How do you discipline your toddler?

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2016 ( 6 moms have responded )

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I need some help. I have two toddlers. Zara my daughter is three and my son Richie will be two in April. My daughter isn't BAD i think she is just.... I don't know. I give her warnings but she just laughs (which I know should only be one worning) and then I put her in time out. She sits there and screams, after three minutes (three minutes because she is three years old and that's how many minutes I read you should keep them in time out for in some parenting article) I get her out, kneel down to her level, explain to her why I put her in time out (hope she really understands) then I tell her I love her and give her a hug. Then a bit later she just does it again. She really doesn't listen at all. I'm a stay at home mom and this can get so exhausting. I feel like I'm doing something wrong. My son doesn't listen either he also laughs at me when I tell him no or stop. I don't put him in time out yet, should I be? I'm just confused. I feel like there is some discipline secret that every mom knows but me.
So please tell me what do you think is the best way to discipline your toddler?

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Carrie - posted on 02/17/2016

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I do timeout as well. Yes it's usually 1 minute per their age, but I make them stand with their nose on the wall. They have to stand there til they stop crying or pitching a fit. Once they're done with that I have them stand there a lil longer...usually the alloted time 2 minutes (2 years old), ect... after that I call them to me and ask they if they know why they got into trouble. If they don't know I explain to them why. It works much better, cuz taking them out of timeout as soon as their quit makes them think all they've gotta do is pitch a fit and they won't hafta stand their anymore. I also do red, green and yellow. Green means you've been good and you get rewarded for good behavior (which could be a toy from the store or something as simple as picking what we eat for dinner). Yellow means no tv. Red means no fun at all. Their behavior determines on what color they're on and I don't move them up right away. They can work their way up. Now that they understand the concept usually all I've gotta say is do you wanna go to yellow or red. They say no ma'am and change their decision. Yes this works on 2 and 3 year olds, cuz I've done it with them.

Amanda - posted on 01/30/2016

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Hi Natalie,
Thank you so much for sharing your way of discipline. I haven't tried taking toys away yet but I think I'm going to. The whole time-out thing just doesn't seem to do anything but make things worse. Thank you.

Natalie - posted on 01/30/2016

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I'm sort of a "yeller", and I really try not to be, because he's just a toddler. But, sometimes, you really have to lay down the law and get your stern voice on and tell them firmly to stop what they're doing. Let them know YOU are the parent and THEY are the child. They do not run you, they do not make the rules. I don't do "time-out", because he doesn't understand it, he finds it silly. So my method is taking his toys away (or threatening to). He absolutely hates when a toy is gone, or not where he wants it. My mom always used that method to

Amanda - posted on 01/16/2016

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Thank you for responding. You think timeouts are a bad idea for small things like if they are screaming for no reason and I tell my 3 year old daughter to stop and she doesn't. I should just try to redirect them? Thanks again for your help.
Amanda

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