How do you disapline your children?

Rikkie - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I have 5 kids, ages range from 8 months to 7 years. As they all get bigger im finding it harder to disapline them. and my 18 month old is the most unruley baby ever. Im not sure what to do anymore. Please help


Kristin - posted on 04/08/2010




I use time outs. One minute for each year. I've got a timer for both of mine. From time to time, they end up in time out at the same time. I also have 2 spots for time out because of this. It's all about being consistent and not reacting to what they've done beyond disciplining them. Most of the time, I just have to look at them and say "You are in timeout for ...." When the timer goes off, I get down to their level and have them tell me why they were put into time out. I don't expect an apology as that can set a bad precedent. I want my kids to actually BE sorry for what they did. I do not want them to tell me that they are sorry just to get out of being in time out which can happen.

With the older kids, think 4-5 and up, you can just start taking away privileges. Grounding, no friends over or to their place, no TV/iPod, no computer time, loss of allowance. Standard time out works with 2-4 year olds. Under 2, not so effective but you can try. It will involve a LOT of retuning to the time out spot. I would imagine that the 18 month child is acting out because of the baby. Just try to work a little more one on one time with him into your day. I know it's tough, but he misses you.

Hope this helps.


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April - posted on 04/09/2010




Taking toys away has never worked with my son. If I take it away, it is no longer in sight, therefor he forgets it ever existed...and if left un talked about would sit in my closet for months until he remembered it was has ADD though so he is forgetful by nature anyway. I usually allow my oldest to watch his tv in his room at bedtime for an hour but he gets that privilige taken away pretty often and he gets upset about this but it hasn't helped his behavor any. I think it's because this is a diciplin that takes place later rather than "Now" so it's not thought about at the time of whever he has done to misbehave. My only real problems with my 9 year old right now are lying and talking back sometimes. For examle today I had him put a bag of chips up because I was holding the baby and he said "I'm getting tired of doing things around here" It was funny the way he said it but disrespectful at the same time so I had him write 10 sentences saying " I will not complain when I am asked to help out around the house" .

April - posted on 04/09/2010




For my oldest who is 9, writing sentences I find to be the most effective when a talk isn't good enough and a spanking too harsh a punishment. In fact I use this method for 90% of all situations. Might not work for all kids but my son HATES to write so it serves him well. 8 months is too young for timeouts but is old enough to learn what NO means so start using it now. You won't start noticing your 8 month old responding to the word NO until she is prpbably several months older because she/he will try to test the limits until she/he has leanred them well. 18 months old is a perfect age for timeouts. Start with only a few minutes at this age and I suggest you look up on the internet how to effectively use timeouts.

Jodi - posted on 04/08/2010




I also use time outs. It really is about consistency!!! I also use revocation of privileges or chores beffiting the crime in conjunction with time out if neccessary. Best of luck!!!

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