How long should i wait to have another child.

Stacy - posted on 05/27/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )




I have a 22 month old I dont want to have them to close but yet i dont want to have them to far apart so what is a good age gap . I also have'nt started to have the baby wants yet,but my husband has just dont know what to do...


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Katie - posted on 05/29/2010




it is complety up 2 u n ur partner n how u both feel bout it, but i personaly am gonna wait till my son is bout 2 n then try cos he cn go 2 play skl at 2yrs 9mths n then u cn have sm quality time with ur youngest while the oldest is at skl just like u had quality time with ur oldest

Amber - posted on 05/28/2010




i am going to try and wait till my baby boy atleast turns five:) he will b 3 in june!!

CHRISTI - posted on 05/28/2010




i recomend no less then 2yrs b/c you want the first baby to get its turn at being the baby or he will have issuses and a strained relationship with the bro/sis no more then 4yrs b/c u still want them to be close:) have a blessed day:)

Charity - posted on 05/28/2010




A doctors recommendation would be to wait at least a year. This is to give your body time to straighten out the hormones and put itself back on a schedule and so that it's not stressing it out as much. Your body goes through so many changes during pregnancy and even more so after especially if you are breastfeeding. My son will be three in July and my husband and I plan on "playing" for the next one in August. It's really up to you and your husband but I would suggest waiting at least a year just to give your body that chance to recuperate.

Kylie - posted on 05/28/2010




I have 2.5 yrs, 3 years 2 months and then 2 years 2 months between and the 3 year gap is great, toilet trained, walking, independent.

Dahlia - posted on 05/28/2010




Up to you hon...if you think it time than it fiest and second was a year apart but my third was 8 years after my second. I think if I want to get pregnant again i will try again after 3 years. It the right time for me. different people will think differently.

Roz - posted on 05/27/2010




My daughters are 3 years 3 months apart and I can't tell you how EASY it has been with this age gap. 2 months before my second was born my first started holding her pee all night, taking herself to the bathroom, doing pretty much everything by herself except bathing. When the baby came she has yet to show any ounce of jelousy towards her and really does anything to make her laugh. She is so helpful I can't imagine it going any better.

I should make a disclaimer that my oldest daughter has a very mild but happy spirit so I know that helps lol...but my Mom said the same age gap was really wonderful between her first two.

Medic - posted on 05/27/2010




I also agree that this is something y'all just need to sit down and talk about but mine are 3 years and 4 months apart and I LOVE it we plan on having the same gap between #2 and #3.

Chelsey - posted on 05/27/2010




My daughters were born 18 months apart and I love them being close in age. At first it was harder, but now they play great together for the most part - they are 3 years old and 18 months old now. We are actually trying for another one so hopefully the middle and the youngest will be around 2 1/2 years apart which seems like a lot to me just because the girls are so close together lol. I figure that whatever age gap you feel comfortable with is what you should go for some people love having their kids close and others like having 3-5 years apart.

Mandy - posted on 05/27/2010




My kids are all pretty close in age. My oldest was 3 when baby #3 was born. So, I like them close together. They all play with each other and entertain each other. I was the oldest of 3, my brother being 21 months younger and then my sister was 7 years younger. I grew up with my brother but I really wasn't there when my younger sister was growing up. I don't think she liked having it that way either. I vote for closer being better. There is a point where things start getting easier with children and then you will have to start all over with things being hard again with a baby. I never got an easy phase with my 3 but things are finally getting easier now that my youngest is 2. We're finished with diapers and she even dresses herself. It's nice!

Kelina - posted on 05/27/2010




Do you know why your husband is so eager to have another baby right now? There may be a reason that you'll agree with, or it may be something kinda stupid. Either way i would sit down and talk with him and find out what he's thinking and feeling, and tell him what you're thinking and feeling. No one can tell you the perfet number, only you and your husband can decide that. If he doesn't seem to be thinking too much, try drawing up soemthing to see if you're financially prepared for another child. It might be a bit of a reality check. Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2010




At least I'm not the only one debating this issue too..I sadly have already begun the baby wants,my son is turning 1 next month.I wouldn't mind have two kids in diapers & I personally don't want them to far apart either.but this is something you& your husband should really sit down& discuss..The way my sons father is handling it is..if it happens it happens no birth control nothing.I'm ready to have my last baby since I've decided personally I only want two kids after i have the second one I will be getting the IUD or some sort of birth control. remember your the one who has to carry the baby&the one who has to deliver..if your husband really wants one before your ready to relive pregnancy again i'd tell him to go get one of those pregnancy bellies with the weights in it& wear that for 9 months then decide if he wants to put you through all that right away.

Jennifer - posted on 05/27/2010




honestly, that is a question only you and your husband can answer. When you are ready, go for it. I don't believe there is any magic age gap. If you don't want two in diapers at the same time, then you may want to wait a little longer. If you want them to be closer in age, then go for it now. My children are fairly close together. My first two were 15mo apart. My third came when the 2nd one was 2-1/2 and my forth one will be here when my youngest will be about 2-1/2. I have loved having them close in age, and couldn't imagine it any other way. I have had people tell me though, that they waited til the youngest was in school before having another one, and they loved having the quiet time during the day with the baby.

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