How do you get time for yourself when 3 children and a husband needs something from you


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Katy - posted on 12/11/2009




I get 2 hours on a Saturday morning to myself. My hubby takes the kids to the mall or playground etc so I get a little peace, but I do find I end up just cleaning up after them while they are gone, my fault though I should just leave it! Sometimes I just go to the coffee shop and read a book for 1 hour instead, that stops my fanatical cleaning! It's not much, but it helps!

Shelley - posted on 12/09/2009




Time for myself? What's that?

Seriously, no. I'm not very good at making it a priority but I should. Sometimes I tell them "mommy needs a time out" and I go to the store by myself...and take an extra long time. :) I've found just locking myself in the bathroom or bedroom doesn't work very well. They just yell through the door. :) Now that my twins are in kindergarten I thought I'd have lots of "me" time, but then my husband lost his job and he's home now.

When you feel like you are to the point of insanity it's time to make the time for yourself, even if it's just long enough to get through the day. :)

User - posted on 12/09/2009




This was a challenge for me when I first became a SAHM. I was doing everything & not getting any alone time. Eventually my husband and I discussed that I needed help and we agreed to share some roles, outsource some things, and budget babysitters to help me get some "alone" time.

What has worked well for me is joining a gym that has childcare. I can work out & get some "me" time during the day so I am not completely exhausted when my husband comes home. I also hire a teenager to come over occassionally to watch the children while I clean up w/o interruption or just take a nap. Laundry drives me nuts, so my husband agreed to help me fold & put up after I wash everything. I also joined a MOPS group so I have time away from the kids during the day while they are in competent hands. Also, there are many churches that have bible studies during the day that also have great childcare available.

I don't know if any of this helped at all, but getting your time is so important!! You need time to recharge. Let me know if you have any further questions.

Alicia Brown @

Jackie - posted on 12/09/2009




I find convincing them you are on the edge between madness and insanity works very well. Remind them you know where they sleep and you could snap at any point and time!!

Okay all kidding aside; you need to demand your time. Demand they be responsible for themselves especially your husband. I like to remind my kids... you have 2 parents why are you bugging me?!?! And I remind my husband he has two children that I didn't do it all on my own.

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