How long did you wait to have a second Child?

Danielle - posted on 03/13/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I had a beautiful Girl august 2009 and it wasn't long before I wanted another child. I have a sister 2 yrs younger then me, and I would like for my children to have the experience of having someone close in age to play with and to be close with as they grow. I guess I was wondering how much time between children is good? Too much and I fear that they may not have anything in common too little will they end up feeling like they need to compete for attention? What are your thoughts or what do you find a good balance in age difference.


Medic - posted on 03/13/2010




My kids are 3.5 years apart and its great, my son helps with everything for his sister who is 6 weeks and since he has been potty trained for 1.5 years its so easy. He gets anything his sister needs and is very protective of her.

Samantha - posted on 03/13/2010




i fell pregnant with my 2nd when my 1st was 6 months old and then he came a month early so theres only 14months between them and i love them dearly but i really wouldn't recomend having them too close together, they are 4 and 3 now and constantly fight and argue i have just had my 3rd and the age gap between her and my 2nd seems perfect. But each to thier own i would just say hang on if poss. Hope this helped :)

Chelsey - posted on 03/13/2010




My two little girls are 18 months apart. At first it was a bit difficult because of the closeness of age, but now at almost 3 and 16 months it's easy. They play together very well and it taught my older one compassion and how to share. There wasn't really much of a jealousy issue because they don't remember not having each other. My sister and I are 2 1/2 years apart and don't have anything in common and don't speak so it really all depends. Whether your children are close or farther apart they can end up being the best of friends or not have anything to do with each other.

Jessica - posted on 03/13/2010




I plan on trying again when my son is around a year and a half; possible sooner (he's 9 months now). I am like you in that I want them to be close growing up. BUT, I think it is very challenging when they are very young.. A few years ago I babysat my little brother and sister for a summer while my mom was working/in school. They were...6 and 8 I believe. They fought nearly constantly! They would play together for 10 minutes, then suddenly be screaming and fighting for the next 10... rinse, repeat. I was pulling my hair out and swore up and down that when I had kids they would be spaced farther apart than that! But now, just a couple years later and they are really close. I'm sure they will be best buds as they get older too. So there's good and bad.

I'm a year and a half older than my brother, and we were real close growing up too. But I'm also 5 years older than my sister and we're also close! So it just depends.

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My sister had her first daughter August 2008 and her second daughter October of 2009. She wanted children close in age and is now having a hard time with both of them. I personally want to have my daughter at least potty trained by the time I have another child. Having them about 3 years apart. I guess it all really depends on you. I think it is good to have children close in age, they become the best of friends, but you have to see if you can truly handle the challenge, because it won't be easy. Good Luck!

BTW my sister and I are 6 years apart, are the best of friends.


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