How many of you are moms that stay home when all kids are in school?

Amber - posted on 05/02/2012 ( 52 moms have responded )

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I have three kids all in school. I thought by now i would be working cause all my kids are in school. My husband tells me i don't have to work if i don't want. I really don't want to work either cause i like the fact that the house is clean, i can pick the kids up from school, and can have dinner ready by the time hubby gets home. Just wondering if there is anyone else that is in the same boat.

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Rachel - posted on 05/04/2012

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Complicated question. I like the good point made about being able to get everything done before kids are home. I'd like to work from home, or volunteer at my kids school. Flexibility is a must. But one can't be too careful about ensuring your employability. My aunt was a lifetime SAHM, then to the surprise of everyone, her husband ran off when she was 60. She sells her crochet work at craft sales, but is painfully poor, living off the charity of her family. My other example is my mil, who, bless her heart, has let her life skills attrophy to the point where all she's capable of is watching news radio and playing farmville. Even going to the store gives her an anxiety attack. Obviously, she had these inclinations before the kids left, but I've watched her rapidly decline, from only her own amusements. Humans need hard work to thrive, and once the kids aren't as pressing, we need to contrive it (since so few of us grow our own carrots; and churn our own butter, and those that do dont NEED to). So, my advice is to ensure, and maintain a viable plan B, and make sure you are still getting adequate practice in basic life skills when you discover you have far less on your plate.

Marylou - posted on 05/02/2012

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I also have 3 kids that are in school. It's crazy how time flies though while they are at school. Between work, cleaning, and running errands, they are home before I can slow down. I'm blessed to be able to work in my home, so I'm usually all done by the time they come home. And if I'm not, I'm still able to split my time between work and kids because I'm here at home.

Oh by the way, if you or anyone you knows would like to work at home, our company is always looking for friendly people that want to earn an extra income. Just thought I'd throw that out there, he he;)

Marylou

Shellyann - posted on 06/09/2012

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I've been a stay at home for years, I've also worked in between that time and I must say it was better for me being at home for the kids. Now they are much older and for the most part can handle things for themselves. I recently started back working because I wanted to and also because its time for me to start doing things I like to do don't get me worng I'll always be there for my kids but its my time to go do things like every once in a while. With my job I still make it in time for when they get home from school. I don't knock anyone wanting to be home with their kids, it's the best thing ever.

Danielle - posted on 06/08/2012

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I am a full time stay at home mom, and have been for most of their lives I did try to work but realized I never got to see them nor my boyfriend(their dad) let alone have anytime to go out to the park, or take them to a movie, or even the simplest kids bday parties. So I went back to being home all the time, it does get draining every now and again cause there are really no suprises when you keep the same schedule but I enjoy taking care of my kids and my boyfriend. They have breakfast every morning, lunches to take to work/school and a hot dinner at 5:30 every night. The house is almost always clean (hard chasing two kids to pick up toys) but for the most part clothes are washed and put away, dishes are done with a clean kitchen, floors are swept and mopped every other day and groceries are always in the fridge/pantry. I find these as perks but as long as you find you time every now and again for me that confirms I love staying at home and having time to help my kids with homework or lay on the floor and color with them, and even take walks to the park to play before dinner. Its simple but fun and weekends are always family time we do at least on family outing every weekend, I believe our family is closer because we have to time to go out and do thing and not worring about the house need cleaning or grocery shoppings not done, but it's all in how you look at it. Hope this helped, have a great day!

Debbie - posted on 06/03/2012

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Hi, I have 6 kid's- which of 5 are in school 4 are older and 2 are the youngest.
Ranging 21, 20 18,15,5 and 3month old. And yes I'm in the same boat.
No I'm not working but-\ have been til I had my 6th one.
Any way would love to chat if you have the time.

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Katiana - posted on 05/01/2013

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Oh Yes! I'm on the same boat as you...I found a part-time job that I only worked the hours that the kids were in school. I got to drop them off and pick hem up everyday. I was very lucky to find such a flexible work schedule. Unfortunately, I am back to staying home because summer vacation is soon to start. But, now I am at home going crazy!!! not having that extra weekly cash kind of sucks too!!!

Mary - posted on 06/12/2012

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I've done both and my children are now older in school. While I think it is wonderful to be home with children, it is my opinion good to have a skill for supporting your family if need be or an unfortunate situation were to happen which required you to return to the work. The future is hard to predict and it is not impossible for job loss, a disability or marriage to have issues resulting in a stay at home mother needing to work. Being out of the work force for a long period of time could be a disadvantage if you were to need to return all of a sudden.

Again, I say stay at home, but have a Plan B around if you were to find yourself needing to go back to work to put food on the table. This maybe a great time to improve your education. I loved going back to school as an adult.

Andrea - posted on 06/10/2012

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I am a mom of 3. I am lucky to be in an area where they have free all day preschools for 3 years olds. I have a set of twins that I am hom with all day. My twins will be heading to preschool this year in the all day program. I work part time from home for a company from home and I have my own WAH business with my husband and I just got my real estate liscense to further have the freedom to have a schedule that works for my children and continue to bring in an income. For me its what I want to do. I don't have to work if I dont want to but its just my make up.

My children outside of God and husband are my number 1 priority. I am the mom that volunteers for everything all the trips etc and I have totally rearranged my life so I can always be available for anything that comes up with them school activities, trips etc. I have 2 degrees and I have been working since I was 14 so working is just in my blood. I do have a happy medium it took some time to figure it all out but I am there everyday to get my child when he gets out of school, play with them, take them to playdates etc, work from home and maintain a house with 3 toddlers. Luckily I found the perfect WAH business for me and company that is so great and other opportunities that I can be flexible. This will be me in a few months but not quite because I still work from home thank God for technology I can work from anywhere and at anytime.

Carrie - posted on 06/06/2012

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I have a 4th grader and a second year kindergartner and I am still a stay at home mom. My husband and I always felt it was important to have someone who could totally be at the kids disposal for sports practices, if one gets sick and needs to be home or when they get done with school to help with homework. I do volunteer at the school on a pretty regular basis but I do like being able to do chores around the house when no one is there or go into a store without being asked for a new toy fifty times. :) They grow up so quickly...I like being able to be at home with them to watch every minute of it.

Liz - posted on 06/05/2012

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I'm sorry you feel so much pressure! Most SAHM's get that from the people around them and it stinks. Nobody should make you feel like you aren't contributing just because you're not getting a paycheck. I suggest searching for some literature that explains all the benefits of having a permanent mother in the home (there's TONS of it) and really siting down to talk to your husband about why it's important to you. He might really be surprised and more supportive than you think. Good luck!

Liz - posted on 06/01/2012

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Being a home maker is a valuable and worthwhile occupation, even if you aren't making money! You do so many amazing things for your family that would be very missed (believe me) if you were not at home all the time. You are the rock, and you are what makes your home a warm, welcoming place to come home to after a long, hard day. Never let anyone devalue the path you have chosen just because you aren't earning an income. Of course there are lots of ways a SAHM can contribute financially, especially if she is good at being frugal. My husband wouldn't have me go to work for anything, and he's only been making $10 an hour since we were married 3 years ago. He recently started a much better paying job, and I am sooo glad we stuck it out and made it this far without me having to go to work. And when our kids are grown, I'm going to still be busy doing all the things I am now, but I may be getting a few more hours of sleep, and I will finally have time to fix my hair in the morning, and other than that my day will be pretty much the same. A mother's work is never done, no matter how old your children are. : )

Keri - posted on 05/31/2012

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My mom was a SAHM until both my brother and I were in middle school - the school we were in was just a few blocks away, so in good weather (we lived in MI) and even snow (barring blizzards) we walked to school. She would drive us if the weather was too bad. She was home until we left for school, then she'd leave for work. We'd get home from school around 3 and it would only be a couple hours before she got home. After middle school it didn't really matter to me all that much because I was so involved in school activities I often didn't get home until 10 or 11 pm some nights. If it's working for you, I don't know why you would stop. You're obviously not itching to jump into the workforce and I don't blame you. I say keep doing what you like.

Jenna - posted on 05/25/2012

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I don't have all five of mine in school yet but I look forward to the day when they are because then I can really help out at school more, and work on some church-related things that I just can't get done when they're home. I like the idea of being able to keep the house clean, be there for my kids if they need me during school hours, and having dinner at a reasonable time and being the one to take my kids to their after-school things, etc. I can find plenty to keep me busy without having to go to work when they are all in school.

Debra - posted on 05/24/2012

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Brenda - posted on 05/24/2012

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I too have all school age children, 3 older kids are in high school and my youngest is in 2nd grade. I too do not want to work right now, however, I can't seem to stop the boredom. I get the house clean, the laundry done, and still have HOURS left..

Debra - posted on 05/23/2012

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Debra - posted on 05/23/2012

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@ Miranda, I know where you are coming from, doing all that work and not getting paid. But don'e let anyone make you feel guilty about not going to work, as long as you and your husband are satisfied that's all that matters. However, if you would like to help out with the finances and get to stay home and keep doing what you are doing. I have the perfect opportunity for you.. I am partnered with a Wellness Company that specializes in helping moms stay home and care for their families and earn residual income. That is income you will receive month after month. What make this business special is that you are already doing what it takes to build this business but you are not getting paid for it. My job is to show you how you can get paid.. If you would like to know more message me or email debraluster@hotmail.com. I love Helping moms stay home and I know the little ones will love it too. If anyone else that read this would like info. let me know.....

All That Makes You... - posted on 05/23/2012

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So you are home but it isn't like you aren't working. I am home with three kids that are in school during the day but I still have plenty to do.

Nahasha - posted on 05/22/2012

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Hello, My name is Nahasha. I'm new here and I have a six year old son who has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, ADHD, and ODD. we have had it rough. The moment he started walking I knew something was wrong but yet I continue to embrace his disabililities and turn them into positive motivation for us both. Recently they approved his disability case. It took three years for their approval. I had to stay with a negative relative, had to swallow my proud so that I could devote my time to my son, his school which called my two or three times a week before they transfered him to a disabled school. He's been on medication since he was 3 years old. I'm a single mom and I'm at home for my child and I don't care what nobodyelse say, I' m proud of me being more than society's image of what a woman is surpose to be. Because I took up three roles ... Father, Mother, and a Godly woman!!!

Ann - posted on 05/17/2012

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Yes. I intended to go back to work but my husband works late and travels and so it falls on me to do everything surrounding parenting and home, even with one kid. I feel like a single parent most of the time. The economy didn't help - I tried to get a job, with good qualifications, but never found anything in 2009-11. I gave up. we live out in the country and going anywhere is a long drive. Between doctors appointments, sports events and practice, managing all our finances including some business interests, keeping the house and yardwork, doing all the shopping and errands, it would be much harder to work outside the home with my husband away so much. I do have some personal time in the mornings if I choose to make it 'me' time, but from 2pm til bedtime I have no free time at all. I asked a friend who went back to her professional job 3 months after the birth of son if she would stay home if she could and the answer was "absolutely." I had been agonizing over giving up my career by not returning to work. I dont' regret that decision but now that I have a teen think I should work outside the home at least part time to be a role model and get more respect as well. My family takes me for granted most of the time - every time I have had a potential job they freak out at losing my 100% attention and availability. It would be a good thing for them to get a bit less dependent or at least realize that they need to pitch in and participate.

Viv - posted on 05/17/2012

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Hi Amber P., I'm a stay at home mom too. I have five kids at school and I want to work but my husband tells me the same thing. I keep busy with my daily work at home and also at school in my youngest son class room.. Glad to know that we have something in common..

Gina - posted on 05/16/2012

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hello Amber!!! I'm wife/mom that hasn't really work for 12 years. I will love to go back to work, sometime soon, if not, that's okay too. My husband is okay wtih it. So you aren't alone, just be there for your family, isn't nothing wrong with staying at home.

Bethany - posted on 05/10/2012

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I'm the same as Stacey. still undecided about school or distance ed. If my daughter does go to a school, I'll be volunteering the hell out of the place, keeping a very close eye on things. As I don't work, I will be able to do that. I've always wanted to help with Meals on Wheels delivering or washing up or whatever. I'll sew more. All the volunteering keeps me in the work loop, I'm a registered volunteer at our neighbourhood centre I run a playgroup there, so that gets me a child safety blue card, and work-cover while I'm there. I think the more you get out into the school/kindy, society groups, etc, the easier it will be to get references and experience for if I need to go back to work in any capacity.

But I won't work outside the home if I don't have to. We'd rather scrimp and save more than have me work.

Tabitha - posted on 05/10/2012

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If your finances allow you to stay home, I would stay home. If you run out of things to do, contact the schools or pre-schools and see if you can volunteer. A lot of schools are allowing parents to come in for reading time or filing. You usually just have to pass a criminal history check.

Lori - posted on 05/07/2012

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I have 2 boys 9 and 11 and a three year old, before my daughter I was in the same boat, I decided to use my "free" time to volunteer for a couple of non-profit groups a couple of days a week. I felt like I was helping to make a difference, I got the rewards of a job well done, but still had the flexibility to be home when my kids were sick and keep my family running smoothly. I will probably do that again when my daughter is in school full time.

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Amber, there is no right time go back to work. Each mom and family, has a different situation. What we thought we were going to do and what we end up doing are often not the same, and that's OK. Accept and enjoy where you are right now. You will know when you are ready to start looking for work outside the home.

Kelly - posted on 05/06/2012

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My kids will both be in school full time in the fall. I don't want to go back to work, either, I like being able to volunteer at school, be available if they are sick, etc. My husband has been very supportive about my decision. I also like having to time to craft, and may sell my works at some point.

Stacey - posted on 05/04/2012

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I don't know what I'm going to do. I'm going back and forth about homeschooling our two kids, and if that was the case, I'd be home all the time until the youngest is 18! lol, no, not necessarly. I'd give them the option to go to public school by the time they are in middle school. I think I would love to continue to stay at home when the kids are in school, but my husband has a physically demanding job, and if I could work some to help take the burden off of him, I think that would be good too, and it would help get me out of the house! So, I guess I have a couple years to decide. DS is 3 right now.

Miranda - posted on 05/04/2012

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Both of my kids are in school. I am still a SAHM. I dont want to go back to work. However his parents have mentioned it many times. Now he is starting to hint that I should go back to work. However I am the one that picks up sick kids from school, I would be the one to stay home from work with sick kids. Plus I get sick often. Then there is cleaning the house, cooking, shopping, laundry. I am worn out with all this stuff. Plus I volunteer my time at the kids school as well. I wish I wasnt pushed into feeling like I am on the count down of going back to work soon. I already work I just dont get paid. I know money is tight, but it would or could be worse if I go back. More gas for driving, child care if I cant get mommy hours, plus what if I loose the job? Then there is summer. Who would watch my kids? I certainly enjoy my summers with my kids, but I would have to pay for them to be in some kind of program. UGH!

Cheryl - posted on 05/04/2012

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I have been a stay at home mom for 24 years. I do run a daycare out of my home to help support our family but originally was only going to do that until my youngest started school. Surprisingly, I absolutely love doing daycare and I have loved being home for my own children as well. I loved being here when they got home from school, that I could get things done around the house and make dinner every night. I don't think I would have liked it as much if I didn't do daycare because I love having the children around but I have never regretted my decision to stay home and work here rather than work outside the home.

Cheryl - posted on 05/04/2012

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I have been a stay at home mom for 24 years. I do run a daycare out of my home to help support our family but originally was only going to do that until my youngest started school. Surprisingly, I absolutely love doing daycare and I have loved being home for my own children as well. I loved being here when they got home from school, that I could get things done around the house and make dinner every night. I don't think I would have liked it as much if I didn't do daycare because I love having the children around but I have never regretted my decision to stay home and work here rather than work outside the home.

Neneng - posted on 05/04/2012

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I have three grown kids... my eldest daughter is now married and have life of her own.. She had an 8 year old, one and only daughter. my second, son, who is gainfully employed and will be getting married this coming december... my youngest daughter is now in her 3rd year college, and working part time this summer. I am still a SAHM, althou sometimes i want to work again, but then its hard to find a job when you are above 50, here in the Philippines. Just doing some seasonal business like baking some goodies for giveaways or merely cooking for family & friends, for parties.
My family is relaxed and comfortable when I'm at home. I am the shock absorber, the Mcgyver, Call center... name it... but i love being a SAHM, my husband and children are in tact.. and happy to see me when they arrive home from work and school.

Crystal - posted on 05/03/2012

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At the rate things are going, I won't know the answer to this question because we home school our kids due to bullying issues and other reasons as well. However, I had hoped to return to work once the kids were all in school because I enjoy working and the extra money would definitely come in handy with paying off debt and also gaining a savings and giving kids some added memories. With me being a SAHM though, we have to pinch pennies, but it's worth it.

Sonia - posted on 05/03/2012

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Hi Marylou
I would love to find out more of what you do. I am a SAHM of two young girls and would love to earn some extra income.
Shoot me a message when you can.
Sonia :)

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If we had the money I would never go back to work. I always wanted to be a writer, and If the kids were at school I would give myself some time each day to write, it would be amazing. But I want a better life for my kids than just barely making the bills, and things like that, so once my youngest if off to school it's off to work for me!

But like I said if I didn't have to work I would have a clean house, beautiful garden, home grown vegies, nice dinner each night, and time for writing.

User - posted on 05/02/2012

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Hi Amber, I have a 7 year old (in Gr1), a 5 year old(preschool 2xweek) and a 2 year old. I love staying home, my husband is also supportive but I do work once a week to help out on sport costs- mainly hockey, etc... We just can't seem to quite make it by the end of the month otherwise. I love it and want to continue for a while..plus I can volunteer in school if I want. Life is too short to do what others expect you to do.

User - posted on 05/02/2012

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Hi Amber, I have a 7 year old (in Gr1), a 5 year old(preschool 2xweek) and a 2 year old. I love staying home, my husband is also supportive but I do work once a week to help out on sport costs- mainly hockey, etc... We just can't seem to quite make it by the end of the month otherwise. I love it and want to continue for a while..plus I can volunteer in school if I want. Life is too short to do what others expect you to do.

Annaleigh - posted on 05/02/2012

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I have a friend who does that. I think it would be nice, even though I do miss working. I need to find a happy medium.

Michelle - posted on 05/02/2012

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I only have one daughter she is 11 and next year will be in the 6th grade. I have not worked since she was 7 months old. My husband owns his own automotive shop, there are times i have nothing to do but then there are times im doing nothing but running and book work. I like it because i am home for my child especially in the summer. There are time im board silly though. I have a pretty good life, but i have had to make sacrifices to be able to stay home.

Laura - posted on 05/02/2012

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lucky you girls that your husbands make enough money for you to stay home
enjoy
i wish i were like you

Amy - posted on 05/02/2012

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You have a great hubby there. I am currently at home but will have to get a job soon or at least by the time all my 5 are in school. Taking care of your family is a perfectly wonderful job.

Caron - posted on 05/02/2012

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Amber, I was on the other side for years. Oddly enough, my two sons are still home and are 16 and 18. I cannot imagine working outside the home and doing everything they need, what my husband needs, keep the house semi-descent and look after my parents....

Enjoy it! It is a blessing to be in our place!

Lady Heather - posted on 05/02/2012

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Not yet, but I don't intend on going back to work when my kids are all in school. I might volunteer a couple days a week, but I think I will keep busy with home and garden. My husband has been told that he can work three weeks on and one off so we will probably move to our dream location and then he will be away working so I will be doing everything myself. I think a job would make that stressful. I look forward to his weeks off. Kids at school, neither of us working. We can have date day everyday!

Mary - posted on 05/02/2012

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hi amber,

all together i have five kids, my older two have already been out on their own while my younger three are all in schoolsame boat for sure. if i worked it wouldn't make any difference b/c the money i'd make is no where what my husband has ever made, being a former teacher turned rental property owner.manager. i am more of a silent partner though i still help him with parts of the business too when he needs me. i don't feel bad about being home. the only complaint for me is lack of recognition for what i do for everyone. i also know i am not alone in that department.
if i did have a choice i'd do creative writing from home, but its not much of an option now. good lcuk and enjoy being sahm! :)

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I am. I actually did do a part time job this year for the first time--I started doing freelance photography for textbooks and portfolios--and found it is a HUGE time drain (but I like doing it, so I'll probably do it again next winter). I start in February and work about 4-6 hours a week until mid May.

I do stay home for the same reasons you do. Because my son is in school (and other activities) my time with him is limited. I don't want to spend the bulk of the time he is home running errands, shopping, and cleaning the house. I get all that stuff done while he is at school, so that in the evenings when he gets home, I can focus 100% on him--help with homework, catch up on his day and happenings at school, and just chill and play with him. If I worked while he was in school, I wouldn't be able to give him the attention he needs in the evenings because I would be focused on stuff that should have been done during the day. Plus, I need time for ME. From the moment J gets home, until at least 9:30 or 10:30pm, I am going non-stop. If I work while J is at school, I'd never have time to myself to pursue my own hobbies and interests, and then I'd get burnt out and be an irritable, mean mommy.

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