how do you know when your family is complete?

Tawney - posted on 07/25/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )




how do you know when your family is complete? I have two daughters khloe 2 and kailyn 1.


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Cynthia - posted on 07/26/2011




I think as long as you have that question, your family isn't complete! I've always hated hearing people go on from day 1 "well we're going to have 3 children, then we're done!" I actually talked to a friend recently that commented on how sad she was that she's had her last baby and how she can't stand the thought of it being her last. (This is their 4th and she's almost 5 months) I asked her why she didn't just wait until Janae gets a little older and see if you want another? She replied that well, they'd decided when they got married that they were only going to have 4, so she'd just have to get used to the idea! I am a strong believer that when you're done, you will know! I have known alot of moms that have told me they "just knew" one even told me, it still didn't keep her from wanting to hold and spoil everyone elses baby, and it even made her a bit melancholy at times, but she said deep down she still knows she wouldn't want to go through the baby/toddler stage again! Good luck with your decision!

Katrina - posted on 07/25/2011




We have 2 girls 4yo and 2.5yo. Our original plan when we got married was 4 kids, then we had Marcail and we changed it to 2 :P
My DH has always had DEFINITE plans that it was 2 and no more...I have been tossing up whether I wanted another one or not (I wanted more babies but not more kids) LOL.
Then a couple of weeks ago, we babysat my niece (9 mo) and she screamed for an hour before I could get her to go to sleep! The only way I got her to fall asleep was to place her on my arms, looking at the floor and then swing her to sleep! NEVER AGAIN!!! LOL...I forgot about that part and definitely don't want to (planned) go there again...if it happens, it happens but I am not looking for it!
I'll be happy with my niece and nephew (and others when they come) :)

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I knew it was time to stop when I found out i pregnant with #3 and totally freaked out. #3 was not part of our family plan but I'm glad he was added. I knew that 3 kids under 3 1/2 was all I could handle. I think its something you just know.

Shelli - posted on 07/25/2011




We thought we were complete with a nice blended family~my daughter 12, husband's daughters 12 & 9, our son 2 and then to our surprise and against birth control odds we were pregnant again. Out of bedrooms and maxed out on daycare costs as it was we didn't know what to do but it just happened. Everything fell into place. Our beautiful daughter just turned 6 months old and we wouldn't change a thing about our life. Communicate your wants and desires to each other, be practical and think for the long haul~life is too short to stress over the little things because you are never given more than you can handle! Good luck on finding your solution and enjoy those girls while they are young and hormone free!

Nancy - posted on 07/25/2011




I'm guessing a part of you wants a little boy? (I could be completely wrong. I am pregnant with my 2nd and having another girl and a part of me would love to add a little boy to the family but of course you have to take many factors into consideration with your decision such as finances, physical (can you handle raising 3 kids or however many more you want), emotional, and your partner's opinion in this matter. I hope you make the best decision and best wishes to you.

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