How do we get our 18 month old daughter to stop hitting?

Erin - posted on 09/06/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )




I need suggestions on how to get our 18 month old daughter to stop hitting. We have a very strict no hitting policy in our house and we are not sure where she picked it up at, but she hits all the time. When we tell her no, she hits more! We are at a loss. She doesn't understand timeout, she thinks it is a game. Help please!!!


Emma - posted on 09/06/2011




If my child hits me or others she had a dedicated naughty corner here at home. I put her there till she calms down enough to understand that hitting others is not on and we dont do that. Ever since ive brought in the naughty corner and reward chart she has been a lot better. Got to remember when a child hits its mostly out of anger or frustration and when you talk to them need to make it clear that its not the anger or frustration you disapprove of its her actions. Also get down to her level and talk. If she keeps leaving her timeout spot keep putting her back in it she will get the hint. Even if you are constantly putting her in the corner. Generally my rule is for every year of age is a minute so my daughter is 2yrs she gets 2mintues from the time she sits in the corner and doesnt leave. Not sure if this helps you at all.


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Katherine - posted on 09/07/2011




DO NOT say "No" it only makes it worse. Say nothing. Move her hands down and don't even look at her. Put her in time out for 18 seconds.

Erin - posted on 09/07/2011




Delilah understands time out just fine, she sits there with no issue until we let her out. We have also tried telling her no every time she hits and she just thinks that means hit more. When she hits we tell her NO, Ouch! and then pull her hand away from what she is hitting and as soon as we let go of her hand she is hitting again, harder and laughs. She thinks it is funny. We have tried time out for it for about a month now and it hasn't helped one bit. :(

Martine - posted on 09/07/2011




Don't be fooled. 18 month olds understand time out just fine. My son was 17 months when he started hitting (he is 18 months now). Whenever he did it, I said no, that hurts and would put him on the loveseat and go to a different area. He would cry and protest and eventually get down but he did learn that if he hits, he will be put away from the people and he likes that less than hitting.

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