how is it that

Sharon - posted on 12/23/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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life can be so good but so ( i dont even know the words)...yet sometimes u still feel alone.my husband has a good job and we have a lovely little boy,whos nearly 3.all i seem to do is be a wife and mummy,im not too sure where im heading with this but do other mum's,get wot i mean..?

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Brandis - posted on 12/23/2009

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YES...i feel like all i do is cook clean etc etc ....were a one car family and im stuck inside all day...

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Jane - posted on 12/28/2009

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Hi Sharon,
I know what you mean. My hubby works away on a minesite so is gone for 2 weeks and home for 1. When he is home it's awesome, as he can dedicate 100% of his time to our lil boy, but sometimes it just feels like I am going through the motions, doing the same thing day in day out, when he is away at work. I try to keep myself sane by going out..even if it's just to the shops or like you said, even coming on facebook helps heaps!!
Hope things seem brighter for you soon x x

Sharon - posted on 12/28/2009

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even to this day and now that xmas is over.i have put away the tree,sorted out all of my son's old toys,clothes......etc.....But i am hpoefull that the new year will bring some new changes......good luck sahm...xx

Brittany - posted on 12/27/2009

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yes!!!! Sometimes I feel like I do nothing but cook, clean, and take care of Ashley! My husband is an awesome dad, but sometimes I just want to scream for him to give me an hour where I do nothing except what I want or need. I think all sahm moms have this same prob.

Jennifer - posted on 12/26/2009

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Quoting Sharon:

my hubby works 4 on 4 off and i do all the housework everyday without fail,sometimes im up till late doing it,but i feel my role is to do it coz he works(which i dont mind doing). this will sound sad,but sometimes i feel i have no real friends even tho i do have a car,and i look forward to facebook and here just to see wots been going on......if that makes any sense.....as im writing this it does sound like a mummy in need but of wot im not sure...help maybe..lol....talking to a laptop dont make sense but im glad that other mummy's do feel the same...but like i said the feeling is ........?



I know exactly what you mean!!! I do everything at the house which is fine. My hubby works anywhere from 10-18 hrs a day. He drives truck and I am so happy that he has a trucking job that lets him home everynight, but we never know what his schedule will be until that day. I really don't have friends either. All my friends from high school, I don't talk to anymore. We go to church and I talk to the other moms there a lot at church, but never go to their house or they to ours. We have a car, but money is tight and I feel like I can't go out, because it will cost money. I just feel like all I am is a mom. I don't even get a shower and get dressed every day, because what is the point. I am happy to have my children and am thrilled to be home with them, but sometime I just wish things would be about me. I know it sounds selfish, but I can't help it.

Megan - posted on 12/23/2009

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Yeah my hubby is a workaholic and when he does geta day off he has so many things to do...or now that their is snow on the ground he wants to go snowmobiling and just doesn't understand that I need some me time to. or would just like to get out of the house by myself for even just an hour! But then you feel like you can't complain because they will shove it in your face that they work all day and would switch positions with you...Yeah right I would love to see my hubby do what I do all day everyday!

Miranda - posted on 12/23/2009

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Quoting Brandis:

my husband leaves at 8 in the morning and comes home at 8 at night...and on days that he has off im like lets go out and go somewhere.he thinks i wanna go out and spend money and doesnt understand my neediness to get out of the house...sometimes i let the housework go and get depressed every now and then...im tired of laundry...im tired of dishes and vacuuming and dusting etc etc...i love being a SAHM for my son but it just gets old day after day after day....


This is exactly the way I feel and what I do.

Rachel - posted on 12/23/2009

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yup!!! i was a career girl before i had my daughter and i made the choice to stay home which i dont regret. I used to feel smart and important in my job but at home i feel so stupid sometimes (who tries to boil potatoes with no water?) i feel like iv lost all sense of identity and i cant do anything right. My house seems like its always messy no matter how much i clean it and den my partner comes home and says i have the life doing nothing all day!!!! its so frustrating i dont know how i could do a better job though! oh, the word i think you're looking for is 'monotonous'. Forgive the spelling if it is wrong.

Megan - posted on 12/23/2009

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Yep...I see my hubby maybe for 2 hours every night when he gets home from work, if I am lucky. Sometimes my kids don't even get to see him. I feel like a single mom! But appreciate all the hard work he does for our family! Hang in there! There are many of us out there! You should start a community on here for this! :)

Sharon - posted on 12/23/2009

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my hubby works 4 on 4 off and i do all the housework everyday without fail,sometimes im up till late doing it,but i feel my role is to do it coz he works(which i dont mind doing). this will sound sad,but sometimes i feel i have no real friends even tho i do have a car,and i look forward to facebook and here just to see wots been going on......if that makes any sense.....as im writing this it does sound like a mummy in need but of wot im not sure...help maybe..lol....talking to a laptop dont make sense but im glad that other mummy's do feel the same...but like i said the feeling is ........?

Brandis - posted on 12/23/2009

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my husband leaves at 8 in the morning and comes home at 8 at night...and on days that he has off im like lets go out and go somewhere.he thinks i wanna go out and spend money and doesnt understand my neediness to get out of the house...sometimes i let the housework go and get depressed every now and then...im tired of laundry...im tired of dishes and vacuuming and dusting etc etc...i love being a SAHM for my son but it just gets old day after day after day....

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