how do yu get the person yu love back??

Shaquan - posted on 05/11/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




ohkay so someone i loved since i was 12yrs old left me wit a child but i cnt get ova him i really wanna b with him soo bad and cry everyday w/o him i just dnt noe how to get ova him!!!!


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Kristin - posted on 05/11/2010




This is probably going to sound a little harsh but... in a nutshell, you get over him, by getting a life of your own. You find your own strength to stand on your own and care for your child. You find a career you love and hobbies you are passionate about. Basically, you find and learn to love yourself.

Only time is going to heal the wound in your heart. Now is the time to cry and lean on your friends and family. As a mom, you don't have the luxury of a good wallow in depression following a break-up. You can have a small one, but your child needs you to be strong and show them how to get through this too.

Know one knows if there is a future between you and this guy. But, you need to go the safe route, and plan and act for one without him as anything more than a co-parent to your child. Find yourself and you may also find that you come back together or that you can do better. I hope you find some peace soon.

Tanya - posted on 05/11/2010




Are you wanting to maybe try again at the relationship or are you ready to move on is one important question? Also how is his feelings toward you and what is his relationship status now? You have a child together and you still have feelings so I'm guessing he is involved in your childs life. If he is single and things aren't bad between you two and you want to try at the relationship agian I don't see why you can't express that to him, but if the split was a bad one this might not work because he may still have some hard feeling about the separation you may have to do some persueding and changing your tone when you see him.. If he is in a relationship I would advise you wait and see where that goes remember he has to be in your childs life and if that relationship goes anywhere the other person will be part of your childs life too.. If you are wanting to get over him I think you have to find in yourself that you are a great and beautiful person, make a change to yourself that you have always wanted to do (new clothes - you know how some of us moms end up with lots of sweats and t-shirts get some slacks heels and sexy shirts.. Get that hair cut you have always wanted to get) You will feel brand new and after that make time for yourself go out with some friends (call up some old friends and plan a eveing out listening to music or dancing) You will see how fun it is and that having fun helps time heal things in life.. I hope some of this helps.. Good Luck..

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