how do u do it all in one day

Tristan - posted on 03/28/2011 ( 55 moms have responded )

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I have only been a stay at home mom for a short time now and i am still not getting it all done my husband only asks that the house looks okay when he gets home but i find it never works out that way it really upsets me i try to make the kids stay in one room but it doesnt always happen and it frustrates me i was just looking for some advice as to maybe some ways you do it or some better organization skills i could use

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Tara - posted on 03/28/2011

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I don't think anyone can get it all done in one day unless they are secretly Superwoman in disguise, or they lock their kids in a room and clean.
What I do is once a week I have my husband watch both girls (3 and 18 months respectively) and do a full cleanup of the house. Then all I have to do during the week is keep it picked up and clean up any surprise messes. I've done that since my oldest was born and it works well for us. Also, now that our girls are older, I try to get them involved in the chores with the basic idea that "If we make a mess we clean it up" so the girls know that they are supposed to help pick up things like toys they have left out, etc. Also, since I started with a basically clean house, the "once a week" total clean takes very little time because there is very little to really do.
From your profile it looks like some of your kids are old enough to start helping, even if it's just by picking up a couple of their toys and putting them in a designated spot. I found that because I started early with both my girls, whenever I start cleaning they want to help, so I just give them a damp cloth and they "wash" various things like the coffee table, or a chair, or themselves :) They also like watching me sweep/mop so they just hover around and move away from the dirt when I ask. They've also made a game of "Running away" from the vacuum when I do the carpets, so they generally aren't in the road. For me, the more I made it into a "game" they could be involved in, the more I got done. When they were really little all I had to do was put them in the playpen but that doesn't really work with older kids.
With things like meals, they are allowed to watch at the baby gate that blocks off the kitchen in our apartment and they are happy to "help" me by giving me advice when I cook. As for dishes, I usually get them done either before the girls get up, or after they have gone to bed unless they are really involved in playing and then I usually have time to get them done while they are up. Also, if my husband is home for the day, or up before work (he works straight graveyards and sleeps during the day) then he'll watch them for a couple of minutes so I can get something done quickly.

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Actually I can get it done all in one day as well as homeschooling 3 kids and I am not superwoman. It is all about time management, multitasking, and making sure your kids can/do pick up after themselves.

My kids put away their laundry when I am done sorting and folding it. They help me with emptying the dishwasher. (not really a help all the time but they like it) The also pick up after themselves. I know a repeat but I see SO MANY parents out there that go behind their kids and do it for them. Teach them to pick up after themselves from age 1 and you won't have a problem later down the road. You will actually have little helpers. I don't dust anything but the ceiling fans and upper walls/ceilings. No need. When I dust the high stuff I have at least 2 or 3 helpers that will dust & clean everything else. They also love to help clean the baseboards, recycles, cook, make beds, vacuum, and so on. Even with my kids helping the housework does go faster. My kids are 7, 4, & 3. All help and all do a pretty good job. They do make it where I have fun doing housework and it does go by faster. However, keep in mind that this doesn't happen overnight. I have worked hard to teach my kids self respect and respect for everything/everyone around them. Remember we are raising kids to become adults. If we do everything for them then how can they have those good habits as adults?

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2011

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HA! It never gets done in one day..not when you have to stop constantly to get someone something..break up a disagreement...bring someone to the potty..wipe a bum and that doesn't even include getting everyone dressed and decent looking or meal snack meal snack meal ..oh and drink here and there.



Don't be so hard on yourself. House work will ALWAYS be available..but your children are going to grow up and you don't want to miss it because the laundry had to be done on time.

Ashley - posted on 04/02/2011

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I am a SAHM of three kids (although 2 are in school). I have made a list of the things I need to get done for each day of the week and hang it on my fridge. Mostly it is two or three things for each day, including the things I do everyday such as cleaning dishes. And I am not overwhelmed because it's only a few things to do each day. I try to get all more housework done by 4 before my kids get home from school. That way the evening is just for them. My husband is not hard on me when it doesn't get done and I am learning not to be too hard on myself.

Emily - posted on 04/01/2011

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I have a weekly (laminated) checklist that I can wipe clean at the beginning of the next week. That way, I can show myself that I DO something. You know, not everything is going to get done all of the time, but as long as YOU feel good about what you accomplish, that's what counts. I'm a fan of the flylady.net website that offers a lot of organizational ideas.

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Tracie - posted on 04/23/2012

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Getting it all done every day? Can't be done. Give your husband a day or two at home and he will see. Kids are messy! I always say that cleaning the house with young kids is like shoveling the driveway during a blizzard. Don't set yourself up with unrealistic expectations. It'll only make you nuts!

Rose - posted on 04/04/2011

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you could try our tricks if you have a baby like us.. we put our son in a baby sling or carrier and clean while holding him if he wants held, if he doesn't want held we put him in his carseat or stroller and jus move it to the room we're in. that way he can watch us or be held while we're doing housework. And we also put some country music on the cd player to help him stay calm and go to sleep.

Danielle - posted on 04/04/2011

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:) First of all RELAX! If you have a kid thats mobile its almost IMPOSSIBLE to clean everything in one day. Heres what I did, And I hope it helps for you.
First. Take the next day your hubby has off from work and ask him to watch the kids, and give your house a good cleaning. Even down to folding all that laundry. Then, make a chart. One day to three rooms, the next day to another three, Do laundry on Wednesdays, and keep the clutter picked up. You have kids your house is never going to be perfect, and nobody expects it to be. Its all about balance. Dont stress yourself out, and dont be one of those moms who stays up half the night to clean because Mommy needs her rest too! Eventually you will get into the swing of things when you have a routine that works for you down pat and it wont seem like a big deal! Twice a month on his day off just go through and do a good cleaning to get the things you couldnt do when the kids are being little rascalls! My own personal pet peeve is that I have white marble tile floors and they get dirty so quick. If I take time to clean them EVERY day, nothing else gets done. :) Good luck! And remember not to stress about it. As long as your kids are taken care of a little clutter never killed anyone. And a SAHM's job is the HARDEST job out there!

Katie - posted on 04/04/2011

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The simple answer for me is that it doesn't always get done. I have a one year old and a five year old. Inbetween the school rund there are meals to make and a one year old to entertain. One point i can agree with from the time mamagement mum is that you can get your kids to help. My 5 year old will always go out of his way to help me out if i ask or play with his brother while i do the dinner. The time i find i get the most chores done is at nap time. This is where i "clean" I throw the beds together very quickly once everyone is up. I do however leave the tidying up until 10 minutes before my husband is due back home. I like the house to be tidy when he gets home - but its not always done and i just catch up once the kids are in bed. Don't put too much pressure in your self. Doing this as and when they need doing is what i find best. Clean the dishes after lunch rather than leaving them till later while your little one finishes his lunch.. little things like this make the day go much quicker. Hope this helps and if the house isnt done by the time your husband gets home he can help you do it. His job might be finished at 5.30 but yours isn't till everythings done. So a bit of overtime on his behalf wouldnt go a miss x

Emily - posted on 04/03/2011

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One thing to think about is that if you've just recently started staying at home, the mess may be more than you're used to just because you're AT home more. Does that make sense? Instead of 1 meal a day at home you've got, oh, 5 (snacks!), and so many more toys to put away, etc. So put it into perspective, and give yourself the credit you're due for the hard work you're doing! You'll find a groove.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/03/2011

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I agree with Ashley completely. I commend you on your perfecting time management at your house Deanna. You are a minority and I am sure it isn't just in this forum..probably with moms everywhere. I don't run a boot camp so things at my home aren't perfect..unexpected things come up and the routine has to change for it. Also, Many of us have children younger than your own..if it doesn't get done today..it will get done another day.

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Deanna, teaching your kids to pick up and help with chores is great and it's something that everybody can do! But being good at time management and multitasking are personal strengths that not everybody has. You should count yourself very blessed because it is true that not everybody can "learn" how to prioritize their time efficiently.

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I struggle with the same things! Husband works hard all day, and it sure would be nice to have things a little decent when he gets home. I'm learning to be a better housekeeper, but it's really tough! I recently saw a post on the 5 Minute Mom's club. http://www.fiveminutemomsclub.com/2011/0... Doing one major chore (clean the floors, the kitchen, the bathrooms) the same day each week. Save things like cleaning the ceiling fan for a Saturday project. She also recommended three things first thing in the morning: unload the dishwasher/do the dishes, a load of laundry, and make your bed. My grandmother always "puts her house to bed" and I am learning how very nice it is to wake up to a somewhat clean kitchen/living area. Check out the link, it really put things in perspective for me.

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I don't do it all in one day!! yikes that would be a lot to do! my family (2 kids and husband and I) pick up before the kids bed time together that way the house is at least neat looking for the next day. other things I do when the kids nap.

Natasha - posted on 04/02/2011

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i think you should plan your days better rountine wise and get all the house work done when lil1 is having a nap,if you need a bath i used to put my lil girl in her bouncer in the bathroom with me etc..

Natasha - posted on 04/02/2011

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i think you should plan your days better rountine wise and get all the house work done when lil1 is having a nap,if you need a bath i used to put my lil girl in her bouncer in the bathroom with me etc..

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2011

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PS: Don't forget to take, one day a week, MOMMY"S DAY OFF....it's the day the kids go to Grandma and Grandpa's, and Daddy takes you out to supper!

Elizabeth - posted on 04/02/2011

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Youngen, it's time to give the babies chores, ...they are never too young. When my son was 2, he liked to help dust. I allowed only the toys he could fit in his little wagon to be brought to the living room. when he was done, he was required to pick them up...for this, he recieved one Ninja Turtle a week, I had a clean house. I worked around his nap schedule...the house was clean and cooking and laundry was done...worked like a charm!

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how old are your kids, my 2 year old has to help pack away his toys before rest time, and in the evening before dinner. i try to wash the dishes while he is having a nap, and i tend to do the laundry at night after he is asleep. then house might not be perfect but it's tidy, and when i need to vacume or clean the kitchen or toilet i do it in nap time for my son. if i can't get it done it doesn't. sometimes other things (even just being really tired and needing a break) can get in the way of your best laid plans. it'll never be perfect (atleast in my house) and i can't be bothered to stress about that.

Allie - posted on 04/01/2011

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It wont ever get ALL done, there will always be something else that needs to be done. My husband realizes that and doesn't "expect" anything..... he's just happy if I'm not about to pull my hair out when he gets home and always loves it when there is dinner made : )

Alex - posted on 04/01/2011

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i never ever get it all done it one day. as kids get older, they just have more stuff to spread around. i clean one room, and by the time i finish another, the first room is a mess again. my husband understands this and he does not get on my case about it. i do everything i can that is humanly possible but nothing ever gets done in one day. i try to keep to a schedule. bedrooms on monday, living room on tuesday, bathrooms on wed and fri. you get the point. but again, that doesn't always happen. life with kids is never on a schedule. try to explain to your husband that you are doing everything you can but you don't want to spend your entire day cleaning! part of you being a stay at home mom is spending time with your children while they are young and having fun with them! how can you do that if you are cleaning all the time? best of luck to you!

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I have yet to meet a woman who can do it all in one day!! I tackle a room per day...but I make sure the kitchen and living room are semi clean in case someone drops by. My husband is not picky and could care less, as long as I take care of our kid. She comes first above any chore. I clean ONLY ONCE A day. And that is every night after 7:30 after I've put the baby to sleep. The only thing I keep up with, is the dishes. But whatever mess is made during the day, it gets done at night. I wake up to clean house every morning. I'd go crazy if I kept cleaning up after my toddler every hour. My husband knows this, so he's cool.

Kristina - posted on 04/01/2011

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I would ask Grandma or Auntie/Uncle to help with the kids. Ask if they can take them for an hour so you can get it done. I know it feels my husband used to say the same thing about just wanting the house done. Then hed come home and it would be a mess still and I would feel bad. It didnt help he said I was lazy which wasnt the case at all just its hard with kids. Or do it during nap time or lunch when they are occupied!

Jane - posted on 03/31/2011

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your husband should stay home for a week and then you should revisit this issue. he should also go into any grocery store and ask 5 other moms what he expects of you. if they don't all laugh him out of the store, he has a leg to stand on.

Rosemarie - posted on 03/31/2011

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some people just work while having their kids on their hips some get things done when children are taking a nap

Donna - posted on 03/31/2011

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If you get your underwear on the right side of your jeans in the morning, then you have won
The housework will always be there tomorrow, and your little ones will grow up. Your OH will understand

Ruth - posted on 03/31/2011

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In short, I don't get it all done every day. I have a routine of what housework I get done each day, and when I finish what's in my routine (and anything that unexpectedly needs to be done), I'm done. MWF, I wash dishes (we have no dishwasher, and I hate washing dishes by hand, so I like to put it off). Tuesday and Wednesday are usually laundry, weather allowing. Thursday I fold the laundry while watching TV while my daughter naps. Tuesday and Friday I sweep the house and vacuum the area rugs, and I try and mop the kitchen every other week.

If you husband asks that the house looks "OK," then it doesn't have to be magazine-perfect. My definition of ok usually involves not tripping over any toys upon walking in the door, and having a mostly clear couch. I like having a cleaner house, but I'm generally too lazy to do it.

Ruth - posted on 03/31/2011

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In short, I don't get it all done every day. I have a routine of what housework I get done each day, and when I finish what's in my routine (and anything that unexpectedly needs to be done), I'm done. MWF, I wash dishes (we have no dishwasher, and I hate washing dishes by hand, so I like to put it off). Tuesday and Wednesday are usually laundry, weather allowing. Thursday I fold the laundry while watching TV while my daughter naps. Tuesday and Friday I sweep the house and vacuum the area rugs, and I try and mop the kitchen every other week.

If you husband asks that the house looks "OK," then it doesn't have to be magazine-perfect. My definition of ok usually involves not tripping over any toys upon walking in the door, and having a mostly clear couch. I like having a cleaner house, but I'm generally too lazy to do it.

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When my husband and I first got together, we had 4 kids all together... (my sister kept the oldest for awhile...) So only 3 kids... I have been a SAHM since 2005. It was really easy with just the 3 kids (2 1/2, 1 1/2, and 1). I was already teaching the 2 1/2 yr old how to pick up some toys when he was done playing, put his sippy cup on the table, not floor, etc.
By the time the "Step-Twins" were 2, I was teaching them the same thing - pick up toys, put your cup up.
When my oldest came back, he was the example with cleaning up toys bc he'd known for 4 years to pick up!
Once we got custody of my husband's daughter (22 mo old) and I had our daughter (within a 2 month span of time...) the oldest was learning how to start the washer and dryer and wash a small load of dishes (he was 7). The 5yo and "step-twins" (4), were learning to sort clothes based on color categories, keep the bathroom floor picked up, and put clothes away. Now, they all know how to do laundry, the "step-twins" are learning to do dishes (as is nearly 5 yo step-daughter), and the 2 1/2 yr old is learning to pick up toys... The youngest also helps wash dishes when I'm not looking (she is the pickiest washer out of the 5 older kids too!), take clothes out of the dryer, sweeps the floor for her sisters..., She knows when it is chore time, and she pitches in at times!
Find simple chore charts to print out, start with simple chores like pick up toys, put clothes in hamper, take dishes to sink after meals, and easy things like this. It is how we got started!
I forgot to even think of mentioning the farm chores too! But, that is twice a day and takes at LEAST an hour to get it all done! I clean the house on the weekends when farm work is more prominent over kids' house chores! And, trust me, my kids know how to do it all! Picking up, sweeping, mopping, vacuuming, dishes, laundry...

Melissa - posted on 03/31/2011

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if my husband asked for ANYTHING when he got home I'd tear him a new ahole. Don't try to get it all done in one day. Concentrate on being a Mom first. A little dust never hurt anyone. Make sure you are still valued as a person and a mother by your husband and society and don't lose track of who you are because you are at home with a baby. Moms are the most important job in the world.

Melanie - posted on 03/31/2011

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Do what you can. Don't rush because you have time. Like me, I work and then go home to cook, clean, and give baths. Take it easy. what you don't get done today can wait until tomorrow. I make a list of things I need to do. I am weird that way. Enjoy the time with you baby.

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2011

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I clean/tidy the rooms the rooms they don't typically play in, like the bedrooms, i make all the beds & clean up the kitchen. The living room is where they play so that gets tidyied up after they go to bed. But i find that if the downstairs is a hurricane zone, if i see a neat kitchen & tidy upstairs it gives me some mental relief by knowing my house is not a total disaster area! LOL! I also do my weekly cleaning in small bits, i change all the beds 1 day, the next day i clean upstairs & vaccuum / dust downstairs, 2 days later the downstairs is a mess again so i give it thorough cleaning. I actually made a chart of what to clean when & it helps me stay organized.

Jonquil - posted on 03/31/2011

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I just clean and pick up as I go so when it's time to clean there's not that much to clean.

Laura - posted on 03/30/2011

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What Katherine said. Hubby never 'expects' anything from me. I wish I could organize better though; I'm a slacker, I admit it. lol

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I have a swifer and sanitizing wipes on each floor and in each bathroom. I recently bought a dust buster too. I give a good cleaning on mondays then touch ups everyday. I also tell my son if you don't me to step on things and break them when I clean your room it needs to be off the floor. I also keep the hamper open so he can throw his clothes in. I don't set my expectations very high anymore. My house was prestine everyday but for what no one came over and I stressed myself out. Not worth it if it gets done it gets done. If your husband is worried only do where he can see ;)

Ambyr - posted on 03/30/2011

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I have a small apartment so its easy for me to have everythng done everyday. I just start with making the beds and then I go from there. I vacuum, do dishes, sweep, clean up toys constantly, ect. The only thing I dont do everyday is laundry. I find it makes my day go by quicker to always be cleaning.Don;t get me wrong I spend alot of quality time with my kids but like I said my place is small so its easy for me. I don't think its anything to worry about though if you don't get it all done. A stay at home mom is a job in its self let alone working on the house too.

Kelli-AdventurezInChildRearing - posted on 03/29/2011

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i have several toy baskets around to throw toys in & i do a run through befoe anyone shows up! you can't do it all- enjoy those babies & try to "attack" one part of the house a day- mondays - run through & clean bathrooms tues- spend extra clean time in the kitchen wed. - vacuum thurs. dust - you get the idea! 1 or 2 loads of laundry a day help keep it from piling up!

Marci - posted on 03/29/2011

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I second the list idea. I tried to make a schedule of what to do when and what day. HA! I'm not good with schedules, but I love the feeling of accomplishment and checking something off when it's done feels great! I make a list when I have errands to run, where to go first and so on to make my route flow easy. I just decided that I needed to make a list of things that needed to get done at home. I made it on a dry erase board in my kitchen and made it for two weeks. I put the most important stuff at top like dishes, clean bathroom, laundry, dusting and so on to the stuff at the bottom like water the plants and pick up dog poop. If I notice that there is no check for that chore in a few days it probably needs to be done ... badly. Dishes and laundry there is usually a check every other or few days. Dusting and watering the plants only get a check about once a week. When I get to the end of the second week I go over every thing that has not been done in the last few days (usually there's not much more to do than any other day if I keep an eye on the list) and do it then before I erase it all and start a new two weeks. I started this about a month and a half ago and you would be surprised that the counter is only disguised by dishes every once in a while now instead of almost every day! Also, if you haven't been at it (sahm) very long than your lil one must be pretty little. Don't sweat the small stuff. You will never feel done with your chores .... ever again! lol No, it's really hard when they are little. If they are big enough to help, by all means let them! It will teach them that things need to get done (responsibly) and it will keep them busy and happy. My daughter LOVES throwing the clothes in the dryer and she totally gets a kick out of her own dust rag. (of course I have to go over it, but then it's already half dusted!) :)

Maggie - posted on 03/29/2011

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oh also, how old are your kids? By age two they are ready for a few small chores like putting dirty clothes in the hamper, making their bed, picking up their toys. They still need supervision and lots of praise at that age but little kids LOVE to help. My two year old puts away his clean clothes, dusts the living room and makes his bed. My four year old vacuums, puts away clothes, makes his bed, and helps load the dishwasher. They don't get allowance for it - they just know that if we use teamwork then there is more time to play.

Maggie - posted on 03/29/2011

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You will never get it done all in one day. I usually focus on one room every day - really get it looking nice - then another one the next day. If you keep the little things picked up in between then it's easier. I made a calendar that shows which day I do which chores so I never lose track. I also made a list of what needs to be done in that room and laminated it so when I finish a job I can mark it off the list. I really like marking things off the list. It makes me feel like I've accomplished something!
Simple things like when you brush your teeth go ahead and wipe out the sink, when you eat go ahead and either wash the dishes or put them in the dishwasher (out of sight), when you take off clothes put them away, either in the dresser/closet or the dirty clothes hamper.

Sal - posted on 03/29/2011

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throw the notion that you ever get it all done on the one day out the window....i might happen, celebrate these day and accept that they will be few and far between, i have been know to take a photo of my clean house and send to hubby just so he sees it, because it won;t be like it when he gets home,
but i have found that habbit forming is better for me than a job routine, i make the bed when i go for a shower, i clean the girls room when playschool is on, then send them to play in their room while i clean the lounge, i put a load of washing on when i go to the loo in the morning, (laundry is right outside my toilet), i turn on the dish washer when ever i leave the house or before bed, unpac the dishwasher when i am waiting for the kettle to make my morning coffee, fold the washing when the little ones are in the bath, tidy the lounges and cussion before i go to bed, i have found a habbit is harder to break than a routine...

Stifler's - posted on 03/28/2011

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It depends what time your husband gets home. Mine gets home at dinner time so I have the toys all packed away in Logan's room and the recycling in the recycling bin instead of strewn around the house (Logan loves playing with empty bottles and boxes). If he gets home earlier in the afternoon of course the house isn't going to be picked up, the kids are still playing!! You can't do it all in one day. I do linen change, bathroom and toilet, extra washing and vacuuming and windows/doors on Monday and anything else that gets missed randomly through the week. I try to confine the bulk of the toys to Logan's room or the loungeroom and no one really cares when they come over, least of all my husband.

Jane - posted on 03/28/2011

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I am a working mom with two kids . actually it is really hard on my part to get all things done with out the help of my kids. So i always talk to my eldest to be responsible and to teach his brother to do work on small things to help mama , so daddy will not feel tired and we can still play. Kids love to play with their parents so give them reasons to help and try to explain to them (parents)

Chairettie - posted on 03/28/2011

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Set a schedule for cleaning - Monday do bathrooms, Wednesday is kitchen...and so forth that way you don't have to try and get it all done everyday and you don't have to keep the kids restricted to one room. You can only do so much and some days your schedule will not go as planned - try not to fret over it be flexible with yourself or you will drive yourself nuts - what is important is that you are all happy...not a spotless house!

Medic - posted on 03/28/2011

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I can't believe it is EXPECTED of you tell him to kiss your ass! I don't get everything done and what doesn't get done hubby helps with. My 4 year old cleans the whole playroom and his and his sisters room. He helps vacuum and whatnot. I clean while my youngest is asleep or in the playroom. I absolutely don't do everything in a day I only do one big thing a day and just straighten up.

Dionne - posted on 03/28/2011

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I have been a work from home mom (I do bookkeeping for lousy spouse's business, homeschooled older two kids for 7years, and currently I am still doing the bookkeeping and have the 3 kids with genetic disorder at home and 1 moved out). My mother in law had spent so much time on her clean house that her 4 children were not really parented, the house was more important! I try to find a happy medium.
I went to an organizational community ed presentation one of the last years I homeschooled the older kids. It helped with ideas on how to declutter the home. That is one suggestion. Another that I did with the older two kids is purchased clear or see threw colored totes various sizes and all the toys had a container. A bookshelf for the containers and a toy box for bigger toys. Rotate out the toys I go seasonally, out door toys versus toys that do not go outside. Books, dolls, etc... When kids are done playing with the toys they pick them up immediatly and put away. Granted this does NOT happen all the time but I try to get them to do it mostly. Dishes I only started this recently but is working really well, this idea came from my 19yr old who moved out when she was 18. If you do not have time to wash the dishes immediatly, rinse them or put them in water so the food does not dry on the dishes. Put silverware in a glass of water. As far as the laundry, I wash a load when ever there is one ready so I can try to stay caught up on it. Sometimes the loads are small but that is what the water level adjustment is for on the washer. This works if you have your own washer and drier if you go to laundry mat, I sort ahead of time so I line up my baskets in front of each washer and make an assembly line, put clothes in washer set temp, and the other buttons, once done with that I count out coins for each washer, then start over with insert coins and push start, they all get done within minutes and I do the same with the driers. Fold as they get done so if there are some that are stilll wet I throw into the ones still going or I put into one that is recently finished so the heat can start drying them that way I am left with only one dryer with the left over wet stuff. Find a home for everything, recycle what you can. Take inventory of your groceries so you do not buy more of what you already have. Clean as you walk threw the house. Example if I use restroom and the sink is dirty I clean it when washing my hands, if floor needs sweeping sweep it. I also have in the past made a list of what I want to attempt to get done in a day but it made me upset when I did not accomplish what was on the list. I may have had several interruptions or some item took longer then expected so what I started doing was writing down what I finished that day which helped me feel better. Now I clean as I walk threw the house. I inventory what is the worse part of house and tend to that. My life is in chaos with the louse of a spouse and the delayed kids so I do what I can as I can.
I do have to say that I think your spouse needs to try being at home and do what he expects you to have done with the kids being there and do it more than one time. Kids will have good days and bad days. So his taking over your job one time is not realistic if the kids are having a good day. What happens if they are sick nothing gets done and behind goes the house cleaning for example.
Men do not fully understand what we do even if written down. They have different expectations and different quality levels than women. YOu need to find what works for you and do the best you can. We all have good days and bad days. Have fun with figuring out your routine!! Try several different ways see what works for you. Don't forget the husband does not get it unless he is helping.

Katherine - posted on 03/28/2011

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Your husband EXPECTS the house to be clean? Maybe have him watch the kid(s) for a day and see how much he gets done. The housework can wait!
I mean I slacked after my second. I just couldn't do it all. There is nothing wrong with that. That's pretty awful that he puts those expectations on you. It must be really stressful. I would sit down with him and explain what you do all day, and why the house isn't clean.

Good Luck.

Jessica - posted on 03/28/2011

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I have your same problem!!! I have been a stay at home mom for 16 months now and I don't get much done lol! I have a hard time b/c when I do everything except dishes my son wants me right then. He does love to do the dishes so I try to let him help despite the mess he makes. I have realized that it is most important to spend time with your children, so try and let him/her help you. I did make a chore list and have just a couple things to do each day and that helps me...when I am not being lazy. A mother of 5 once told me too....if you set the timer for 15 minutes and clean during that time you get a lot done. Then rest or play and later do it again. You will get a lot done that way and still have time with your lil' one! Keep your head up though...you sound like you are doing a great job!!!

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Oh Sweet fellow mother! You don't do it all in one day! Hopefully in one lifetime! I know what you're asking though. Prioritize, write a to-do list the night before, or even each morning. Take care of the essentials and don't waste time on time wasters :)
(such as too much internet or phone) and be home a lot, being gone makes it hard to get things done
Bless you!
jennifer

Tristan - posted on 03/28/2011

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thnak you all for ur advice the kids do help somedays but somedays they wont i think i am just going to try and write a checklist everyday see if that helps and music is for sure it helps everyone want to clean and the laundry idea is good i always seem to leave it to that last min then its it ends up being a all day thing so thank you all again

Brandis - posted on 03/28/2011

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music!! when my son naps or watches a favorite tv show i put on my ipod and it helps me clean faster...it motivates me where i can move quickly from room to room vacuuming and dusting and still keeping an eye on him then usually the only thing i have to do right before the hubby walks in the door is put all the toys away...of course my hubby is gone 14 hours a day so i have plenty of time to do it

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i'm a stay at home mom with 3 kids 8,7& 18months and i will admitt i dont always get iit done ther has been night that i have to stay up to do the landry for school and work the next day it is hard and you can only do what is posible for you.Dont take it to hard i have been a stay at home mom from a year almos two and i still have troubbles!

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Have the kids help you do a quick tidy before daddy gets home. Make it fun and say "Daddy's gonna be home soon, lets hurry and clean up!" This works the best for me except now when I say lets clean they ask "who's coming?" LOL

Hey, he just ask that they house looks OK for when he gets home, right!



I have 8 kids and I understand how hard it can be to keep the house up. I don't know how you do things, but I do dishes and sweep after each meal. This keeps the kitchen neat and tidy (plus things don't pile up on you and get overwhelming). I also do a big tidy in the morning when we wake up (and after my morning coffee!!) After lunch when the little ones are napping and right before the hubby comes home. Choose one thing a day that NEEDS to get done, example wash floors, clean bathroom, dust, windows, and pretty soon the house is spotless! Hope this helps and good luck.

P.S. when doing laundry, fold and put away immediately. It really doesn't take more than a few minutes and this way it doesn't pile up. I NEVER have laundry laying around. (of course this is a pet peeve. LOL)

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