how do you tell your hubby you dont want anymore kids after 3 boys, he wants a girl! so bad

Jennifer - posted on 05/28/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




my husband and i (of 13 years) have 3 lovely boys togther ages 11, 3 and 1 years old and only 1 is in school! my husband works 12 to 14 hours out of the day while im at home 24/7 with my kids! i love my kids with all my heart and i would do anything for them! there will be days my husband dont even get to see them becuz when he gets off they are all asleep or about to go to sleep and he gets to see them a few minutes he really dont know what i go through all day everyday so its really easy for him to say he wants another baby, i feel it would just be harder on me then him! he didnt come from a big family it was just him and his brother! he so very badly wants a lil girl


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Kristin - posted on 06/01/2010




I agree with what the others had to say. A really honest dicussion needs to happen between the two of you. You should tell him about how feel about another child, no matter the gender. Talk about how little the kids really see of him with how much he works. Talk about how hard you are working to keep things together while he's at work. Talk about how you feel it will be harder on you rather than him. He needs to tell you why he wants a girl so badly. He needs to tell you if it must be his biologically. He needs to tell why he needs to have a larger family.

Good luck.

Rebecca - posted on 06/01/2010




My parents kept trying for a boy, and ended up with 6 girls before they gave up the ghost, lol. I suppose you should sit down and have a big discussion with your husband and list the pros and cons of the decision. Also, explain how you don't feel able to manage another child. I see that your younger two are still very young...Do you have to decide right now? Perhaps you could hold off on deciding until later, maybe when the 3 year old gets off to school you might be more willing to try for a girl? If you do decide to have another child, you could guarantee a girl by adopting. I hope you would consider that an option. (I was adopted, so I'm a huge proponent.) :)

Gemma - posted on 05/28/2010




Tricky! Honesty has got to be the way forward, you need to explain to him that even if you wanted another baby, the chances of it being a girl is very very slim, you guys clearly produce boys. It's not practical to keep trying until you get a girl and sadly your husband would have to work even harder and longer to support you if you had another baby. Ask him to really enjoy the kids you have. I hope you find the answer.

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