How do you "organize your time" to be able to play with your kids and still get housework done?

Elise - posted on 06/28/2011 ( 13 moms have responded )




Hi! I am a Mommy of 3 adorable kids, ages 3, 21 months and 2 months, and I am having a hard time "organizing my time" to get the house cleaned, laundry done, etc. and still be able to spen time with my kids, who need alot of attention lol! My daughter (21 months) and son (3) were a little jealous of the new baby, but they have adjusted well now, but need that time just for them. Lately I am finding that at the end of the day the house is a mess, the laundry is still in the dryer and the weeds are still in the flowerbeds haha. By the time the kids are ready for bed I'm too exhausted to do any of it and so is my hubby, who is a steel fabricator for the railroad and works hard all day as well!

So I would like to know if any of you other busy Mommy's out there have any tips on how to make a "schedule" for the day or plan ahead to be able to fit it all in?? Please help! Thanks! :)


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I had a good system going until my second was born in March. =) I'm currently trying to revamp my system. This is what I have so far...

-Turn the dishwasher on at night before bed. Unload it first thing in the morning as the coffee is brewing. Then start breakfast. Load with dishes throughout the day and start it again that night.

-Put on a load of laundry first thing in the morning. Put it in the dryer during baby's morning nap. Fold and put away during both kids' afternoon nap.

-Also during afternoon nap, pull out and chop up anything that is needed for that night's supper. Then it won't take as long to get supper on the table later when BOTH kids will be awake.

-If there is extra time during nap after laundry and supper is whatever chore is most it will be vacuuming.

-Clean the bathroom while my oldest is taking her bath.

Maybe one of these things will help?

Lady Heather - posted on 06/29/2011




I guess I don't because there is a pile of laundry in the dryer right now, the garden hasn't been weeded in I don't know how long and least I tidied up tonight? I just figure so long as the house isn't dirty, none of these things are killing me.

I do try to stick to laundry days and floor days and bathroom days and stuff like that, just so I make sure I get ONE thing done (besides the general tidy and dishes and crap), but anything more is a bonus at this point. It's pretty flexible though. Today was supposed to be floors and the vacuuming was just not possible so it's tomorrow now.

I find if I get 2-3 hours alone on the weekend I can get way more done so I do the fussier jobs then.

Brianna - posted on 06/29/2011




maybe try getting a load of laundry and throwing it in the machine every morning as soon as u get out of bed. also my daughter who is 19month loves to help me so i get her to help me clean or at least she thinks shes helping me clean and it makes her so happy. so we clean toys together or she helps me but laundry in the machine, when im dusting she has her own cloth and pretends to clean.

Alicia - posted on 06/29/2011




I have 3 boys, 7, 4 and 14 months. It took me really long time to get a structured schedule. And this has worked for me. Monday is cleaning day, I mainly clean and the kids get to just hang out and play outside or whatever they would like. Then the rest of the week it is just light tidying and I spend most of the days just being with all the boys. It has been working for me. And with laundry it still amazes me at how much they go through, I just do a load whenever I can!! Good luck!!!

√v^√v^√♥ - posted on 06/29/2011




I'd suggest trying to simplify what needs to be cleaned? If you stick to the more basic necessities and go to more quick meals during the day (or take 1 day a week to prep all the meals for the week, fridge and freezer fulls) you have more time to spend with kids and less time to clean. Paper plates if you have to - Costco sells them by the thousands for like 12$. We bought a pack a year ago and still are using the dang things. Lol
We don't use them on a day to day basis and not for the kids stuff but it helps out if we're making a sandwhich... cuts back on dishes.

I'd have hubby do yard duty. Ick.

And well, same with laundry. How much stuff do you really need in your closet? If you get rid of / pack some stuff for a few months until your little one gets older, you'll have more time to get back into a wardrobe. So I say break out the streatch jogging pants and tank tops.

And whatever else to simplify, purge, downsize, pack for a while, live without for a while, etc.

I'd try to baby gate off a dinning room or safe place they can play by themselves while you take the young baby and do a few chores when you need to, too.


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Sarah - posted on 12/23/2013




First - don't beat yourself up over a messy house or laundry piling up. Sometimes I'm a little embarrassed when I watch the old videos from when my kids were young to see the state of chaos. But then I note how happy they were and are now, how healthy we are and how strong a family we are. Be clear on what's important and don't delude yourself that you can do it all.

That being said, we made Saturday's big family cleaning days. Everyone (husband, me, kids) clean all day. It was fun and taught them skills and responsibilities.

When I cook, I always cook big meals so we can eat for several days and even freeze some. I also bought most of our clothes from the thrift store so it didn't matter if some of them got stained or ripped. My kids could play and I wouldn't get worked up over clothes.

Finally, stay off your smart phone. Even now that my kids are older, I'm so glad none of us have a smart phone. I work online, but I keep the computer shut down as much as possible when I'm not working. It's easy to get lost here and in the end you lose out on important interactions - plus the time you can waste!

Here's a great article on this:

Set priorities, appreciate what you can get done, and don't neglect your health - oh yeah, since I was pregnant with my first we made exercise a family thing. My kids have grown up in jogging strollers, backpacks and bike seats. Exercising together helps reduce the stress and increase your energy!

Elise - posted on 07/21/2011




Nichole - I live in yoga pants and tank tops lol. They are so comfy and perfect for around the house, especially since I'm bending, kneeling and sitting on the floor all day lol. I don't know how I ever wore jeans at home.. now I'd have plumber crack most of the day! Haha
The paper plate idea is great! The less dishes to wash the better! :)

Elise - posted on 07/21/2011




Thanks ladies for all the advise! It's tough doing it all isn't it?! lol. I've been making a list everyday of everything that I need to do that day and trying to get the kids to help out, it's going pretty good. I'm going to try to schedule what days certain chores need to be done (vacuuming on monday, wednesday, friday, bathroom on tuesday, etc.) and see how that goes.. I have a hard time getting the kids to clean up their toys cause they just pick up a few things and then start playing with them again lol. I have to keep telling them. I guess they just aren't used to it cause before I would usually pick them all up myself... bad idea lol.

Lee - posted on 06/29/2011




If you can afford it at all get a cleaning lady to come every other week. We did this when my second was just born, until he was old enough to give me more time to get things done. Check out discount sites like Groupon for discounts on cleaning services, and if you ask around your friends, you may be able to find someone who works fairly cheap. Like I said if you can afford it, it's well worth it, at least until your youngest is old enough to entertain himself a little more.

LauraBeth - posted on 06/29/2011




I have two one is 26mo and one is 9mo, I made games of cleanning up toys, and while I am dusting I put my 9mo in her playpen and let my son(26mo) vaccum(I have to dust and vaacuum everyday due to my sons allergies), when my little girl goes down for her first nap I wash dishes and fold and start laundry. But for the most part I do all my major clean late at night or early in the morning before they both get up. I also found a cookbook for crock-pot meals and I do lots of casserole. My hubby watches the kiddos one day a week while I am in the kitchen pre-making oven ready dinners for the week. while i am folding laundry the kids like to "help" and I just let them I find that it makes it easier. there really is no schd. in my home I just say this is what I want to do today, as long as I get the vacuuming and dusting done which is part of our somewhat routine (they espect to see it everday) I play with the kids more and just put it the most of stuff off till they are sleeping, just works for me better that way. But I agree could you hire someone to come in and help?

Stifler's - posted on 06/28/2011




I only have 2 I don't have 3 so young but I find that with 2 of them schedules have gone out the window and I do whatever whenever I get around to it. I just make sure washing is hung out in the morning (i load the machine at night and turn it on if I have to then hang it out first thing) and the dishes are put away so I can load the dishwasher after tea and turn it on and get the washing off in the afternoon so we have clean things. My husband doesn't get home until 6PM so i make sure dinner's cooked, Logan is fed, baby is fed so that they're in bed by 7-730 so I can do anything outstanding that needs to be done and still have time to relax.

Katherine - posted on 06/28/2011




One thing at a time. Make one day laundry day, one day weeding day and so on. You can't possibly do all of that in one day. You definitely have a lot on your plate.

I always say if you can do 5-10 things in one day you've accomplished something. Relax about the house cleaning. I know the laundry can't wait because I'm sure with 3 young ones you have to do a lot of laundry.
Do you have anyone to help you? Someone to take the kids for a few hours? Can you hire someone?

If not I would get a planner and make a schedule of what you are going to do for the week, including things with the kids.

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