How much of a change was it to have your second child?

User - posted on 02/02/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I want a big family, my son is turning 2 next month and wanting to start trying for another baby, possibly by the end of the year. I have got the jitters lol thinking of how I was a zombie during the first feew months with my child now. I have supportive family, but they all work and I know just as the first I am basically doing it on my own, expecially if i can breastfeed again. My husband will help but with work, of course I have the majority.
I just worry because I want to provide 100% to my first son while taking care of the second. Im afraid Ill be soo sleep deprived I wont be able to give everything my babies need. I guess this is normal, but is there anything that I can do to make it a little bit easier on myself?

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Mary - posted on 02/02/2013

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I remember thinking the same thing, will I have enough of time, love, ability ...etc. to care for more than 1 child. I found that the more you have the more you are able to love!
There are great support groups that you can connect with to guide you along the way. My favorite was MOPS. An international organization that networks and encourages Moms to be the best they were intended to be! They are usually run by churches, but aren't a bible thumping type of ministry Women are powerful! :) A room full of women... wowza!

If you and your husband are financially wise, and you are healthy, why wouldn't you bring another child intothis world! New LIfe New Hope! :) It's a challenge, inthis culture. Stay firm as a couple, be flexible, don't sweat the small stuff and tap into your faith. Things WILL work out!

Chelsey - posted on 02/02/2013

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When you have the second get your first as involved as possible. My girls are 18 months apart and the first 4 months were the hardest because they were on opposite schedules. I got my eldest to get diapers and receiving blankets etc for me which made her feel important. While feeding I would read her stories.

You are going to be tired and your son is going to have to learn he has to wait sometimes. Just make sure that when baby is napping to take some time to do something special with your son. Kids adapt pretty quickly. Good luck :)

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User - posted on 02/02/2013

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Yea we definently put our faith in God to be right there with us. When we first had our baby we had it rough financially, but its been about 2 yrs and we are soo much better! Things really do work out. With my son we actually joined a group called hands, at the health department. They were really great. They have helped me become the best mom I can and I am so glad to have been a part of the group. They only visit like an hour each week, but you are right something like that is supportive, they might not come in and help me physically with him but they help me emotionally and teach me things I can do for him to help his development, and for me that really reduces my stress.
lol I think about all I do for my son now and think about makiing it 2,3,4 more and its a happy yet stressful thought. You are right I shouldnt stress about it, I know we will make it through, but yea anything that make sit easier really helps

User - posted on 02/02/2013

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thanks chelsey, I will use you tips when I do have another. I was wanting to wait until he is 3 so hopefully hell be done or close to done with potty training and hes a little older and independent. Yea i want to give him as much attention as possible, and with him helping that should really make him feel good. My son loves books so reading will probably work like a charm. Thanks!!!

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