how do you show your husbands you appreciate them

Mandy - posted on 04/30/2010 ( 18 moms have responded )

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So my hubby and I were going through some rough patches basically just not showing each other enough appreciation and its caused some bitterness on both sides. Trying to be better at showing him that I appreciate all he does for our family so that I can be home with the kids.....other than just telling him. What do you ladies do to show your man some appreciation?

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Erica - posted on 05/04/2010

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marriage is a 2-way street , so each person has to give a little bit of themselves to the other each day! No marriage is perfect though and sometimes we just need to go back to our vows and the moment we said I DO and remember why we love this person so much, and I know this has truly worked for my husband and myself. We also joined a group in our church called marriage, built to last and it is amazing! Sometimes just expressing how you feel to your spouse through something as simple as communicating how much youlove them. I agree with the text messages and little notes are sweet! Our bitterness came from my husband repressing his feelings and thoughts and not communicating them at all. On the other hadn, I am the total opposite, where as when something is on mymind and chest, I love talking it out, but it got to where I was the only one talking or it would end in arguments, so I began to repress to avoid disagreements and those feelings built and built until we began to communicate like a marriage should !! Prayer truly truly helps as well!! Our God is an awesome God!

LAtu - posted on 05/04/2010

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I surprize him with something he really loves, and write him notes and put it with his lunch, that he finds it when he has lunch, leave sms messages. Get his work clothes washe dand ready for him before hand... and of course a good long HUG with I love U and thank hom for being a wonderful husband and father!!!

Svetlana - posted on 05/03/2010

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I give a big smooch when he comes home from work, and tell him I appreciate everything he is doing for our family. I'm a stay at home mom. I try to make him feel like a king =) by making his favorite things, giving him a massage when he needs it. things like that, and of course lots of loving! =)

Ruth - posted on 05/03/2010

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I cuddle him at night, instead of the other way around... I remind him that I love him, and that he's the most important man in our lives!

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I make him meals and keep the house clean. If I notice something he usually does needs to be done and he's not available to do it then I do it for him. Sometimes you just need to hear it though :)

Kes - posted on 05/01/2010

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I just make sure I am around for him as well as the boys,giving all equal time to spend with me! Esp as my bf is not their natural father,but does all he can for them and me! I am also in the process of becoming a mystery shopper,so I can get out and earn money,even if just enough for food,taking a little pressure off of him being the soul money earner! Being able to take boys with me,means I also dont have to pay out for childcare!!

Jennifer - posted on 05/01/2010

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My husband and I have 4 children all under 4. I of course stay at home and he works a normal 8-5 job. We get up early everymorning to take a shower and eat breakfast together. He has a very heavy sweet tooth, so i have made my bread maker (I got at a yard sale for 5 dollars) my best friend. It is really easy, but I make him Home made cinnimon buns, monkey bread, or something like that for breakfast. He leaves for work and I start my normal day. I sent him texts all day with quotes I know will make him laugh, simple i loves yous, or if hes nice maybe a picture mail. He come home eveyday for lunch, and I have it waiting on him, I typically have dinner on the table and try to have everything at the hous taken care of so he has no worries when he gets home. Every Sat night, he take our oldest (sometimes the 2 oldest) to the races. (his hobby and interest) It gives him his man time....lol..... I live sticky notes or buy something little but with meaning to leave in his car for the nest day. Just the little things. Maybe rub his head or shoulders while we are watching tv. I have known my husband for 15 years, and hes my best friend. His only request is a date night once a week. We cant always go every week, but the weeks we cant get out, we have a movie nigh at home, were when the kids go to bed, its "us" time. And thats what he loves the most, The fact that he gets my undivided attention. Just lke a kid.......lol..... I Love him though..... He feels special for the attention. When I go shopping I always make it a point to bring him his favorite candy bar or snack. And I guess just the fact that I think about him makes him happy!

Brean - posted on 05/01/2010

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i cook.... and not the usual nightly dinner. i cook his favorite meal, chicken parmesan and spaghetti. cheesecake for dessert. and soda. OR i do one of his usual chores, i.e. trash, taking the car to get serviced.

Nichole - posted on 04/30/2010

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I tell him randomly! I'll reflect with him about things that made me fall in love with him and things that I love that he does... I'll randomly text him and what I find sexy about him, and just how blessed I feel to have found him... but as far as doing things... cooking his favorite meal, really getting into things he specifically loves (my hubby loves his sports) two years ago I got us really great tickets to a giants game he loveddddd that, but on a smaller and just as fun scale hosting a little party for the world series or just the two of us going to the driving range... Getting fun/new lingerie... Sometimes even just getting dolled up... The lack of occasion and specific interest in him really shows him that I'm thinking about him and its because I appreciate him so much... he always takes notice and does things to let me know he's thinking about me too...

Casey - posted on 04/30/2010

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I tell him that I am proud of him. I also get him his favorite breakfast kolaches from Donalds donuts and every once in awhile sneak in some golf balls. If you and him can get away for a couple hours, that usually works to. If you are like us and are unable too, pick a movie and do date night when the kiddos are asleep. Spring it on him. Those alwsays are nice. wink! wink! Of course, our kids are in bed by 745-8, so it is still a decent time to pop in a movie after a long week.

Good luck!!

Kristin - posted on 04/30/2010

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I say thank you. I make a point to make a favorite dish sometimes, I ask his opinion on things we do at home. Basically, I make an effort to include him more and ask about his day.

Medic - posted on 04/30/2010

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I let him come home and sleep next to me.....joking...sorta..my husband is military so we are both on the same page of always telling eachother what we appreciate about the other person. Like he always tells me he appreciates the fact that I gave up working to raise our kids and he knows its hard, and I appreciate the fact that he is not above jumping in and helping with the house or the kids and that he sacrafices to make sure we have a good life. Its all about having open lines of communication and anyways I think if I had dinner made when he got home he would thing I was poisioning him or something.

Ashley - posted on 04/30/2010

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My husband is in the military and used to deploy frequently so we learned to appreciate each other when we were able to be together. We dont have set chores in the house. I usually do pretty much everything, but if I dont he doesn't have a problem helping without me asking him to do it. We don't have family or friends around us to babysit so we can sneak off for date nights so I try to do little things like get him foods (usually junk foods) that he really likes or rent the movie he's been wanting to see so we can spend time together. I always tell him how much I love him and appreciate what he does for our family because I don't want him to forget it. It seems to have been all the little things that have made the biggest difference in our marrige and brought us closer together. Every couple argues and has their own problems, we just all have try to remember to show our appreciation and never forget what brought you together in the first place. Good luck with everything!!

Tanya - posted on 04/30/2010

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I make his lunch for him and have ready for him when him leaves in the morning. Sometime I leave notes in it or on the table or fidge. I also send him text messages with lines from very cheesy love songs b/c i know it makes him laugh. I will make him his favorite dinner or let him pick the movie out even if he wants to rent/watch something i hate. Sometimes the best nights are when you just heat something up in the oven and spend some time other with having to do a lot of cooking or dishes.

Joanna - posted on 04/30/2010

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what I do sometime's is have dinner ready ( of course I make his fav.) when he gets home from work and eat with him and talk about his day and my day. Maby one thing you can do is a breakfast in bed with his favorites or go out on a date and do something that he like's to do good luck

Tracy - posted on 04/30/2010

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I meet my husband for lunch during the work day, keep the house tidy (not perfect, but tidy), make foods he likes for dinner, run errands for him that he would normally do, give him a massage, get the kids in bed early for some alone time, get him a card that just says "thanks for all you do", just listen to him vent about work, take him on a romantic date, etc. I've been married 23 years, so I have lots in my arsenal! You are doing the right thing by remembering to show and say how much you appreciate each other. It is so easy to take your spouse for granted. I have had friends who lost their mates in car accidents or to cancer, so I am reminded that nothing in this world comes with a guarantee. We are not guaranteed a certain number of days in our lives, so we need to be grateful for every minute we have with those we love. If you practice being grateful, even the burdens in our lives become blessings. (Big mortgage payment? You have a house to live in. Children sick with a cold? Your children have healthy immune systems to fight off infection. Husband on a week long business trip? You have a gainfully employed husband who wants to provide for his family.) May God bless your marriage with many more years together!

Stephanie - posted on 04/30/2010

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I do one of 'his' chores, like the laundry or trash. not often, but once in a while without saying anything. He just lights up when he sees that he doesn't have to do it.
of course, it means one of my chores doesn't get done... so it's trade off. :) hehehe...

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