how do you cope when your husband is working nights?

Alana - posted on 06/06/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )

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doesnt get in until 6am, and goes straight to bed until 1 or 2 in the afternoon.

how do youn get the kids up and ready for school wothout waking him? how do you get the houseworkr etc done without waking him? if you have toddlers etc, how do u keep them quiet?



my parnter is on his first night shift tonight. im scared stiff that my sons gona wake him up in the morning and he'l go mad! im also concerned about the house not being clean on a morning, i usualy like to get all the housework out of the way first thing. x



Another issue ive got with him working nights is that i suffer from anxiety. even when hes out during the day thats bad enough never mind a night. last night waas awful. i did not sleep a wink for worrying what if the house gets broken into, whhat if theres a fire, what if i die in my sleeep, what if something terrible happens.i had an upset stomach all night also. i didn't sleep unitl he got in at 6:30 thid morning and had to be up at 7:30 for the school run.

has any one got any tips on coping? helping me relax/sleep better? i really cant cope with feeling like this for a full week!

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Stifler's - posted on 06/06/2011

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he just has to get over it? life goes on even if he is sleeping at daytime. do the vacuuming etc. after he wakes up but you can't make a kid be quiet all morning. earplugs and aircon are good for blocking out noise though.

Karla - posted on 02/23/2013

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Omg I'm suffering too! I work 2 twelve hour shifts as a nurse on thurs and fri and have 4 small children 7, 5, 3, 16mo and hubby police officer working nights and I do feel resentful because he doesn't make much money AT All, there is hope that he will make more later. On wk ends I'm sooooooo tired and all 4 of them together is like herding cats!!!!!!! But I'm going to try the earplugs, sound tracks and taking them somewhere, and house work at night, thx everyone!!

Kimberly - posted on 06/07/2011

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i am in the same exact boat but see my kids young he doesnt walk he just started crawling, but he is already taught by aget 4 months mornings are quite time lol. i get the cleaning done and he crawls around plays with his toys for the entire morning. and at one when troy goes to work its play time make as much noise as possible lol. i do understand it is hard i am there with you lol. just trying to let you know your not alone. its one of those things where if your kid wakes him up oppologise and let him know it happens. there just kids, all you can do is have him help you clean if he is old enough and can walk, trust me if your husband is tired enough you can do your house work and get your kid ready for school withought him even knowing your up lol. hope this helps

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I agree with Loureen. He'll have to know that the house cannot be perfectly quiet.

My husband comes in around 7 am and generally stays up for about an hour or two with the family. After he goes to sleep, I keep my toddler busy with crafts or playing outside. Sometimes we run errands in the morning after he's in bed. By the time we get home it's the toddler's naptime. I use that time to get a head start on cleaning and supper. My toddler and husband wake up around the same time in the afternoons...between 4 and 5. After the kids are in bed I clean the kitchen and pick up clutter.

You're partner will just have to be flexible as you figure out how to manage your day. You'll get it eventually.

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Kimber - posted on 06/07/2011

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OOH Girl you need you some sleep that is for sure!!!! But i have to say that i totaly understand how you must be feeling about your man having to work at night. I think i would be the same way you are too! But what i would say to ya is just make sure you have all of the doors,and windows locked befor you go to bed. Make sure the stove is turned off,and then take you some sort of mild sleep aid,and try to get you some sleep. If this keeps up all week you are going to look,and feel like Shit,so try,and get you some sleep!!! Well good luck to ya Chick hope you find you something that will work for ya! Kim

Brittany - posted on 06/07/2011

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Yeah that part is probably the hardest part. //just try to remember you need sleep to run a home. Maybe have the dogs sleep with you as protection. Maybe have a friend lined up that if you woke up sick she could come over and help with the kids. I just watch netflix till i get tired, Works every time

Alana - posted on 06/06/2011

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Another issue ive got with him working nights is that i suffer from anxiety. even when hes out during the day thats bad enough never mind a night. last night waas awful. i did not sleep a wink for worrying what if the house gets broken into, whhat if theres a fire, what if i die in my sleeep, what if something terrible happens.i had an upset stomach all night also. i didn't sleep unitl he got in at 6:30 thid morning and had to be up at 7:30 for the school run.
has any one got any tips on coping? helping me relax/sleep better? i really cant cope with feeling like this for a full week!

Brittany - posted on 06/06/2011

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My husband works nights and has been working nights for about 5 months now. :( He's actually a pretty sound sleeper. I have a 5 month old and we have learned that we can pretty much do whatever we need to do and daddy is ok. Also give him a box fan to run that will cut down on the noise a lot! I wouldn't worry about house work all that much unless you see that it does wake him up or causes him to stir.

Christy - posted on 06/06/2011

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My husband used to work nights. I can relate. He has downloaded a sleep track on his ipod that is white noise. Depending on your personal preferences, there are other types of noise options on the sound track. If you have a smart phone, they're easy to buy from the app store.

Anyway, my husband puts in his ear buds and turns on his sleep sound track. It helps block the extra background noise and he doesn't notice if I'm in and out of the room a few times. He still uses it to nap with sometimes!

If that's not an option, buy a box of ear plugs!

Amanda - posted on 06/06/2011

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It's impossible to keep toddlers quiet, my 3 yr is getting better I can tell him daddy worked last night so we need to be quiet so he can sleep.
We then will go out for a few hours (gym, playgroup, park, shopping)

My hubby is gets home anywhere between 2 and 6am and usually up by 10am an will then have another sleep in the afternoon.

Invest in ear plugs and alot of patience and try and arrange to do an activity outside the house if possible.

Mary - posted on 06/06/2011

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I clean at night when the kid is in bed too. And theres not really anything you can do about the noice while hes sleeping. But you guys could use one of those radeo things that does background noices like the ocean or rain- ive heard those help a lot. I dont know what theyre called sorry. And i would recamend that he lock the door so they dont go in and wake him up lol! :)

Jane - posted on 06/06/2011

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We did this for awhile, my husband wore earplugs to bed. We didn't bother him at all. :-)

Charlie - posted on 06/06/2011

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Well he just has to know that there is going to be a little noise , I try my hardest to keep them away from our room but he has to be realistic . I also take the kids out to the park or for a walk .

As for cleaning I do that once the kids are in bed at night so that in the morning the house is fresh and clean .

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