How do you practice tough love

Lori - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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How do Moms practice tough love without breaking down and crying in front of them?

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Tara - posted on 08/09/2009

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It's really hard, and I think it's actually harder on you than it is on them because you know that if you break down then you are going to upset them or go backwards with what you are trying to do. I think knowing you have someone to vent to (whether it is hubby, COM, whatever) helps, because you know you can get through the tough part and crack up later.

Tiffany - posted on 08/09/2009

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Walk away. Toughest thing any parent will have to do too. Make sure your child is in a safe place ie, bedroom, and walk away, otherwise you will end up in a heap on the floor distressing your kids with your tears

Anita - posted on 08/09/2009

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ohh i forgot another example..bedtime...arrggg thats the worse when ur trying to teach them to self soothe..thts the toughest ...and i have broken down...but never vried infront of him...

Anita - posted on 08/09/2009

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its very hard...but u need to choose ur battles...

an eg of tuff loving...when kids dont eat their meals...u put them on the high chair for a good 15 min...if they dont eat take the meal away...they go without...during the day or btw meals dont give them any snacks...just a glass / bottle of milk b4 naps and bedtime...kids wont let themselves go hungry...



another eg..if u give lots of warning not to touch soemthing hot becos its dangerous and they dont listen...then u let them go and let them touch it...gaurantee that they'll remember and u no longer need to tell them again..or only need remind them what happened when they did...:)

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