good outweighs the bad!

Petronela - posted on 03/06/2010

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hi there , the one thing you can do and will bring results is to let him go cold turkey ...my son wouldnt let the bottle go and slept with it until i took it away and trew it so it wouldnt be a temptation both for you or him ...there might be a couple of days of nothing is good enough give me my pacifier back but you are the parent and what you say goes ....also consider the fact that you might need to do this one weekend when u are not going to the park or out and about as he will see other young ones and might trigger back , its not easy but if there you go ....another option is to check with your pediatrician some babies have the pacifier until they are close to their second birthday and then due to a wider range of understanding things they might let go easier , so its up to you how to approach this
good luck

Danielle - posted on 03/06/2010

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you should tell him that he needs to give his pacifier to the pacifier fairy so she can give them to the new baby boys and girls and give him a treat in return for the pacifier my son does'nt use a pacifier but this technique worked with my nephew when he turned 1 so maybe it might work for you

Melissa - posted on 03/06/2010

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Get some change and buy a toy from those machines that have plastic containers, put the pacifier in it after he falls asleep one night. He will wake and find it stuck in there. He can have it just not put it in his mouth! Don't watch his reaction to this. Just explain softly that he won't need it now. Have a new 'BIG BOY' toy waiting for him in another room. Take him there for a distraction. Whle some one else can go get it and trow all others in the trash! Now he will be upset for about 5 days. But his reaction will be less and less each day. Don't give in and buy another. He will play that card on other issues later on down the line. But Move away from him once he settles into his new toy,keeping him in sight but not showing that you feel bad or are sad that you are loosing yer 'BABY'. You are NOT. You are saving yerself from loosing yer mind later. I Do hope this will help you. Good luck.

Kylie - posted on 03/05/2010

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My son had a pacifier when he was younger,when it got the the stage that i was having to get up in the middle of the night to put it back in his mouth we made the decision to take it away from him. (He was 5.5 months at that stage) I took it away from him in the morning and put it somewhere he wouldnt find it,i didnt want to throw it out just incase i needed to use it again. We got through the day with out it not a problem and that night i was prepared for the worst. But to be honest it wasnt as hard as i thought it would be. It took him 3 days to be completely over it and im glad i did it when i did. Maybe you could try buying him a new cuddly or soft toy that he could go to bed with instead of the pacifier. Good Luck xoxo

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