How old is too old

Jonie - posted on 09/28/2010 ( 166 moms have responded )

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Hi,I am 34 years old. I would love to have another baby,I have some family members that think thats to old ? what do you ladies think?

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Amanda - posted on 01/29/2013

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Like the other gals said That is not too old. If you feel young and take care of your body it'll be easier to carry that growing baby though. I'm 37 will be 38 when my 4th is born & I try to walk/jog & do yoga. I think it helps out a lot with carrying the baby & helps for a shorter, smoother birth. That's my experience:) But you are still young and you'll be the one carrying & caring for the baby not them:) Good Luck & if it's in your heart do it.

Michele - posted on 09/29/2010

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34 is exceptionally young to be concerned about Downs. The percentage increases as we age, yes, but it goes from 99.99998 of having a DS child at 25 to 99.998 at 35. This is an example, not an exact number but it is close. Even at 42 when I had my daughter the chance of having a normal child was still quite high...97 percent chance of healthy. Look it up...although they report odds as 1 in some number...when you convert that to a percentage it's a VERY strong chance of having a healthy child. With the numbers of women having babies in their 40s you'll still be one of the youngest on the playground. You will find the longer you wait though, the harder it will be to get pregnant.

Kim - posted on 09/28/2010

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Due to a late start, not being able to concieve, then stay pregnant, I had my first(3rd pregnancy) at 33. Not what i had planned but you go with what God gives you. I had my 2nd(5th pregnancy) at 36 and my 3rd (8th pregnancy) and last at 40! Granted when my youngest was 2 I really felt old chasing her all over the playground. Why did she have to be my most active?!! But we wouldn't change our kids or our lives(definitely not lose all those babies). My husband and I figured out what we were doing in our lives, had time to ourselves, saved and bought a house and some extras we wanted. If you and your husband are up for it, go for it! Drs don't even consider you 'old' until 36 yrs of age.

Jenny - posted on 09/28/2010

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The only reason I worry about that being too old, if we weren't talking baby wise thats not old at all, but what scares me is that 35 yrs old age that your chances of having a baby with down syndrome increase significantly. Maybe you know you would be able to handle having a child with those kinds of special needs, but it scares the hell outta me. I dont know if I would be able to handle it at all. But thats they only thing that would stop my trying again. Otherwise as long as you are healthy go for it. :)

Lisa - posted on 11/02/2010

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No way near to old!!! I have just had my second and turn 39 next week! I had my first at 36. You go for it girl and blah to what anyone else says.

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Sandra - posted on 02/02/2013

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Personal opinion I'm 36 and pregnant depends on the person if they can handle it but the older u r the more difficult it can b on ur body

Angela - posted on 01/29/2013

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34 too old not on your life. If you have the desire to want a child do so. I am now45 with a 4 year old, and this is my 4th child. I am happy happy but you know what I wish I had more children. It is a bit tough at my age to get pregant. As the years go so does your fertility, do it now! I have been through the teens too with my other kids, it was no problem for me. I love all my kids and very happy I had them.
Sure I get tired now that I am in my mid 40's but not so much I can't deal. Happy Mommyhood!

Michelle - posted on 01/29/2013

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If you already have children then I would say no. I had my daughter when I was 25 great no prob. Then I had my boy at 34 outside of having no energy to run around after him, he was born with downs. I didn't have an amnio. But all the testing can back negative. Si it was a surprise at his birth. That was 15 yrs ago. Don't get me wrong I love him he is the funniest kid . But its hard really hard they grow into teens and have their issues. You have to keep an eye on them constantly. You can't leave them home alone. And your other kids will not get as much of your attention which will give you guilt. They also bring alot of love, patients and compassion to the family. If you can't raise a child with a disability then don't do it. If you can then go for it.

Lory - posted on 11/02/2010

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i'm 45 and i just had number 6! no way is 34 too old! , i had number 5 at 39, age is irrelevant, its what you personally can handle, weigh the risks, be healthy, and go for it!!

Gloria - posted on 11/02/2010

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please go ahead If you want to, it is GOD that blesses and trust me he adds no SORROW!!!!

M. Rose - posted on 10/12/2010

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If you are still having a period, you aren't too old lol! I'm gonna be having another in a few months right before I turn 31 and I never thought that was too old... my mom had me at 32... a lady at my church just had a baby this yr and she's 41! There are higher risks of things, but overall it comes down to you trust in the Lord ..not your family.

Sharon - posted on 10/12/2010

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i`m 44 and had my third child 3yrs ago friends , everything absolutely fine and although i probably dont have enough energy now thats probably only because i didnt get my fitness levels up after my second 9 yrs ago...t

Paula - posted on 10/12/2010

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I live in Silicon Valley where the norm is starting a family "later" in life. I was married at 30, first child at 32, second child at 34 and third at 37. I have many friends who are in the same boat or are even older. I do not know one "older" family with down syndrome. Follow your heart!

Linda - posted on 10/12/2010

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I naturally conceived my daughter a month before my 41st birthday. Healthy pregnancy in every way. She is a very active 18 month old - only downside is I am 43 and exhausted chasing her. :)

Nadia - posted on 10/12/2010

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Not at all Jonie. Lots of women in history have had children older than 34. As long as you have your health, I don't see any reason not to go ahead with trying for another baby. Just be sure to take good care of yourself and your health. It's good to start taking a supplement before you try to conceive. There are some supplements on the market that are not as good as the general public thinks so do your research! This is an area I happen to know a great deal about, so feel free to pick my brain! Good luck and good health to you.

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2010

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Girl I'm 35 Now and I plan on having as many as God sends me:).(hopefully not 18 & counting) But I love kids and so does my husband. My Baby turns a yr old tomorrow. I think as long as you know you can handle it, Thats great. I think the more the merrier. Like all the ladies said before me, this day N age, age doesnt matter much now. So you do what your heart tells you. Babies are blessings.

Colleen - posted on 10/12/2010

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My friend had her first one at 36yrs old and she is due in April with her second one (she will be 40 in Jan). You are NOT too old. Don't listen to others. What does your heart, mind, and body tell you?

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personally for me any age over 30 is too old. however both my aunt and my mother had children after 30. my reasoning is that with my genetic link to breast and or ovarian cancer i'd like to finish having children by 30 so i can get a hysterectomy and a double mastectomy

Amber - posted on 10/12/2010

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34 isnt too old no way!! im 32 and have just had #2 and we were thinking of having 3 so i wouldnt be doing that till at least 34?! woman are having babies no problem right up to 40 these days tell your family they dont know what they are talking about lol!

Gail - posted on 10/11/2010

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Hi , I was 38 years old when i had my second child and he is a very healthy 2 year old boy now . I think if thats what you want then go for it

Merry - posted on 10/11/2010

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risk of downs syndrome shouldnt be allowed to affect your decision, a child with downs is still a child, and the risk shouldnt be something you shy away from. Theres nothing 'wrong' with having a child with downs syndrome, its not like a punnishment for being too old. I think most people put too much fear into the decision and we should just stop worrying about what can go wrong.

34 isnt too old as long as its what you want! Think of this, when you are 75 will you think back and wish you had just had anotther baby? regret lives with you forever and a baby isnt something you want to regret not having!

Megan - posted on 10/11/2010

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My mom is 42 & dad is 45. I'm the oldest, married and have a 16mo old baby. My parents have been married for 23 years and have me, an 18, 15, 6, and 2 year old. You do the math ;) lol my mom was 8months pregnant when my hubby & I got married! Now she's a 42 year old nursing grandma :)

Chloie - posted on 10/11/2010

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well think of it this way do u want to be 54 when your child leaves home if u have no problem with this and u are fit and have heaps of energy and are willing to accept twins by all means

Jami - posted on 10/10/2010

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40's... I always think about it like this by the time your 40 how old will you be when the lil one is 18???

Karyn - posted on 10/10/2010

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i am 34 as well have 3 children 4 2 1/2 and 6 months and just discovered that i am pregnant with my fourth child i do not feel too old i believe it is between you an your husband do not listen to relatives i didnt when they told to stop at two because medical condition which doesnt affect babies at all listen to your heart

Nora - posted on 10/10/2010

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Go for it Jonie! I did for the 1st time at 36 and I WAS NOT to old. I also had a midwife and no meds. How about that? And I have a wonderful 13 yr. old son! Glad I did it. There r some moms having babies in thier early 50's.

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My mother-in-law is 51 and she has a 7 year old. She has NO problem with it and she wouldn't change it for the world. Do what you feel is best for you!

Lorraine - posted on 10/08/2010

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I will be 39 in January 2011, and I shall start having another baby i hope, you are never to old to have another child, that is what my doctor told me. and he is right. and so be it, if I have a child with downs ,so be it, she he will be loved the same way as any other baby

Jessica - posted on 10/08/2010

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A close friend of mine has 4 kids. She had her 4th when I was having my second. I was 28 and she was 48. I made a great friend because we had kids the same age. I wouldn't change any part of it. There are so many more people having kids later in life. Go for it. I am 33 now and am o.k. with having a 3rd if it happens. You only live once.

Norelle - posted on 10/08/2010

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We are lookign towards number 2 now, and I am 34 now. My other bub is nearly 2, and I would like two kids... You are not too old! go for it! (race ya! LOL!)

Robin - posted on 10/08/2010

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I had my first when I was 34, second at 38, both are healthy!!! I am 42 now and contimplating having one more!! Go for it, your young!!!

Hannah - posted on 10/08/2010

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this is intersting as i remember seeing a documentary about older women having babies - like 55+ so your defintly still young....besides dont we stop aging at 35 and stay 29 for the rest of our lives ;) lol....

Jean - posted on 10/08/2010

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Well I wasn't expecting to chase after another kiddo in my 40's but ya know no matter how many precautions you take sometime them durn wigglers get by it and ta da you are a Mommy again. Course now I am REALLY done and have made sure of that but surprise babies happen to many of us.

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I decided very young (around 8 or 9) that I would never have children after 30. I can't see chasing after little kids when I'm heading toward 40 and I don't think I would want teenagers in the house when I was going through menopause. My youngest will turn 18 when I'm 45 and I'm quite comfortable with that. I don't think the health risks increase greatly, but I could definitely tell a huge difference with "bouncing back" at different ages.

Jacqueline - posted on 10/08/2010

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hi just thought i would let you know after 10 children and my mother 39 nearly 40 she had another child so don't think you are too old life only begins at 40 so she keeps telling us all

Sonia - posted on 10/08/2010

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I was 35 when I fell pregnant with my youngest (he's 3 now) & had no problems at all. Go with what you feel, not what everyone else tells you! Good luck.

Tracy - posted on 10/08/2010

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Hi Jonie,
No you are not to old to have more children! I am a mother of 4, I was 30 years of age with my 1st born, 31 for my 2nd, 35 for my 3rd and my 4th I was 38 years old. They are all perfectly healthy! If you and your hubby want have another child do what's best for you guys don't worry about what other family members say in the grand sceem of things they are just relatives. Good Luck!!!

Susan - posted on 10/08/2010

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I'm 35 and had my 1st last year. If i had another, I'd be high risk bc of age. My sis-in-law was 41 & 44 when she had my niece and nephew (her only kids) & they are healthy as horses. Yes there are many things to be concerned about but that shouldnt stop you if you truly felt lead to have another child.

Melissa - posted on 10/08/2010

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After reading some of the comments about what fears exist, I felt compelled to say that those reasons exist no matter what age you are having a baby. Fear of defects, ask the 19 yr old whose child has Downs (yes, it happens). The fear of miscarriage, true at any age. Lack of energy- what sleep deprived mom doesn't say that? You actually need less sleep as you age. Life experience is the best teacher, think of what you would do differently this time. Babies are born to women in all circumstances. But the best one I can think of is when they are wanted, and loved even before they are conceived. As far as your family members... they will melt once again when they get to hold that precious child in their own arms and they will quietly tell themselves how they missed the opportunity for themselves again, but how blessed you are.

Keene - posted on 10/08/2010

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I had my first baby at 32 and my second at 34. They are both healthy, happy, and very normal. I think it is up to you. I would do scientific research before you take the advice of family and friends. If my hubby wasn't in his 50's I would probably have had more.

Jean - posted on 10/08/2010

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Huh I had my 3rd baby at 40! It all depends on how old your other kids are if they have been in school for awhile and you've gotten to running errands and doing stuff within the school framework you will have to readjust like when you had your first baby but other than that 34 is NOT to old to have another child. Don't worry about what other famliy members say, this is between you and your hubby or SO. The others will just have to dela with it and besides babies conviently turn adults into slobbering bits of goo anyway.

Jodie - posted on 10/08/2010

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no way, if your healthy then your body will cope with it. I was 36 when i had my 2nd & she's 2 1/2 years old now, i wouldn't change a thing. Anyway it's you & your husbands choice.

Alexandria - posted on 10/08/2010

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Ha no way thats too old. I think thats a fine age to have a child. If your healthy enough and can take care of another why not! Go ahead!

Jamie - posted on 10/08/2010

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No! It is you and your spouses decision no one else's! My Grand ma had kids up until she was 42! There are health risk for you and the baby, But you have a doctor to keep close eye on you and the baby to make sure everything goes well. I wish you all the best and do what you feel you want to do.

Vanessa - posted on 10/07/2010

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I am 37 and just had my second child. My first one I had at 36. I don't think I'm too old at all and definitely don't think you are. Most of my friends that have new babies are in their mid forties. Though I live in LA where it seems that half of the women having babies are in their mid forties. My mother had me when she was 30, and had my brother at 34, and that was in the 70's. Then my grandmother even had a child at age 40. My point being that it is not just a new trend to be having babies later in life, and not just in LA, as my family are british. I say if you want another child, have one and don't listen to anyone that says you are too old. You are the perfect age.

Sandy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Don't let your family talk you out of something you want. Speak to your Dr. and he/she feels its alright and you want one, then go for it. I feel that if you really want another and decide not to because someone other than a professional says you shouldn't then you may regret it the rest of your life.

Lesley - posted on 10/07/2010

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hi i was nearly 48 when i had our son evem though he was not planned i never thought he could bring us and our family so much joy he is now 2 1/2 and his siblings are 23 and 25 i am more patient and certainly a lot more active than i was 25 yrs ago and he was the easiest pregnancy out of my three , we have been truly blessed , so i really believe age doesnt matter as long as you are healthy and well. goodluck

Lisa - posted on 10/07/2010

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WOW!!! David Brough! Congratulations! It's stories like yours that give me hope! That is so awesome!!! I'm 40 with an only child who is 2 yrs old. Maybe there will be another down the line. With God anything is possible!

Jackie - posted on 10/07/2010

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hi im a 32 yr old i have 4 daughters, believe it or not i had a baby 9 months ago when i found out i couldnt believe it as my yougest child was 8 and my eldest child was 10.5 yrs old. i thought being in my 30 was to old well now i believe that you are never to old. just remember who is having the child you or your family. follow your heart and if it meant to be then it will happen. go for it..

Lisa - posted on 10/07/2010

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Well, I had my first baby at 38!!! I'm 40 now and still think of a possible second. If you are in good health and really want to, I say GO FOR IT!!!

Megan - posted on 10/07/2010

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You go on and have that baby. You are still young and it is not up to your family to be the judge of your age and ability to birth a child. If you are up to it then go for it.

Debbie - posted on 10/07/2010

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I dont think you are to old at all. I had my first when i was 31 and my second at 34 he has just turned 8months old and im now 35. I think you should do what you think and feel what is right for you and your partner not what your family think as you are the one that will be loving, caring and supporting the baby. I decided that after my first child that i wasnt going to have anymore then a couple of years ago my partner and i spilt and my current partner said to me last year that its not fair to have my daughter as an only child as his mother was an only child and really missed having siblings to talk to etc. My partner is the second eldest of 7 children but he does not want a big family. We both decided that yes we would try for a baby and when and if it happend it would. He turned 47 yrs old this year and this is child number 3 for him and child number 2 for me and we wouldnt change it for the world and no one could ever change our minds. His brother thought he was crazy but as he said this is what he wanted another chance at fatherhood. The only thing that i would change possibly lol is there birthdays lol my little boy came 5days late and was born 4 days before his older sister turned 3yrs old so the year that he turns 18 she will be 21 4days later. Wish you and your partner all the best with the decision that you make. Just try and not stress to much about it. There are plenty of mums around your age that are either just starting a family or are having child number 2 like i did and your thinking of.

ALISON - posted on 10/07/2010

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I am 34 and have a 4 month baby boy,with no problems at all,and I'm loving it!! I am even considering having another and I will be 35 next week!! As long as there are no medical problems,I can't see that you would be to old, Do what you feel is right,good luck,with whatever you decide to do xxx

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