how do moms feel about proping the bottle up ?

Shanna - posted on 11/22/2009 ( 43 moms have responded )

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well wit my first son i totally refused to prop it up i thought it was lazy and it would give him ear problems plus he was my first and i had nothing but time to hold the bottle for him and i was younge wit tmy first kid ddint kno anybetter i guess , but wit my secon son i prop it any chance i get to do dishes get dressed clean up or play wit my other son u kno doing things to get it done ... but i still feel like im lazy in some sence is it ? is it ok? can any harm come from it ? he seems to be fine wit it so any sujestions?

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Yesenia - posted on 09/01/2012

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I find it absolutely ridiculous mothers are so judgmental to say propping up a bottle is lazy. Lazy is leaving your child in a dirty diaper all day and not changing it, lazy is leaving your baby in a car seat all day and never interacting with her/him, lazy is not propping a bottle up for feeding to multitask. That is called being a MOM. It is clearly only a skill that certain appreciate because others are to busy judging and wanting to prove they are mothers that wouldn't dare do such a thing as prop a bottle up! Propping a bottle up is just a way of simplifying and making feeding convenient while doing other tasks. What do you think the invention of the bottle was for? you don't see people calling other people lazy because they use bottles instead of always breastfeeding right? No its called making things more adaptable to everyday life... Women, better yet mothers you should be ashamed of yourselves. I bond beautifully with my son when I breastfeed him and I have such a strong bond with him that when I do prop the bottle up to clean or do work we are still connected.

Theresa - posted on 11/24/2009

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I wouldn't worry so much about choking. Babies have an incredible ability to block their own airways in order to keep from aspirating ( going down the wrong pipe) on spit up and such so I would think they would do that if they didn't want anymore which in itself would make the bottle fall out. I agree though that they should be at a 45 degree angle to avoid ear problems and in sight just as a precaution but I wouldn't feel lazy at all. Sometimes as mothers we have to do what we need to to make it through the day and take care of everyone's needs.

Amber - posted on 11/24/2009

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Honestly...I think everyone scoffs at it, but everyone does it. You have to unless you have constant help, or 15 hands. LOL. I think it's fine as long as you're stil paying attention to the situation.

Kim - posted on 11/25/2009

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I cannot imagine ever propping the bottle up to feed my baby! What a special bonding time that is! Treasure those moments because they won't last forever. Those dishes can wait, the laundry can wait, and the house cleaning can wait. I hope you can find time in your schedule to feed your baby yourself.

Lilibeth - posted on 11/24/2009

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I prop sometimes but then I make sure I'm around to where I can still see him while feeding him. I never had a prob with it..

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Crystal - posted on 05/06/2014

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This is so true sometimes its necessary to do this especially when there is no but you to do all the household chores as long as u keep an eye on ur baby and cover their ears they should be fine also I burp my baby every 2 oz he is 3 months

Shanna - posted on 11/28/2009

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dont get it twisted i do hold my childs bottle i jus sometimes i have things that have to be done try telling a 2 year old to wait for juice or to wait to hold ur pee while i feed ur brother is like imposible or atleast it is for me ... but yea i do understand bout the bonding but i do bond wit my child im wit him 24/7 he is never watched by no one he is by my side all the time unless he is sleeping or in his swing or bouncer but i do usally wait to clean but jus somtimes i may throw a load of laundry in or do somthing jus to get one more thing off my list done .. well yea thanksto all the mothers that answered it helped

Janna - posted on 11/27/2009

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feeding time is bonding time. look your child in the eyes and let them know that they're worth it. trust me i know time is precious, i have a 20 month and a 3 month, but nothing can ever replace the intimate bond created during feeding. this will make a secure and happy little child. it is so worth the effort to let them know they can relax and feel secure knowing that you will provide that undivided attention to them when they are young and vulnerable as well as when they are older.

Linzi - posted on 11/26/2009

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sorry but its nothing but laziness there is nothing better than bonding with yr child and thats cuddling them whilst having their bottle or on breast as i did. Do it when they are ready and wanting to do it themselves but thats just my opinion but its each to their own

Suzette - posted on 11/26/2009

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I only prop at nap time or bedtime. other than that im a stay at home home so i have time to hold her bottle for her. you here alot of good or bad things about propiong of bottles. id say its a personal choice. good luck

Heather - posted on 11/25/2009

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I usually always try to hold the bottle for my son, if I'm unable to I first seek someone else if they are around to do it for me. My son is 2 yrs old with epilepsy and global development delay which in my case I still hold is bottle. I also find it's the time when him and I can have bonding time. If you got to prop the bottle up don't worry about it wont be the end of the world, and no one should give you grief about it. As moms we should stick together.

Mandy - posted on 11/25/2009

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3 of my 5 kids were on bottles, and I tried to never prop them. I felt like it was my time to bond with my baby. b/c I wasn't breast feeding, I tried to make this time a very special time just for us. I think it helps them to have eye contact and helps show them how much you do love them.

Lyn - posted on 11/25/2009

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not a good idea babies can end up with pneumoniafrom getting fluid in their lungs have seen it happen

Melissa - posted on 11/24/2009

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One of the reasons they say breastfeeding is best is because of the contact with the mother. So I disagree with prop. the bottle. Bond with ur baby I get all my chores done and hold my son every feeding. He could hold it on his own at 6 months but I still hold him. We are off the bottle now so he does everything.

Katherine - posted on 11/24/2009

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Quoting ashley :

i dont think its good to prop bottles maybe if your sitting right there but babies an toddlers still have issues sometimes when they drink an they could start choking an you would never no till its to late



i think its okay ...if your sitting right beside the baby and have the bottle propped then you are being lazy..i have a 2 year old and a 8 month old things have to get done in my house and if proppin the bottle keeps her happy and im able to move around and get things done then by all means i will do it...usually i will carry her from room to room (whereever i am) just to keep an eye on her and make sure shes okay but babies arent stupid and everytime valeria is done with the bottle she moves her head or i take it away from her so i think its okay to prop the bottle ...if you notice that he cant handle it then dont do it but any baby i know has never had an issue with a propped bottle



 



dont feel guilty if you do it



i think millions of mothers do .....................its really not the end of the world if you do



 



hope this helped



best wishes

Sharon - posted on 11/24/2009

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I was a bottle propper for both babies. When they are a few months old, not newborn.

Samantha - posted on 11/23/2009

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i dont think its lazy i just know that if you prop the bottle and if the baby gets too much milk in his mouth he could choke and with his bottle being propped he wont be ablr to spit it out and it could seriously harm him! i know how you feel when you say play with your other child and do all the motherly things that we have to do i have a 2 year old...now my 5 month old holds her own bottle so i just watch her carefully but before when she couldnt hold her own bottle i would never prop it up...not olny the choking thing but like you said your child could get major ear infections from the milk in his ear and moms know that those are hetic especially since you have more than one!

Jennifer - posted on 11/23/2009

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for my first i never did because i had nothing else to do but tend to him...but then i had twins only 20 months later...you do what you have to do...feeding twins is tough enough but when they want it at the same time thats even harder...i only did it for a few feedings...they also knew how to hold their bottles by 5 months because of it...you do what you are comfortable doing and what works for you...

Ashley - posted on 11/23/2009

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I think it should be fine as long as you are close by to make sure he doesnt choke or anything! hope this helps!

Rebecca - posted on 11/23/2009

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The only thing i have an issue with is choking. It is a hazard. I read to my son while i feed my daughter and she also gets to hear the book:) My son understands when i need to feed her and he does his won thing sometimes too. He is always included though,he'll bring me a blanket or a bib or a book. He loves feeling included and i love being able to hold her while she is being fed because in no time she will be holding it on her own and trying to crawl so i figure while i can i might as well hold her. She already tried to hold it and get a way from me so it wont be much longer. As far as cleaning, i throw in a load of laundry while we have play time and while my son gets his snamcs for the day i do my dishes. Or while he is still eating breakfast or lunch i get them done. He can be a slow eater and i eat with him until i am done and then do my things. We talk while i'm doing things too so he knows we are still in the same area. I'm sure whatever you find works for you is fine but how old is your baby? I would suggest maybe waiting until the baby can at least hold the bottle on their own before leaving them alone to eat and if you feel you have to get cleaning done bring the baby in the same room as you in a bouncy chair. My dughter is either playing on the floor with her brother bringing her toys as she is only 4 months and when i go back every few minutes the pile gets bigger adn bigger. How old are your other children? Maybe they could help feed?
Good luck

Krystal - posted on 11/23/2009

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i never did prop brady's bottle. i felt better if i just sat there and gave it to him myself. i was always worried that he may choke and not be able to get it out of his mouth. so i just never did that. once he started holding his own bottle and able to move it in and out of his mouth i didnt care to walk out of the room while he was taking his bottle....

but to each his own! :)

Heather - posted on 11/23/2009

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I had twins and they were my first kids. I had no choice but to prop the bottle for at least one of them during feedings as they ate at the same time most of the time. When I was only having to feed one I would hold them, but you can't always do that and mine never got ear infections or had any problems. Just be sure to switch sides every other time you prop the bottle so the head doesn't get flat on one side...my pediatrician recommended that so propping must not be that bad!

Melanie - posted on 11/23/2009

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I think it is lazy I had 2 other children to care for when i had my daughter. I got my house work done while she was asleep and when it got time to do home work we did it while i was holding her . you have to make time to feed and bond with your baby . it could cause the baby to choke . i feed her the whole 12 months till i put her on the sippy cup's . please hold and feed your baby make time who cares if the dish's sit a little longer are your other child has to wait to play with you ..good luck

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As long as the baby doesn't get to much air from not being latched onto the bottle very well. You will know if the baby has painfull gas a crys alot....then yoy have to treat the gas.

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It is lazy and dangerous. It's a high choking hazard and baby doesn't get to bond with mother while feeding. You should never prop bottles. Part of motherhood is making time to feed your baby.

Deborah - posted on 11/23/2009

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NEvER only in an emergency your baby needs that warmth from you and who ever else is involved Good Luck, Deborah 50 raised 4 kids

Candice - posted on 11/23/2009

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I had a boppy, after I was done using it for breastfeeding(I only did that for a a few weeks) I turned it around and used it as a little backrest/chair for my son. I usually only propped the bottle when he was sitting up in that as opposed to more a more laid down position. I asked the doctor about propping the bottle and he said the main disadvantage is that it can lead to more gassiness. Just do what you feel is right for your child.

User - posted on 11/22/2009

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I do it if my daughter is really hungry & I have something on the stove or I have to use the bathroom. But she's almost gotten to the point where she can hold her bottle herself now.
If you are doing it because you don't want to hold your baby or the bottle then yeah that's lazy. But if you need to get something done really quick, I think it's ok.

Carolee - posted on 11/22/2009

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When my son could mostly hold the bottle by himself, I would help him by propping the bottle while he held it (he was sitting up, or at least propped into a sitting position on the couch). It's not lazy, it's how you get stuff done!

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I breastfed but I would pump on occasion (or put water with a small amount of juice in her bottle). I propped the bottle in her bouncy chair starting at about 4 months just to have time to cook supper. It did encourage her to be more independent and hold the bottle herself. On the other hand, I babysit a child whose bottle was never propped and she never held her own bottle until she was on a sippy cup at a year. I don't have a problem with it as long as it is supervised.

Tarsha - posted on 11/22/2009

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i was 17yrs old when i had my first..i breastfeed 4 a while then started bottlefeeding...the people that were living with us had a son 6months b4 us and i didnt know any better and they were propping bottles up so i thought it was normal..my son is 6 yrs old now and i feel so guilty for not holding him close to me while i fed him..i bonded with him quite well but i think back and i wish i held my baby boy....good luck

Sarah - posted on 11/22/2009

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To me I know that it is hard to get everything done that needs to get done, but you look at priorities. Is getting the dishes done or the house cleaned more important than taking the time to feed your child and enjoy the time with them? The feeding times are the best times to bond. The less time you spend with your child now often times turns into the less time they want to spend with you as they become older. It is also not healthy for the child to have the bottle propped. It can create bottle rot on their teeth (you see this often times on those that come from orphanages) and also as you stated can increase ear infections. I would suggest planning around the feeding times. Do what you can when it is not feeding times. During the feeding times focus on your children. I often times found feeding times as best times to read to my older child. He would enjoy sitting by me listening to me read him the books he picked out to read. He would also help out feeding his sister by holding the bottle when I would turn the page. I think kids grow so fast and we as parents have such a short time with them before their friends and others become more important than we do. Take advantage of the time now then hopefully they will come to you later when there are bigger things that can influence who they become. What you do today affects what happens tomorrow.

Christy - posted on 11/22/2009

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I did it with my now 2 yr old son in his bouncy chair. I think I did it too much though and didn't bond with him very well. I think it is OK to do so, but not too much. My youngest is totally attached to me, I rarely propped her bottle. Maybe I am reading too much into my situation but that's how I feel.

Julia - posted on 11/22/2009

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i proped the bottles with my first and he was able to hold it by himself at 5 months, i didnt with my second and he just started at 8 months i didnt have the same space as with my first so i couldnt really i had to teach him differently.

Brandi - posted on 11/22/2009

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I don't like the idea of propping the bottle up either. With my first baby I, too held her EVERY feeding. My son came and I help him mostly every feeding. but I confess, there were times when I didn't have a choice but to prop it up. At the amusement park, my daughter was like crying to get on stuff and we were all trying to walk to get there, and believe me stopping to feed the baby was NOT gonna fly with anyone in the group, so I did roll a blanket and prop a bottle. I felt AWFUL. At home, though, the dishes could wait, the laundry could wait. I would get to it when I got to it. My baby deserved to be treated as closely to my first one as possible. As he,got older, however, he didn't want to be held for his bottle anymore, so when he learned to hold it himself, I would set him in his bouncy with his ba ba and he could just go to town.

Brandy - posted on 11/22/2009

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I don't agree with it. I breastfed so I held my baby for every feeding, then when she weaned at 9 months, I continued to hold her for feeding whether I was holding the bottle or she was. Until she was about 15 months and started taking her bottles and falling asleep by herself in her crib. I just think that bonding during feeding is important, especially if you choose to bottle feed because you don't get the extra bonding that breastfeeding gives. I don't mean to insult anyone, it's just how I feel about it.

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The recommendation is to not prop your baby's bottle. It does carry some risk of choking, but holding your baby while you feed promotes healthy bonding and attachment. I always held my son when I fed him, just like I would have if I'd been able to nurse him. He still held his own bottle, used a cup, and was completely bottle free around his first birthday. Even when he held his own bottle, I would usually hold him during bottle time. That said, if it works for you, it's your choice whether or not to prop the bottle so you can get things done.

Caryn - posted on 11/22/2009

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I don't agree with it at all. My kids bottles were never propped for any reason. I understand being busy but the dishes can wait 10more minutes, they will still be there. Your child is only a baby once, take advantage of that now.

I can't tell you how many dr appts I was late to with my son (he was sick as an infant so we had quite a few dr appts) because I would pump then feed him (unfortunately I was unable to bfeed) BEFORE we left versus propping the bottle in the car. My dr understood this and I never had a problem. They would rather you be a bit late and have a healthy baby than to be on time with a baby that was choking on their bottle.

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i dont think its good to prop bottles maybe if your sitting right there but babies an toddlers still have issues sometimes when they drink an they could start choking an you would never no till its to late

Jade - posted on 11/22/2009

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i use to prop the bottle up when my duaghter was 3 months only when i had to do housework or we were out ect or i would hold it but i dont think its lazy its just easier for me to get on with things. i dont think any harm would come to the baby but keep checking never leave him unattended and he may choke ect but if u keep an eye on him i cant see why you cant do it now n again to get stuff done

Chelle - posted on 11/22/2009

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my sister proped it up with both her kids. she said it encoraged them to hold there own bottle sooner. ive herd some mums say that the baby could choke if it is proped and they dont want any more milk....i dont see how this could happen because the baby would just move its head when its done and the bottle would come out the mouth.



my daughter is 6 and a half months and ive just started doing it (only once a day normaly) thats because i want her to learn to feed herself and use a sippy cup soon. i like to have her on my lap and feed her myself because its good for bonding but shes getting to the age where she can start to learn to bottle feed herself.



i dont agree with feeding young babies by proping the bottle. but i dont think its bad once they get to about 3-4 months because they can just pull it out when they have had enough.



i know someone that had to hold there babys bottle untill he was one and a half !! thats just the child being lazy! im tryin to get my daughter to hold it now so i dont have to deal with a kid like that lol

Jamie - posted on 11/22/2009

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he will only get an ear infection if he is laying completly on his back, as long as he is proped up at a 45 degree angle, and your in site of him in case he chokes or something, then I dont see any problem with it, I personally wouldnt do it for the choking hazard, but everyones different. I dont think its lazy, your just a busy mommy.

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