How often to you get out of the house for alone time?

Laura - posted on 06/15/2011 ( 40 moms have responded )

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Hey other stay at home mommys; I was wondering how often other mommys get out of the house? ans what do you do when you get a chance to do so? I get out once a week usually with my husband for alone time, his mom takes our little one over-night and were able to do what we want, but it would be nice to do something different for once. Any ideas.

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Patria - posted on 10/12/2014

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As ur kids feet older u will be able to do more...stay strong mommy ur time will come to do more

Michele - posted on 09/16/2011

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VERY Rarely!! My husband hasn't been the most supportive or understanding. Same thing when I'm sick.

Tasha - posted on 09/16/2011

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No alone time for me, aside from my shower, wich sometimes has to wait a day, i dont get alone time, we dont have a reg babysitter, and live in a small town. Honestly i dont know what me and DH would do if we had a night without our baby, at 8 months i dont think im ready for a night away from my babe. Depends on where you live, here in seattle id go see a show or go enjoy our awesome parks, zoos etc..

Leeann - posted on 09/16/2011

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once a blue moon for me, we deff have our anniversary and maybe our b-days. but not usually we don't get out much lol

Mauri - posted on 06/29/2011

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I don't get alone time. Oh, except for the 10min drive to pick my stepdaughter up. My Dh and i haven't been on a date in 3yrs without kids but oddly enough we have a great marriage. We stay up late after the kids go to bed and end up talking, watching movies, and so on...

Katrina - posted on 06/29/2011

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My daughter is 9 & my husband and I both work from home. In the summer, my alone time consists of grocery shopping when she doesn't feel like going along. I do occasionally go out with friends for lunch. When she was little, the only way I could get me time was to get a job. I know some churches have a mom's morning out where they will watch the kids, if your comfortable with something like that. I wasn't because if I don't know you well, you're not watching my baby. Sorry I'm not much help.

Anne - posted on 06/29/2011

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We don't have any family around where we live. When the kids were little, it was a real privilege to go grocery shopping by myself while my husband babysat after work. Then, when our older one was in preschool, we decided to send our little one to day care one morning per week, just so that I could get a break for 3 hours!!
My husband and I only got to do something, like movie night, when our families came to visit or we went there to visit, about 1x per year. Now, we take both kids to the movies with us. ;)

Milany Legasto - posted on 06/29/2011

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No, i never tried of going out alone. I used to be with my husband and my son.mostly on weekend it's our family bonding.

Jasmin Aka Heidi Smith - posted on 06/19/2011

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I don't get ''alone time'' either. I am the sole care taker of my children (18 yrs she is out of the house already, 10 yrs she is struggling with school, and my 6 month old seems like he is always attached to my breast, lol) My so called ''alone time'' is about 10 minutes in the shower. I don't even have time to shave without my husband banging on the door telling me to hurry. I can hear my baby screaming, so I have to get out, (half washed, soap in my hair) calm my son (6mo old) then go and finish my shower. He (husband) can not even change a diaper without him banging on the door for me to to change him. Good luck with your ''alone time'' there is no such thing after marriage and kids!

Brie - posted on 06/18/2011

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lol katherine thats the movie premiere we planned ahead of time with my mom to go see!! i'm a huge fan and i absolutely have to see the last one on the big screen lol!!!

Tamara - posted on 06/18/2011

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I get out alone every two weeks, when DH is off I leave in the morning, then come home in the late afternoon. I go get a mani-pedi a nice lunch, kick back at starbucks and read, sometimes just lollygag around the mall.

Then a day or two later DH and I go out on a date my oldest watches the little two and we go to a movie and dinner.

Charlie - posted on 06/18/2011

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My mother adores her grandkids and has them once a week overnight and I go to the gym for an hour a day .

Why don't you take turns suggesting things and the other has to go along that way you can spend time together , get to be involved in one of their interests and try something new like for example you could suggest a picnic or a trip to an art gallery and he might suggest fishing or bowling .

Katherine - posted on 06/17/2011

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Well unfortunatly I don't get to get out that often lols, the times that are my " free time " is when I go grocery shopping lols so funny on how I get soo excited when I know that time is coming lols. I lost touch with just about all my friends while prego with my daughter at a young age, I grew up and worked on my goals, and stopped everything bad that I was experiencing with and the ones I would hang out with just wanted to party .. there are a couple who didn't party but they only came or come around when they need or want something so I don't really have a " g-f " to hang out with, and the last time me and my husband got " alone time " out of the house was V-day lols, we are trying to find a baby sitter so we can go and see the new harry potter, shop for some baby things, and go out to eat in a week or so but whooo knows if that'll happen lol. We don't have really any one to ask for a baby sitter so for us to spend time together we happen to both like playing ps3 and we bond playing that when we can lols. It's good to have some type of common ground :D

Dana - posted on 06/17/2011

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I think the last time I got out of the house for alone time was about 4 months ago!!!

Amanda - posted on 06/16/2011

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I get an hour a day 5 days a week where I go to the gym and put the kids into the creche so I can do a class.

Laura - posted on 06/16/2011

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during the week my mother in law takes my daughter for the day/night. ii tend to go clothes shopping when im on my own because my daughter hates it. and ive recently started going swimming in a bid to get beach fit for our hols in september! dont tend to do much special on the night. i just enjoy the peace and quiet in the house snuggled with the hubby!

Brie - posted on 06/16/2011

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i may get alone time without hubby and kid like.. 30 minutes a month maybe.. i was a loner most of my life and now i love having my family... we always usually go everywhere together.. my hubby works 4 days a week and 10 hours a day so most everything is done fri-sun and we do it all together.. occasionally my mom will keep our son so we can have a date night (she lives about 20 minutes away) a few weeks ago we went to a movie and next weekend we have a concert with best friend and her fiance and next month we have a weekend set aside for a movie premiere that i want to see very badly lol... but mostly we both like to just hang out as a family.. although i have to admit complete alone time sounds good sometimes!! its funny too though that we are glad to drop off our son with my mom but we start missing him as soon as we pull out of the driveway lol!

Melissa - posted on 06/16/2011

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I consider myself spoiled by my mother who adores getting our daughter at every chance! Someone once told her that if she wanted another grandchild, she should offer to babysit overnight at least once a week! I swear, I didn't put that person up to it, lol!

My husband is a busy body and I am a home body. But I stay home all-day all week and I look forward to doing even errands with him. We often go to Lowes (we own a fixer upper). Mornings are where it's at for us. We wake leisurely, go out for breakfast, I get dressed up with makeup and hair, ready myself so I'm ready for whatever my husband thinks of. That alone feels good.

As far as getting time to myself, I enjoy the house when both my daughter and husband are gone. It's so quiet and I cherish that stillness. If I'm feeling house bound, I'll get out and shop (don't really buy much, just look), get a beauty service, or meet a childless girlfriend over lunch or dinner.

Jennifer - posted on 06/16/2011

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My alone time is made possible by my husband watching our daughter of course. A lot of times I'll go grocery shopping by myself (at least I get out of the house), but other times I'll go swimming in the community pool, read a magazine on a Sunday in the master bedroom, and go out with some other moms every so often. My husband and I are going to start going out on dates more often soon, which I'm looking forward too.

Tasha - posted on 06/16/2011

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Alone time is really never, id say a shower but my son is usually in the bathroom in his seat( hes 5 mo) so not really alone.I get out of the house to grocery shop, dr appts, and maybe a walk around the neighborhood, always with my son. I have no babysitter options at this point, and like charlotte i really have little family support, my parents are a state away and his are still working. In the last 5 months since my son, his parents have watched im twice so we went to a movie and lunch, and our friend watched him once so we could have a dinner by ourselves. To be honest if we had regular time by ourselves i dont think wed know what to do! But since we live in a small town, near the moutains and rivers, wed spend alot of time exploring, cant wait for the boy to get old enough to really explore with us! As far as new things, maybe join a class together, like a swing dance class or something at the local community college, or pick up a new hobby, something fun and productive, or a project, me and the hubby are going to try to build a new fence next spring, not exaclty somes idea of fun, but my husband and i try to make everything as fun as possible, although it doesnt always work! Good luck

Charlotte - posted on 06/16/2011

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alone time for myself: nap time. alone time with my husband: after our son goes to bed and once every few months we'll have a date night..at home. we just don't have the family support. went out to red lobster last week though for the first time in over 2 years because my mom was visiting us from out of state and made us go out! :o) We just don't feel a need to get out of the house much. We're natural homebodies. Always have been

Angela - posted on 06/16/2011

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I never get alone time. My husband is gone 2 to 3 weeks at a time. I have a 7yr and a 20mth old. My 20mth doesn't sleep all night yet so he can't spend the night with anyone. We tried going out about 3 mths ago for the 1st time in 4yrs and my mom came over and watched the kids. The baby would not go to sleep until I got home and put him to sleep and that was at midnight. My husband tells me to go and get a pedicure and when I get ready to go he decides to do yard work. That's every time. So I haven't had one in 3mths. At least I take good care of my feet. So I don't get any alone time I hope it works out for you.

Sinead - posted on 06/16/2011

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me and OH dont do anythin just us on our own and really we should do. but i go weight watchers once a week and then to the gym nearly every night. always home in time for bed time though. me and my friends who have children make arangements for 'mothers meetings' once a week so we can have a brew and chat and the children can play. we just change the house each week and then once a month take them to a soft play area or the park etc. me and oh also go for walks with ava and the dog aswell., depending if the weather lets us. i cook dinner for my friend, her partner and my god daughter once a month and she will do it the next month.
i think the best thing to do it try and do what you used to enjoy doing but make it so its baby friendly if baby is with u, ie meetin up with mates for lunch at soft play centre. or seen as your lucky to have a lovely mother in law u could both start trying new things on your night off, maybe you suggest somethin u enjoy doin one week and your partner chooses the next week. x

Mimi - posted on 06/16/2011

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I go to the gym 2-3 times a week. My husband and I usually go out once every 2 weeks and my parents keep the kids over night. We live close to Dc so we go to the national harbor alot and walk along the water. Now that its warm alot of parks are doing movie nights and you bring a picnic along. Usually its only like $5.

Kristin - posted on 06/15/2011

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Alone time out of the house for me is a trip to the gas station after my son is in bed and my husband doesn't want to go for me. so, about once a month i get about 10 minutes alone time lol.

Stifler's - posted on 06/15/2011

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I wish my husband and I had alone time over night once a week. But it's more like once or twice in 6 months because we don't have family here.

Stifler's - posted on 06/15/2011

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Well when I can drive it's whenever I want. I go shopping when my husband gets home from work to look after the kids. I also just make a hair app and tell him I'm going and have fun looking after the kids. But I can't drive for 6 weeks so I have to make him drive me everywhere or ask a friend to take me.

Amber - posted on 06/15/2011

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At least once a week on my own. And we try to have couple time at least a couple times a month. Sometimes that's just after our son goes to bed though.

Alone time is really important for your sanity. And I've got to say, nothing feels better than going out for a few hours and coming home to a clean house with dinner on the stove. I'm just like...so that's how he feels all the time :) lol It makes for a relationship that lacks resentment and makes me want to do more so that he has that happy feeling.

Michelle - posted on 06/15/2011

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I get my nails done like once every 3- 6 months if I'm lucky and the husband and I go out for a couple of hours like once every 3 months or so. That's about it. Other then that I'm with the kids 24/7. we're working on that. My husband seems to have selective hearing when I ask him for alone time or when it does happen I have to spend so much time cleaning up afterwards it's not worth it.



When my husband and I do get out we usually go out to dinner, maybe a movie, more likely Go for a walk, go to a festival or event that's in town. Stuff that would be difficult to enjoy with 3 kids in tow.

Cheyenne - posted on 06/15/2011

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i dont get alone time. im with my son 24/7. i would love to be able to get away for a day or a night for that matter. when i do get a few hours on my boyfriends payday with him he always askes me" do u miss him" i say no because im always with him and never get a chance to miss him.

Laura - posted on 06/15/2011

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These are great ideas ladies, keep them coming. My husband and I usually do dinner and a move for alone time but that gets boring after a while or if we have the money we go out to the local bar with his aunt and uncle and have a few drinks but thats about it i would like to do bowling or try something else but how can i get my hubby into the same thing as me.

Christy - posted on 06/15/2011

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It's been different through the years. Ladies' lunch once a week was awesome. We'd meet up at a designated place on the same day every week. The kids would play in the play place and the moms would visit for a couple hours. I've also done dinners with the ladies without the kids, which is really nice.

At one point I had a "sanity time" trade with a friend of mine. I'd watch her kids for a couple hours while she had some peace and quiet, then she'd take my kids for a couple hours so I could also be sane! I found that I really enjoyed getting my shopping done without the kids. Or there were days I'd go take a nap. It wasn't necessarily the same day of the week, we just worked it into that week's schedule.

With that same friend we traded date nights. I'd take her kids Friday nights so she and her honey could go on a date, then Saturday night she'd take my kids so hubby and I could go on a date. The nice part about that was we could go back home and have a nice quiet dinner together, watch a movie, or get it on!

Lady Heather - posted on 06/15/2011

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I normally go out once a week for mum time (I either meet up with my book club or just take a book to my favourite coffee shop and read). We almost always do out date nights at home because we never remember to get a babysitter. Our kid sleeps really well though so on a Friday night we can have dinner and movie no problem. When we do get a chance to go out, there are somewhat limited options here. A hockey game would be cool (or whatever sports thing you might like). We haven't done that in a while. Sometimes we'll hit up a good concert when they come to town. Mostly we just like a nice meal though. Talk time is good.

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I get out several times a week....some are not technically "alone" but I get my mommy time in.

I do Zumba two nights a week (hubby plays Racket-ball, so we're "balanced").
Hubby & I go out at least once a month, kid free, and we each get one night a month with our girl/guy friends while the other watches J.
I also have a book club at our library. The moms are in one room discussing our books while our kids are in the next room over hearing a story, doing a craft, and playing/dancing.

My son is in school, so I get out a lot during the school year for brunches, shopping, spa, etc. That makes not getting out much during the summer more bearable. I'm actually really enjoying all the extra time I have with him right now :)

Jessica - posted on 06/15/2011

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I don't ever get alone time but my baby is still a newborn and I am in the "I can't leave him with anyone" stage =) but he and I get out together at least once a week.

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