How do you potty train a three year old that wants nothing to do with it, I've tried everything

Heather - posted on 02/01/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )

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My daughter is almost 3 and we almost had her potty train last summer but we had something terrible happen to the family and I gave up. Now she wants nothing to do with it, we've tried everything and now I'm stuck.

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User - posted on 02/04/2010

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We did the 3 day potty training. No clothes for 3 days, stay home and follow kid around when they seem about to go take them to toilet. All praise - no negative feed back. Yes, it was a commitment but 3 days pretty much did it. Still accidents some times but for the most part no problems! http://www.3daypottytraining.com

Joy - posted on 02/04/2010

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The only thing that finally worked for my extremly uninterested boy was putting his portable potty in the livingroom. This way when the timer, set for every 20 min, went off he wasnt pulled away from what he was doing, watching Dora, playing with legos...

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My youngest was trained at 26 months. I started the process at bath time. As I would get the bath ready she would sit on the potty. If she was sucessful I made a huge deal of it, doing a "potty dance" around the house and a treat. If she wasn't I told her it was no big deal we would try again. You have to get to their level to get it to work. Routine is important as well. When you got potty invite them to do it as well. Children are "pleasers", they want to please you. When I was potty training it was the only thing I focus on because you have to think about the body, I would constantly be asking her.

Natalie - posted on 02/04/2010

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Well, if none of that works, I'll tell you what I resorted to. My youngest daughter is stubborn. I mean willful. As in, she was 5 years old and refused to potty because she just didn't want to. She knew how. I tried everything that everyone had already said up there (and had been trying since she was 3). Finally I said "That's it! I'm not washing ANYMORE clothes or buying anymore pullups." So, she got ONE pair of clothes for the day, and that was it. Now, it's always been a rule in our house that naked children have to stay in their rooms until they're dressed, but if she peed in her ONE outfit, she sat her butt naked in her room all day. She wouldn't pee on herself if she was naked, so she would go to the bathroom. It took about 2 or 3 days of this and her being inside while everyone else was outside playing, and she finally decided that maybe using the bathroom wasn't as evil as it seemed and it might be a good idea. I'm not saying that your situation will end up like mine - my child is just a very unique little girl - but I'm telling you in case it does - because no one ever told me. I came up with my answer purely out of frustration.



One thing my Dr. said, even when I was asking him why my FIVE year old wasn't going to the bathroom, was that eventually she would. She wouldn't be 18 years old and still peeing herself because she checked out healthy. She's never been to daycare, but the Dr. said that as soon as she started school (which will be this August), that she would probably immediately start using the restroom for fear of being picked on by the other kids. NOT the way I wanted her to learn, but it was a comfort to think that it couldn't last forever. My oldest was potty trained as soon as she turned 2 (which was oddly backward since she's the one developmentally behind). But, unless there's something physically wrong with your child - and I'm sure you would've seen signs by now, it won't last forever.

Natascha - posted on 02/02/2010

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What I did with my daughter we had to potties, one for the toliet and then the portable one. I put her in underwears during the day and sat the potty in front of the TV with her favorite cartoon. So when she wanted to sit down she sat on her potty.

Heather - posted on 02/02/2010

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Thank you guys so much for the inputs they really help, I no it's frustrating but I'll give it my all. Thank you again.

Karinna - posted on 02/02/2010

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i let the kids walk around with there pottys, when my first was 1 i gave it to her and every time she went she got a treat. the best time is summer, you can let them run around nekkie as well as buy the big girl undies, take her out let her pick her fav and when u get home teach her how to put them on and make a big deal out of what a big girl she is, take her picture make her a reward say (name here) is a big girl in undies now. but you have to just give it time, she will have accidents and just tell her its ok but also remind her its potty time, ive always asked if she was ready and she would tell me yes or no, she would have accidents but let her walk around with the potty get the undies and make a bid deal about what a big girl she is.

Carmonie - posted on 02/02/2010

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You are not alone. My daughter is almost three and she hates the whole potty training idea. She loves watching the Huggies video on potty training, but I have to remind her every two hours and sit her on the potty. She still won't poop in the potty. This is our third attempt. She always got so constipated she made herself sick whenever we started trying. I've read everything I can on the subject and I finally figured that my daughter is very stubborn and has her own mind. (She'll make a wonderful adult). Right now, that is really frustrating for me. I am taking it really slowly. I don't have to worry about her wetting her pants because she can hold it all day. It's the going to the potty on her own and the pooping I have to worry about. I guess I'm just saying to be patient and try to make it fun. When it looks like it is her own idea, I am sure she will do it. Bribing and treats didn't work for my daughter. We are taking it one day at a time. Right now, I am just happy she goes when I sit her on the potty. We do big hugs and applause when she is done, she gets to dump the potty, flush the toilet and then we put a sticker on her calendar. She gets a sticker every time she uses the potty. Travelling and using the "big" potty are issues, but what can you do?

Danielle - posted on 02/01/2010

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My son managed number one long before number two. I did pretty much what has been suggested here, undies and candies.

I let him pick out underware at the store that were going to be special for the job.

He got to pick a treat, and we picked a day.



the diapers came off and that was it. There were LOTS of accidents, and it took a few days, but it does happen.

They have got to be ready though.



Best wishes in your venture.

Brooke - posted on 02/01/2010

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What I did was put my daughter in Panties at all times... and I also taught her the potty dance... but after a day of accidents Jayden got to where she hated to be wet... and it worked!

Soleil - posted on 02/01/2010

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I had a deadline with my boy because we are having another baby and I didn't want to have two in diapers... He was open to peeing, but he refused to poo in the potty. It was so frustrating, we bought the underpants he wanted, and tried candy... finally my friend told me to just leave him on the toilette until he went. It sounds harsh, but it worked. I put him on the potty and left him in the bathroom (I was just outside the door) and told him he couldn't come out until he went. The first time took 20 minutes, but each time it was less and less and honestly, by the end of the week, he was going on his own.

Giseli - posted on 02/01/2010

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Hi,i potty trained my daughter last year 2 months b4 she turned 3,i've tried b4 but her and i wasn't really ready,so in August i had another baby and i've decided that 2 w/ diapers wasn't gonna be good,so one day i bought her princess big girl underwear(that''s what she likes)and we came home and that's all she wore all day,and i would put her on the regular toilet(so i wouldn't have to potty train her again when she got older)and i would wait and tell her that's what big girls like her cousins and friends do,and one day she finally did and i gave her one M&M for pee and 2 for poop,a week later after a 3 accidents she finally got it,oh and even when we went out she would wear underwear,but i had to bring extra cloths.So undies all day long and prizes,that's what worked for me,good lucky!!

Mandie - posted on 02/01/2010

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frustrating as it may be, trying when she doesn't show desire can set it back more. although i was against it at first, my daughter's daycare system of a swedish fish every potty trip was the only thing that worked for her.

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