How do you ladies feel about having your tubes tied?

Heather - posted on 04/20/2010 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I do not want any more children and I am thinking of getting my tubes tied. I have used numerous different kinds of birth controls and I still have a extreme fear of getting pregnant again. So I am seriously thinking on getting my tubes tied and being done with the stress. What do you ladies think?

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Rose - posted on 04/20/2010

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dont change anything about yourself you already had when your born. i understand the fear of getting pregnant but there are options, if not, then i guess you need to find the right contreceptive, there is this one you may like called mirena, when they do is go up in you and i guess tie a string somewhere in there, sounds good but i heard alot of woman go crazy on it so you got to be in tune with your emotions. furthermore, you dont know if your done or not, who knows you might meet some guy that you want to have his baby and its too late cause you already made the mistake of messing up your stuff, please think about it, if it comes down to it, if your with a guy right now ( i dont know your situation) ask him if hed get his dangles plucked if he is the one wanting you to do this and he wont do it then ask him how is that fair. if you absolutly have to because of a health reason them by all means do what you got to do, if not than dont mess with what you came into this earth with because you might change your mind in the long run. = )

Brandice - posted on 04/20/2010

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I'm 25 and have a 5yr old (with my ex) and a 14month old with my husband. I had a planned c-section with my last and told them ahead of time that I wanted my tubes tied. I have one of each and one from each husband LOL! I knew I wanted two kids and no more. I had to convince them once again while they were literally cutting my son out that I was sure and wanted it done. I also had horrible cramps/bleeding so I had to have endometrial ablation a couple months ago. It's where they basically burn the lining of your uterus until it is no more. In order to have the surgery I would have had to have my tubes tied, so I'm glad I had it done already.

Sheryl - posted on 04/20/2010

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i did it. i am 25 and i had my last at age of 23. the doc. keep tilling me to really think about it. but i tryed birth control and i end up preg. both of those times. and i know in my birth mom case she was on all different type of birth control and still end up preg. four different times. so i would really think about it. if it don't really work for you and you are sure you don't then i would go for it. i choose to mainly for the fact of the birth cause my heart hate was droping and air was shuting down. i scared the my mom(aunt) like crazy. cause my aunt i am name after died in child birth. plus now my son has sensory processing disorder and speech delay. wish you the best of luck on this. it not easy to make a dis. but best of luck.

Danielle - posted on 04/20/2010

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I'm 27yrs old and I have two children. In 2006 when my daughter was born I decided to have my tubes tied. I wish that I hadn't b/c now I'm gonna have to have a hysterectimy b/c my uterus has attached itself to the wall of my stomach after my tubes were tied.I am in constant pain, sex is a thing of the past b/c of the pain and it has taken a toll on my marriage. I'm not trying to scare you out of the surgery, but you need to do excensive research and make sure that's what you want to do. Once it's done there is no going back.

JoAnn - posted on 04/20/2010

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I had mine tied after our 4th child. It was a decision we made together. I am a high-risk pregnancy, and the doctors were not thrilled with a fourth pregnancy. So, since I had to have c-sections; they tied the tubes right after they delivered number 4. We will wait for the 4 we have now to grow up a little more; and then may consider adoption, if we decide we'd like to have more.

Jessica - posted on 04/20/2010

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I've known people who decided they were for sure DONE and had it done. For me, I wouldn't want anything that permanent and I couldn't imagine making that decision because you never know how you will feel a few years from now. But that's just me, and I only have one child and we know we want more in the future. So who knows, maybe one day I will feel the same.

Sue - posted on 04/20/2010

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I had mine tied when I had my last child. I had it done for medical reasons - I had a terrible first pregnancy, preeclampsia was horrible. Did not want to risk that again, however the second pregnancy was fine. But it is a fifty fifty chance. Even with my history I sometimes wish I hadn't had it done, but I know deep down it is safer for myself and my family. So be SURE you can live with the consequences. Make sure you will not feel different a couple of years from now. I knew someone who had hers tied after her second child and then divorced and remarried and he had never had a child. She had it reversed, but never did conceive. Really put some thought into it.

Shannon - posted on 04/20/2010

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LOL Sorry I know just how you feel! I wanted mine tied after my 3rd but was told they do them on the weekends...so I never did..nor did I use BC because my husband was gone all the time dure to work and I had no desire to speak of AT ALL! So here came #4 (don't even remember it happening..) Once again I TOLD the doctor I don't want anymore kids..he said yes yes, every month I went in and made sure my name was on the list and every month they said yes. What do you know I go into labor on a friday and the Dr. had the balls to ask me if I was getting my tubes tied..because they didn'yt have me on the list!! Memory lane,sorry. But I don't regret having it done at all and have had no problems..Good luck

Sabrina - posted on 04/20/2010

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There is an in the office procedure for a woman to get her tubes tied now. I have checked into it. I am 26 with three kids. My doctor will do it, but did try to talk me out of it. Every time I try to talk to my husband about the subject he acts like he wants to have more children and that we are very young to make such a permanent decision.
I have also told my husband that he should be the one to get fixed because it is only fair since I had to give birth to three children (and the last one was an unexpected 9 pounds). He doesn't ever have nice things to say when I ask him to get it done. Good Luck! You aren't the only one.

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Hi , you are not the only one thinking of doing this . We have 3 children and I don't want any more but my partner does . When I brought up the idea of him having a vasectomy (I won't type what he said) he wasn't ok with the idea . I am 28 and have so many fertile years ahead of me and don't want to be pumping hormones into me for that long .

So I went to see my doctor and was told I couldn't have this done untill I was 30 or had 4 or more children , but a man can have it done at any time . It's a much less complicated op for a man (just don't tell them that they don't agree).

Our "debate" is still on going .

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