How hard is it going from 2 children to 3??

Lori - posted on 10/26/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )

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Hi there,



I have two boys, ages 4 & 2. I am thinking of trying for another. Is there anyone out there that has been through this that could help me? Just wondering how hard the transition from 2 to 3 has been for others.



Thanks,

Lori

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Kristina - posted on 11/09/2009

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My kids are 3 years, 2 years, 1 year, and 2 months. Going from one to two is hard, from two to three was easier than expected, from three to four is a bearly noticable change. Each time the change is less noticeable because you already know what you're doing and what to expect.

Shannon - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have three little girls. I have a 7 yr old, a 5 yr old and a 2yr old. My first two are only 18 months apart, so I thought it was a huge different going from 1 to 2. There are a few differences going from 2 to 3 but they are not as huge as 1 to 2. When you have three you just have to be easy on yourself. I used to beat myself up because I felt like I couldnt keep up with the house and the kids as well as I could with 2. I used to be super organized and neat and now I dont think you can find a time when you can walk through my house and not step over toys. Oh well. I just keep telling myself that one of these days there wont be any toys to step over and I should enjoy my girls. I learned a lot about what was important in life when I had my third. My husband helps ALOT though. So I dont know how women who have three and do it all by themselves do it! You will be outnumbered. That is for sure. You have to learn to pick your battles or you will feel like you are getting on to at least one of your kids all day long.

Leeann - posted on 10/26/2009

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Hi Lori my name is Leeann. I just went from 2 kids to 3. I have a 5yr old a 3 yr old and now a 7m old. And all three are boys. It was a little harder at first but my oldest loves to help. the other one didnt want anything to do with the baby at first . But after a few months he warmed up to him. In my own oppinion I would say the first 3 months felt like H**L but now that I look back at it. It really wasnt that bad. I would go for it. My son was 2 when i got pregnant and turned 3yr 2 weeks after the baby was born. Its not bad and you will adapt to it quickly.

Michelle - posted on 10/26/2009

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Im glad you asked the question because I was wondering also....Thanks again and good luck...I have 2 ...Have a great day

Makeda - posted on 11/10/2009

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For me the 2 to 3 transition was a shock to the system. Ours are 8,6,and 2 years old. With 3 there is always something to do, and you really do only have two hands and two eyes! The lack of sleep in the begining was really bad because we had 2 in school, so I couldn't just "nap when the baby naps." Fast forward 2 years and it seems a lot better. Still juggeling the schedule and trying to squeeze in naps for the baby, but the 3 of them are so much fun, and it is all worth it in the final analysis. I always wanted 2 or 3 children, and three (though it comes with a bussier schedule and a sometimes messier house) just feels right.

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Charity_knox - posted on 06/04/2013

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I went from 1 to 3 kids my second pregnancy was twins. My oldest was 3.5 when the twins were born so I had 3 under 4. I am still getting used to it all LOL. They are 5 and 18 months. I found I felt more relaxed with parenting when the twins were born but time management became tough and my housekeeping managing skills need some help. I am getting there I thought it finally got a little more manageable after a year and then terrible 2's X2 came around and I think that it is even more difficult.

Emily - posted on 10/29/2009

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Hi, I have three children. They are 8,6,and 4. Of course everything is pretty easy now. I am apparently a little different, because I thought going from 2 to 3 was very difficult. To be fair I should tell you my third child is a difficult one. She had colic for a few months, she would not let anyone hold her but me. My husband and I live far from family so it is just me and him. Well really just me. At that time in my life I was getting at the most four hours of sleep at night. I would make sure I had a good support system for those days you need some extra sleep or haven't showered in a couple of days. Good luck either way!

Gin - posted on 10/29/2009

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3 was easy. I already lugged stuff around for 2. actually 4 was easiest. I wasn't even fazed. It was hard to remember I had 4 because nothing changed. :)

Debby - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have, almost 16, 12, 9 1/2, step son 6, 2, and 3 months. It isnt as hard as people make it out to be...I dont think so anyway. I didnt plan most of mine...God give you only what you can handle. I wouldnt trade any of them for anything!!! I'd even go though all the crap I have to have each one of them again. They are tough to handle at times..but over all good, & loving kids!

Jill - posted on 10/29/2009

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i have 3 kids 7,4 ,14 months.... 3 is no differnt than 2 .. keep a light schedule with room for adjustments.... my husband is a truck driver who is gone for 24 hrs periods and i do alot myself.. and i do it like its nothing,..,, you will have your husbands help so i say go for it.. if i could i would have more.. whats the difference... 3-4.... more kids to love,.....

Tina - posted on 10/29/2009

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I have 3 kids all at different stages an 11 year old a 2 year old and a 2 month old. I must say it's been really challenging for me trying to juggle the 3 of them. They all want your attention at the same time and I find myself stressed out alot of the time. I love all 3 of my kids very much and find it's not fair to them that i am having a hard time. Yu have a 4 & 2 year old adding another right now would make things extremely difficult on you

Sam - posted on 10/28/2009

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Hi I am a single mum of 3 girls and 1 boy aged 10,7,5 and 2 it's not that much different, Going from 1 to 2 was the biggest challenge after that it all just falls into place routines etc.. Ive found the trick is to feed them all around 5-6 then they are all sent to bed around 7pm we read then it's lights out which gives me time to myself to clean or relax. The house work gets a little on top of me but it is getting easier as they get older to keep up. I also found giving my older children age apropriate information about the baby coming and reading stories about families having new babies arrive, helped cut the jealousy to almost nil, I also got them to buy or make a little present for the baby and when the baby arrived I had a present ready for them from the baby. Alot of problms start because the baby gets all the attention and they feel left out. Hope this helps a little it is a lot of fun goodluck

Sherra - posted on 10/28/2009

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I have a girl and a boy, ages 4 and 2. We are talking about a 3rd also. I am glad to read that the transition is not so bad. My daughter has put in her order for a little sister, and she likes to tell everyone about it...I've had to tell several people that we don't have one on the way YET.

Cecile - posted on 10/27/2009

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I had a 2 1/2 boy,a not-quite 1 yet girl and a baby. It felt like triplets. But after the first year, it was a piece of cake. My sister who had 5 kids said the 5th one was a lot easier than the second one. So you have already done the hard part, transitioning from one to two.
I love the clever reply from Devin!

Lori - posted on 10/27/2009

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Thanks everyone so much! I really appreciate the feedback. I also love that email, it is hilarious!!

Michelle - posted on 10/26/2009

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Quoting Devin:

Hi!! I have 3 girls my oldest is 9 then 7 and finally 4. Really once you already have 2 the third child is mega simple. My girls were spaced out perfectly as one was potty training the next was in diapers. And the middle child syndrome didn't really start to kick in until she went to school and didn't understand why baby didn't have to (but now she loves school) My oldest daughter helped (and still does) with the younger ones and my middle daughter wanted to help just like big sis. For anyone who has 3 children you will appreciate this "joke" I got in an email:

Your Clothes

1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.

Preparing for the Birth

1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don't bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.

The Layette
1st baby: You pre-wash your newborn's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?

Worries
1st baby: At the first sign of distress - a whimper, a frown-you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.

Pacifier
1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.
2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.
3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.

Diapering
1st baby: You change your baby's diapers every hour, whether they need it or not.
2nd baby: You change their diaper every 2 to 3 hours, if needed.
3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.

Activities
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, BabySwing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.
Going Out
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.
2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.

At Home
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.

Swallowing Coins
1st child: when first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays.
2nd child: when 2nd child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for coin to pass.
3rd child: when 3rd child swallows a coin you deduct it from his allowance!!


I think that is hilarious!!!!!...Some of it is really true...I have a 9month old and a 2 yr old...boy/girl....It is so much fun!!!!

Jenn - posted on 10/26/2009

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I also went from 1 to 3. It is busier for sure, but I try to stick to a schedule and make sure each child gets some individual attention throughout the day so they all feel special. Also, my kids are all in bed early so that I make sure to get much needed Mommy time so that I can be ready to do it all again the next day.

Devin - posted on 10/26/2009

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Hi!! I have 3 girls my oldest is 9 then 7 and finally 4. Really once you already have 2 the third child is mega simple. My girls were spaced out perfectly as one was potty training the next was in diapers. And the middle child syndrome didn't really start to kick in until she went to school and didn't understand why baby didn't have to (but now she loves school) My oldest daughter helped (and still does) with the younger ones and my middle daughter wanted to help just like big sis. For anyone who has 3 children you will appreciate this "joke" I got in an email:



Your Clothes



1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.

2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.

3rd baby: Your maternity clothes ARE your regular clothes.



Preparing for the Birth



1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.

2nd baby: You don't bother practicing because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing.

3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.



The Layette

1st baby: You pre-wash your newborn's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau.

2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.

3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?



Worries

1st baby: At the first sign of distress - a whimper, a frown-you pick up the baby.

2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.

3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.



Pacifier

1st baby: If the pacifier falls on the floor, you put it away until you can go home and wash and boil it.

2nd baby: When the pacifier falls on the floor, you squirt it off with some juice from the baby's bottle.

3rd baby: You wipe it off on your shirt and pop it back in.



Diapering

1st baby: You change your baby's diapers every hour, whether they need it or not.

2nd baby: You change their diaper every 2 to 3 hours, if needed.

3rd baby: You try to change their diaper before others start to complain about the smell or you see it sagging to their knees.



Activities

1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, BabySwing, and Baby Story Hour.

2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.

3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.

Going Out

1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.

2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.

3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.



At Home

1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.

2nd baby: You spend a bit of everyday watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.

3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children.



Swallowing Coins

1st child: when first child swallows a coin, you rush the child to the hospital and demand x-rays.

2nd child: when 2nd child swallows a coin, you carefully watch for coin to pass.

3rd child: when 3rd child swallows a coin you deduct it from his allowance!!

Jodie - posted on 10/26/2009

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i went from having 1 child to having 3 so my situation is different to yours, however i didn't find it too hard the trick is to make sure that dinner times and bed times are all very structured that way you will get some time to yourself!! I find i'm more tired now than i used to be and sometimes things pile up on me (housework mainly) but i try not to worry about those things as i know they'll gett done eventuallty!! I think having a big family is lovely so try not to worry and go with your gut! Good luck with it all x

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