how much time should i spend wit my kids?

Samantha - posted on 12/28/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




hi so i wanted to know how long i should play wit my son. hes 2 and does his own thing most of the time. i play with him every once in a while but i dont wanna be over bearing or control his playtiome. am i wrong? should i have a scheduale for him?


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Diana - posted on 12/29/2009




Samantha, my daughter is two and she does the same thing. She play on her own and if she wants me or my husband to play she comes to us. sometimes we want to play with her and we go to her. when you want to play with your kids do so. there is no right or wrong amount.

there have been occasions when we have go to play with my daughter and she pushes us back and says "NO", we just laugh and leave her alone. If she doesn't want to play with us she doesn't have to.

Samantha - posted on 12/29/2009




thanx everyone! hes very good at playin wit himself. sometimes he'll tell me to sit on the floor wit him and play or read which of course i do. i was just worried that i wasnt spendin enough one on one time but i feel alot better now thanx guys

Kimberly - posted on 12/28/2009




You will be able to tell. If he's fine playing by himself let him do it. When I sit down to play with my son he walks away and does something else lol. If he is acting up and such it could be to get attention so you will know to play with him more. Since he doesn't like playing with me we have our quality time reading, doing crafts, baking etc.

Jessica - posted on 12/28/2009




Definitely just stay in tune with your child's personality and preferences and respond accordingly. My 2 year old plays by himself a lot, so when he wants me to read him a book or play with him for 15 minutes or so, I almost always take the time to do so.

Then we also have built in time that we spend with him each day: right after nap time (cuddling on the couch) and right before bedtime (showertime, books, prayers, and cuddles)

You don't necessarily need a schedule, but toddlers do like helping him stick to his natural routine and generally doing things in the same order helps keep a toddler less stressed.

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how does he do playing by himself? does he enjoy it or is he always asking you to play with him and watch what he is doing? i believe each child should have one on one time with their parent everyday but as far as how much each child is different and has different preferences

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