How do you handle your kids if they are lazy, selfish and ungrateful.

LAVENDINE - posted on 08/28/2012 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I just hate my children sometimes, they are ungrateful and selfish. They just expect me to give give give and they take take take. I know many moms feels this way. My kids is already above 21. I wish they would get married soon. Since they won't obey me and won't do what i asked them to do. Even if it is something simple. They just want to show me that they are grown up and don't have to obey or do what i asked them to do anymore.



They won't throw the garbage and clean their room. Recently my daughter bought her bf back. So i asked him to look at her room. She hurriedly went to vac her room after telling her bf to wait a while. Then when the bf saw the mess in her room , he offered to help her clean. After cleaning it was better but not all the cabinets is clean.



I do appreciate that he spent two nights to come over and help her clean. But if she does not follow up it would be back to square one.



I have another son who also is a hoarder of stuffs and he cannot pack his books and stuffs properly and also did not clean the bookshelf i gave him for at least one year or more. Full of dust. I am ready to sell this house and tell them to go rent their own place since they are over 21 and have their own jobs now.

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Robin - posted on 03/29/2016

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I know I have ungrateful brats. I am so mad at mine I told them if they continue to treat their mother like garbage I will stop shipping money. and cut them out of my life. my drug addicted son put me in poverty he is a winning adult child. he is 23 and worked only 1 job in his life the man fired the lazy. never paid him. Now autumn is different she has a mental illness. I try to feed her she is 21. but her father and my son eat up the food money I mail her. they both are just starting ged classes in a week. I sill pay for medical insurance on these two. The lazy kids just started ged classes only because they are living with their father. he smokes pot with them. he may be going to prison in Kansas he had a court case pending on Friday. they use my att credit to use for cell phones and tv in Kansas . they pay for them but are late. doug has a job.

Robin - posted on 03/29/2016

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I kicked my out . Autumn is 21 and mykel is 23. now they are going hungry. I pay 150 a week to feed them.

Nneka - posted on 08/29/2012

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Once they are over 21 and working they are able to maintain themselves you should put them out to go rent. Why sell your house it's yours? You should be enjoying yourself now that they are big enough to go and experience the world on there own. and let them do just that. What they are doing is stealing you joy and your space. DON'T LET THEM!

Nneka

User - posted on 08/29/2012

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It is not easy to kick them out now as they just work not long and the rent is quite expensive in Singapore. Standard rent is $500 to $600 for a basic room. With extras like aircon shd be higher. I just hope they wise up or find someone to get married and get their own flat to stay. I think needs a few years more. Don't know how to tolerate until then.

Chaya - posted on 08/28/2012

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You can kick them out, or tell them to shape up or ship out. If they are employed, they should move out unless the rents are astronomical, like if you live in NYC

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