how do you get a teenage boy to quit goofing off in class?


Cathy - posted on 10/27/2009




Set boundary at home for study and home work time. Take away one thing he likes to do: cell phone, computer games, ball games when he is goofing off in class. Watch his diet, reduce junk food.


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Delia - posted on 11/03/2009




I have 14 and 13 year old boys. they are both so different from each other. If your boys are in middle school, it is part of being that age. My 14 year old drove me nuts goofing off in school, not acting out, but just not working up to his potential for both 7th and 8th grade. I have a friend that has four boys and they all had problems in middle school. It was suggested that I go to school with them, but I never did. I had even considered home schooling for the middle school years. Middle school is a hard enough adjustment for kids for me not to do that as well. I talked to my kids alot about everything, and I did talk alot about their grades and behavior in school. Then I said alot of prayers to get me and my boys through this next week of school, so I was praying alot. LOL But most of all I was patient with their.....personalities, but I also let them know that the course they were on was not acceptable. I kind of rode it out. Now my 9th grader seems to have greatly improved this year. He is more responsible for his assignments, and his grades have improved. My other boy is an 8th grader and he just struggles in school, and goofs off sometimes in class, so I think for him it will be a life time battle to keep him on task. Pray for me. Just hang in their and don't let it become overwhelming, your child in the end is responsible for his own actions, his education is up to him, which I am constantly reminding my kids of, and let them know with hugs and kisses and playing that you still love them no matter what. I hope this helps. Take care.

Cheryl - posted on 11/03/2009




Quick fix- spend the day with him -IN ALL HIS CLASSES. Should fix the problem !!!muwahahaha !

Vanessa - posted on 11/03/2009




You want your teenage boy to stop goofing off in class? Then go to class WITH him. What's more embarrassing to a teenager than to have to be supervised by mom -- especially at school. When he misbehaves in class, BE embarrassing -- pull his ear lobe, lick your fingers to get stuff off of his face, tuck in his shirt at random times...and don't let him go out or have any phone privileges when he gets home. You being in his class will help him pay attention just to avoid the embarrassment, and you'll understand what he's learning in school and will be able to help him with his homework better. When he behaves, allow him to have friends over or go out, etc. Or make it a family movie night and let him pick the flick as a reward, and you have to watch it, no matter what it is -- even if it's embarrassing to you -- that levels the 'fairness' playing field with you getting what you need, and him getting a good reward without major dealings. Pretty soon it will become a habit, and you can start sneaking out of class and he won't even notice, or he'll keep up the good work for the reward and the better grades. He may even keep it up just because he found out that he understands more when he's not goofing off. Ya know that i think more about it -- if he already knows what the teacher is teaching, he may be BORED and that's why he's acting up...for entertainment. If that's the case, get him into more challenging classes, like Honors or AP (Advanced Placement). He'll have more self-confidence. I know I did.

Marilyn - posted on 11/03/2009




He must get alot of attention when he goofs around,ask him what goofing around means and if he thinks girls won't get tired? this is just a faze,when he sees his grade failing he'll know patient..

Stacey - posted on 11/03/2009




I have not experienced teenagers yet, my children are under the age of 4! BUT, this is what my mom did to her little brother that lived with us at the time, he was 14. Whenever he would mess up at school, which was frequent, she would put my dad on strike and have her brother take care of all outdoor chores. He did not like any of it nor was he able to see his buddies or go anywhere. He chopped wood, he mowed/trimmed/weed eat, trim trees, changed oil in mowers, 4-wheelers, tractors, family car, If it had to be done, he had to do it! His attention span in school began to increase after doing chores over a few weekends!! Hope this is of some help for you!

Katherine - posted on 10/27/2009




What does he say when you ask him why he's goofing off? Is he maybe feeling bored with his classes? I really liked the book "Unconditional Parenting" for creative problem solving ideas with kids.

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