How do you like being a stay at home mommy?

Alisha - posted on 03/14/2010 ( 139 moms have responded )

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Please share how you feel about being a S@HM. i will share but my kids are needed me so i must run for now!

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Adel - posted on 03/21/2010

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I love being stay at home with my baby boy. I enjoy playing with him, and watching him playing alone with his toys..Love to see his milestone esp. now that i waiting for him to walk alone..We are learning from each other..

Chandra - posted on 03/17/2010

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I love it, overall. I feel it's way more beneficial. There are times I wish I had a job though, just for a break away from the kids =). I can't put them in daycare though. I've had family members work at daycares and told me I should never put a young child in daycare!! I have 5 kids, 2 in school so far. My 2 girls in school, 1st and 5th grade, have both tested gifted since kindergarten and are in accelerated learning classes. Although I may be wrong, I don't feel like this would be if they were in the care of someone else. There are times though when I feel overwhelmed, being with my other 3, which includes 2 yr old twins. I think making time for yourself is important, although not easy sometimes. I used to forget i had my own identity outside of being a wife and mother. That's why it's important to have people in your life who can relate to you and your situation. Makes it easier on bad days when you can complain to someone who understands.

Audra - posted on 03/17/2010

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It's kinda funny....when I was growing up I didn't want kids...I wanted to travel the world! But, after my first the thought of traveling and being single was lost. I love being a mom. I have learned things about myself and my capabilities that I would have otherwise never learned! I also homeschool my 3 kids...what a blessing to be able to stay home and do that! I get to see their personalities and watch as they grow each day into the people they will be when they leave! My way of thinking is that I have more time after my kids are gone to work then I have years with them in my home. Time that you can't get back! I am more than willing to go without some things in order to stay home.....I can go on vacations when I'm older! So glad to see so many SAHM's on here! God made us to nurture and care for our husbands and children and to be homemakers! You certainly can't do those things if you aren't there! :)

Amy - posted on 03/17/2010

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It was a choice we made which left us a lil bit financially worse off but I believe is best for our kids and I really love it, I'm always there for every new thing they do and they know they can rely on us not to leave them, they are little for such a short time. I guess you just have to find ways to escape the 4 walls sometimes and plot some time for yourself.

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Like anything in life, it has it's ups and downs. I've stayed home since my first child was born in Jan. 2005 so it's been 5 yrs now. And now I have another one (now 9 mos) so it will be some time before I get back to working again. I hope to one day work again once the kids are old enough. I don't need to work for money but mainly to have something that is for myself and a creative outlet. I want to work in something that would help make the world a better place.

I hadn't been working for that many years nor did I have anything resembling a "career" before I had children so it's not like I had to "give up" something major. Aside from financial considerations, my decision to stay home was from my personal conviction that it's the best way to raise children in their early years. Also, I wanted to be able to breastfeed for a good amount of time. So, intellectually it was a no brainer!!

BUT, physically and emotionally it can be very trying. I'm not the most patient person in the world and having to deal with tantrums and whatnot on little or no sleep can really wind me up. I wish it did not get to me so much but it does from time to time. The part about being a stay at home Mom -- especially the way it is in the west where there's not a whole lot of family support system or nanny help -- that I find so challenging is how demanding it is of you in every single way. For instance, I've not worked out in sooooo long and my body hurts in sooooo many places from having to lug around a very heavy baby that it's a wonder I'm not crankier than I already am most days. Constant physical pain can really break you down; kinda like torture in interrogation. Couple that with sleep deprivation .... you get the picture.

I don't want to come across so negative because I do appreciate all the positives of staying a home with your children. If given the choice today I would still choose to stay home with my children. But I think it's a very difficult job and I'm just being honest about how it can be for me personally. Some days I just really wish I had an extra helping hand.

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Brittney - posted on 03/23/2010

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So far I love being a SAHM. I get to see my daughter develop and grow. I also get to be the one teaching her games and songs. Even though she is only four months old, she tries to sing with me at bedtime. It is so cute. I don't believe I would be able to go to work knowing that I would be missing this stuff. This is my first child. Every week we have a daddy/daughter play date. I go some where while he stays home and spends time with her. I usually use that time to go grocery shopping, pay bills, get a massage, or anything that my daughter would not really enjoy doing. I do wish I had a job at times because the economy stinks so we are suffering financailly. There is no point in me getting a job right now cause we are moving while my husband is deployed here soon.

Lori - posted on 03/23/2010

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I'm a stay at home mom of 2 lil ones,I feel very bless to be the one they come to all day with everything..wouldn't have it any other way I be way to jelousse overe someone else seeing or knowing the milestones of my babies before me lol.. I gave birth it was hard and staying at home with them is tough sometimes but in the end my kids will know that mommy was always there for them:)

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i love being at home for my kids and hope to have the oppertunity to continue doing so throughout their teen years. I feel much gratitude and appreciation for doing so. I feel so sad for working moms to some degree they never have time for anything. I would never allow someone else to raise my kids I brought them into the world and they keep me going!!! Though it is hard and I often get ridiculed for staying at home since my friends work, they let me know how jealous they are too. so sometimes that sucks but i feel that I have made the best choice that suits me and my family

Mandy - posted on 03/23/2010

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I love being a S@HM. I used to work and my first baby was in daycare for all of about 3 or 4 months when I decided I couldn't bear to keep taking her to daycare, I felt I was missing out on so much....and her too. So i quit my job and opened my own home day care.......the saddest thing ever when I was doing day care was this mom mentioned how her doctor was a little concerned that her baby wasn't rolling over yet......I told her that i didn't understand because her baby had been rolling over for weeks and that I just assumed she knew because he was rolling over a lot......she said she had so much to do when she got home every night that her baby spent the whole evening in the swing and she had no idea that he could roll over. I couldn't imagine that, it was so sad!!! I could never put my kids in full time day care and miss out on all the firsts. Although I am looking into some half day preschools for my 3 year old to get her a little more socialization.....plus she gets a little bit bored at home everyday.

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I love every minute of it! Being the only one who take them to school picking him up and just being able to be with my daughter all day, it's greatest!!

Jennifer - posted on 03/21/2010

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I'm all about sharing all of what life has to show to my 4 month old little bobby. watching him discover things for the first time is the best thing i ever witnessed. i play every kind of music i can possibly think of... i sow him pictures and think of places to take him. if i wasn't home... i'd be so sad that i couldn't spend that time with him ♥

Mary - posted on 03/21/2010

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It brings me much joy! To read these stories of mothers who love staying home with their children. I salute you ladies!! It a tough job that sometimes goes unappreciated not only from our family, but the world, but well worth the rewards in the long run!!! I know for myself when I worked when my children were young..It was easier for me to go to work and let my mother do the hard work..So, Keep up the good work..I'll be praying for you all!!

Adel - posted on 03/21/2010

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I love being stay at home with my boy. I love to see him playing..and reaching his milestone every time. We are learning from each other..

Joanna - posted on 03/20/2010

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I have only been a SAHM for about 4 years. Before my husband joined the Army, we were both working 40+ hours a week and barely making ends meet. Our 2 girls, were either in daycare or stayed with a grandparent (which they LOVED) but, both him and I missed so much, that when he talked about joining the military, we sat down and decided it would be alright for me to stay home. I have to say, for the most part I love it! I get to pick my girls up from school and hear all about their days and just listen to them grow and learn. And, with our 3-year old son, I got to be there for everything and that was wonderful. Yes, there are some days where I count down the hours till my husband gets home, so I can run to my room and go to the bathroom by myself and not answer a million questions about a million different things. But, when it gets to bad and I think about getting a babysitter or daycare to watch Ford, I remind myself of how much I missed with Tessa and Bella and how I felt when they were more used to their daycare workers than me. I'll probaly get a job when Ford goes to kindergarten, but for right now, I love it.

Barb - posted on 03/20/2010

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Love it. Couldn't think of anything nicer. I work from home to help my husband but my hours are decided by me and our family, not someone else. I love every moment of it and treasure every second with each of them:)

Heather - posted on 03/20/2010

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It is one of the hardest things that I have ever done! But I have to admit that I love every second of it....even when I want to pull my hair out and cry! LOL It is so incrediable to me to bw with my kids everyday and not be pulled in a lot of different directions I get to watch them learn and grow and we make memories I will cherish fforever!

Michelle - posted on 03/20/2010

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I'm a stay at home mother but would rather be working. My daughter starts nursery in september, and I would lve to get a part time job. Staying at home was the best solution in the beginning but now I need to be doing something other than washing up and washing clothes. Every mother needs that little bit of independence.x

LauraBeth - posted on 03/20/2010

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I LOVE it!! I would not change one thing about my life. I would never ever want to pay someone to raise my children! There are so many great things that I get to do with my children, parks, zoos, and childrens mueseum to start with, we get to go on several "mini vaca" all during the year. Then in 3 years when they start school I will beable to attend all of their school function and class party and field trips.



Also I have a very wonderful Husband who helps me with a little of the housework to make sure that I at least get to take a hot relaxing bath everynight. We make a WONDERFUL team and I thinks that make being a SAHM that much better.

Laura - posted on 03/20/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. I wouldn't have it any other way. My mom stayed home with us and I loved it. And I want the same thing for my girls. We do art projects and feild trips. We also play school with flash cards. I think not only do they feel the love but you have more time to teach things to them. I youngest just turned 3 Feb. 1st. and she no's all of her color. She does get brown and black mixed up sometimes. But it's a wonderful thing that we love.

Amber - posted on 03/20/2010

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I used to love it, I was here for everything. But now, I feel as if I do not get any time for myself. I think I just need someone to give me a break every now and then. I would feel better.

Yamira - posted on 03/20/2010

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I love being a stay-at-home Mom!..I think that there are advantages of staying at home with your child because I got to teach her so many things that your child might not learn in a daycare!..I've seen daycare centers were they just sit them in front of a t.v.!..I taught my daughter to read at 3 and now she is in her school honor roll!..and now I am lucky to be a stay-at-home mommy with my 2 month old!...I love it

Jamie - posted on 03/20/2010

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I lvoe it too, but sometimes I wonder its better to be away from the kids once and a while because they say distance makes the heart grow fonder and I think me and my kids are together way to much and thats why we have are disagreements so much.... A little time away does good... And sometimes even though ur very busy you can feel lonely and bored at least I do!

ANA - posted on 03/20/2010

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I love ! Everyday I learn something special with kids. I do things that the others moms can't do ! Like, go to swimming classes, tennis classes and when he winns his eyes are shinning like a star! We don't pay this sensation with money, don't have price ! I have this felling for the rest of my life! Shinning eyes are everything!

Mary - posted on 03/20/2010

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I love being a SAHM mom..I'm 50 and a SAHM for over 20 yrs.I have 3 young men, 24, 26 and a 15 yrs.old. It was very difficult at the beginning becasue I enjoyed working. My mother watched my kids while I worked that is why I decided to go back to work after the birth of my two boys. Sadly, my parent divorced.. So, I had to make a decision on the welfare of my children..My children were 2 and 4 yrs at the time of their divorce.My husband and I had dicussed this situation of me stay home way before we had children and decided we would not put our children in daycare...So, here I am 23 yrs later and have not regrets..I'm so ever grateful for having the opportunity of staying home. To be abe to watch my children grow at each stage of life is priceless! It wasn't easy at times, but in the long run it sure was worth it..My boys and I have a very special relationship.. I love them dearly..And for young mother remember this: enjoy them while they are young because you will never get that time back and they grow so fast.I know at times i would say to myself when they were babies: I can't wait till they're 2 and when they were 2, I would say I can't wait till they start school and also as they grow in each stage of life they need less of you..for instance: when they're 5 they start school.. When they're 8 or 9 they start spending more time with their friends and when they're teenagers they don't want much to do with you and so forth..So please enjoy every precious moment with your babies...I'm a first time grandmother.. And I will enjoy every precious moment of his life ..I hope you will do the same..

Amber - posted on 03/20/2010

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I love being a stay-at-home mommmy. I love spending time with my daughter. I probably will not place her in a daycare, because I do not feel that I need to. She is almost 3 months old, and she is beginning to show signs of teetheing.

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Christy - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom for the most part. I would never want my daughter in daycare, not that there is anything wrong with that its just that if I can be home I would rather do it that way. I just miss being able to have conversations with adults! My hubby works graveyards so that makes it a little more hard to be the only one with her at night. She is 7 weeks old and has colic bad! But I would never trade the moments I have with her for anything!!

Jamie - posted on 03/19/2010

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Love being a stay-at-home mom for my 2 kids. I coulnt ask for anything more! I am there for my kids and never miss anything that they do, I am the one they count on to make them meals and play with them, get them things they need instead of having someone else do it. Daycare is just too expensive. We have people who could watch our kids but I want to be the one they depend on most. Its a very rewarding experience to watch your children grow!

Stephanie - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love being the one with my children ages 1yr and 2.5 yrs and spending everyday with them. The hardest part is is the house wife part...I do not enjoy any part of that. I don't like to clean and I hate cooking even more. I also do not enjoy being the only one who does all the work in the house from getting up in the middle of the night, to baths, to dinner, laundry, grocery shopping, ect... And then not getting the credit b/c I don't have a "real" job.

I am looking at going back to work b/c financially we are at the point where I have too. I am not happy about it b/c I know I will still be doing all of the above PLUS working full time.

Kate - posted on 03/19/2010

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I am excited to venture into the S@HM world! My son is 2.5 and I didn't have the option of staying home with him....financially we needed 2 incomes, but now, with our second due in 12 days, we are able to have me stay at home! I am really excited about it....I started my mat. leave early so I've been home with my son for about 6 weeks now and love it....I still have a lot of guilt about not being able to stay home with him over the last year and a half, but it should be great for all of us moving forward!!

Danielle - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love being a stay at home Mom, I get to play with my chidren and see them learn and grow. I wasn't a stay at home Mom until I had my second daughter. However, I was the assistant director of a child care so I was able to work and see my daughter. Whenever I wanted to.

Lori - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom,every since i had my oldest i said i want to be the one who raises my kids sometimes i wish i had a pay check but i would rather be with my kids If i had a job the money would go for people watching my kids gas eating out so really it better for me to be with my kids they bring me more joy than i could ever express.

Keelin - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love it. Thee are some tough days, but I cannot imagine it any other way. I always imagined I would be a SAHM & I'm so glad I am able to do so!! My Hubby also helps by encouraging me & thanking me for all my hard work!! Seeing my little girl grow up is all the reward I need.

Rowena - posted on 03/19/2010

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sometimes i wanna give up but at the end of the day i thank the lord everything went well and good for my kids

Tanja - posted on 03/19/2010

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I'm lucky as I don't have to go to work, though sometimes I think a few extra $ would b nice if I went to work but its just not worth it after paying for childcare. Also I wouldnt want to miss out on any of the milestones.

Its not always easy (like when shes teething) but worth it. I have a mothers group that I meet up with once a week and thats great as I can chat to adults and get out of the house and she gets to play with the other bubs. Generally I find it easy but I only have one. I do want to have another one and I'm sure that will make it a bit harder sharing myself between 2 and I've got to remember to spend more time with hubby too.

Lynne - posted on 03/19/2010

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I love being a stay at home mom. My daughter just turned 8 and my son is 6. I feel that being able to stay home is not only a gift to me but to them as well. I can teach them what to stay away from and be there so they don't get into trouble. Yes it can tend to be a little stressful sometimes but in the end I know my husband and I chose the best path by me staying home.

Sara - posted on 03/18/2010

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Absolutely Love It!!! I love knowin im always there for her when she needs me and knowing that I wont miss anything important or new is priceless

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I love being a SAHM! I always knew I wanted to be one even before I had my son. My mom and aunts always came to me to watch their kids while they worked, because they were the main provider in the house hold. So I always told myself when I had children, I didn't want to put that on anyone else, i wanted to watch my own children. ThankfullyI have a great husband that supports us, and I love raising my son. I also have a degree from college for a just in case backup in case my husband is not able to work anymore or something like that.

Zatonda - posted on 03/18/2010

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sometimes I like it sometimes I hate it,most of my friends work.There is a difference in my three that went to day vs the two that didn't, I seem to get more things done when I was working. Sometimes motivation is not there as much, however I love that my kids are only a phone call away and don't have to wait for me take off work, I get to attend all their events. I notice the two that didn't go to daycare seems to think they need me more and are more shy, one seems to follow and the other seems to be a loner. The other three that had daycare seems to need friends 24/7 or were part of the in crowd. In the summer is the most fun for all of us, but winner can be hard. If someone ask me if they should stay at home, I would tell them no if a second income is needed,but If they can afford to or need to I would say go for it.

Kahne - posted on 03/18/2010

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Im a sahm.... and I love it! Although I also work my Thirty One Gifts Business too.... because I can be home & make money, while I get out of the house now & then! www.31giftsparty.com

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I have been a stay @ home mom for 5 years now and I love it ...for the most part. There are times when all I do is cry. It is a very hard job. I feel like I am nothing but a mom . I wish I was known as something more. My daughter starts school this Aug. so I am going to go back to school so I will feel...complete.

Amy - posted on 03/18/2010

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I absolutely love it! I didn't have a child to let someone else raise him. We aren't wealthy by any means, but we make do with what we have. I love knowing that my son is being influenced by me and not someone else.

Destiny - posted on 03/18/2010

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i love being a stay at home mom.. but no matter what you will need time away other wise it will get to you.. no matter how calm people say they are and say they can handle it they still need them time.. so like with me i go to zumba once a day for an hour during the week and on some weekends i go shopping or have a girls day or have a date with my husband so i either leave the kid(s) with my husband or we find a sitter for a couple hours but everyone needs them time... like i said i love being a stay at home mom its one of the coolest things and a major joy to be the first to see everything and to have that special time with your little one(s) but everyone needs them time... so find something like a gym that has daycare or time with friends todo every so often other wise it runs you thin...

Lisa - posted on 03/18/2010

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I love it. Sometimes it can be a bit lonely but I wouldn;t trade it for the world.

Cynthia - posted on 03/18/2010

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i love it. sometimes i get depressed cuz i don't have a license to drive but i love spending time with her and i dont miss anything

Yesenia - posted on 03/18/2010

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I Love it !!! I had such a hard time getting pregnant that I was not about to let someone else to see and enjoy all their first. And I've done it through suffering chronic pain and chronic anemia and have had 2 life saving blood transfusion.

Amanda - posted on 03/18/2010

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I love staying home with my girls. I get to participate in all of their school and after school activities now, not like before when I worked outside of our home. They love having me here more and now that I have a business at home I can work around their scheduals!

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I love it! I wouldnt change it for the world. I loved the job that I was at before I had my baby, but being a mom is 24/7/365, and to me I feel more rewarded, more satisfied being at home with my baby. I am not planning on returning to work when my Mat-Leave is over, and my boyfreind agrees with me. I didnt have a child to have someone else raise it just so I could work again. I want to raise my own, teach her what I want her to learn, and at whatever pace I feel neccessary. Being with my daighter day after day and watching her grow and learn is the best feeling in the world to me. I think being a S@HM is the best decision I have ever made, and im sure that in the long run, my daughter will feel the same way!

Lisa - posted on 03/18/2010

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I love staying home with my daughter, she amazes me everyday while sometimes exasperating me. I am lucky that my husband's schedule is such that I get regular breaks to visit friends or family or run errands while he spends time with her.

Christina - posted on 03/18/2010

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Thank you Gema. Nowadays it seems that we are the only family with one car its nice to know that that is not the case.

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