how to avoid bedwetting

Tammie - posted on 12/22/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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my daughter is 4 and is well potty-trained. sometimes she wets the bed and sometimes she don't we let her sleep in regular panties but awake her to go to use potty once during the night before we go to bed...stop liquids at 7 pm...she does not get up on own yet we even use night lights...what do i do to make her more aware is she old enough or what....in meantime i keep washing sheets...

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I will be washing sheets its going to be a work in progress ... my advice buy a mattress protector that's easy to wash & dry. Relax and they will eventually get it the body just needs to tell the brain to wake up. My son was a dream before 2 he was out of night pants & only once when he was sick did he have accident he is now 9.

Dyana - posted on 12/24/2009

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well i have a three year old n she has accidents n i also stop her liquids at 7pm before she goes to bed i let her go to the bathroom n i also wake her up before i go to bed to use it an its amaazing how much they have to let out so i say that let her use it twice a night n cut her liquids at 6pm it will help oh yeah n it also depends how much liquid she had that day too . hope i could help

Myrtis - posted on 12/23/2009

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Let me just begin by saying that I totally feel your pain.



My son who is 5 also wets the bed. I have found that none of those tricks you listed really work. My understanding of the bladder is that like any muscle it needs to be used to get stronger, therefore you kinda have to let them get used to having a full bladder for a long time, to "train" the bladder to have better control.



For what it is worth, I have had the most success with the following approach. 1) you do not limit liquids, remember the idea is to give the bladder practice, 2) you do not wake up the child to go pee during the night, again the idea is for them to "hear" their bladder during sleep and you deny them the chance by waking them up before they have felt the need to go on their own, (also I found personnally that this tactic just disrupts their sleep and they still wet the bed anyway) 3) if she does wake up on her own after wetting the bed, get her out of bed and change the sheets/pyjamas at once 4) keep washing the sheets, but encourage her to take responsibility for some of the clean up, I ask my son to strip the bed and/or make it with fresh sheets, sometimes we put the sheets in the wash together, depends on the day/night and the amount of time we have.



OK, well hang in there, if it's any consolation, this usually goes away on it's own and in girls especially. Good luck.

Stephanie - posted on 12/23/2009

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My oldest(4) was a pro no problems but my 3 year old had some issues with the nights and it took a while to figure out why but I noticed that when she stayed up later she had accidents I think from being just to tired to wake up when she needed to go now we go potty before we get in bed no drinks after 7 and in bed no later than 9 and haven't had anymore accidents

Sheryl - posted on 12/23/2009

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i would keep up what your doing! i know it not easy! but you are doing the right thing! i think it happens alot cause kids may have small bladders or just are really heavy sleepers! some kids it takes longer than others! my youngest is turning 2 and still pee's through the night but my oldest didn't have any of those problems! i even have to clean wash sheet too. even with a diaper! so, best thing i can say is just hang in there! good luck! hope things get better and marry chirstmas!

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Thanks Tammy, If my daughter is still wetting her bed at that age Im not bothered she will be washing her own sheets LOL ... Both my husband & I dont make a fuss over it we can only encourage her to keep trying. Mattress protector is fantastic its a big help. HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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thanks i will relax and just go through the process that she will eventually grow out of very helpful

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting dyana:

well i have a three year old n she has accidents n i also stop her liquids at 7pm before she goes to bed i let her go to the bathroom n i also wake her up before i go to bed to use it an its amaazing how much they have to let out so i say that let her use it twice a night n cut her liquids at 6pm it will help oh yeah n it also depends how much liquid she had that day too . hope i could help



thanks but another mother recommended not to awake her at night like i had been doing she needs to develop into the urge to get up and go.....

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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thanks ms myrtis i will definitely stop waking her up like i have been last night she woke up when she wetted the bed so i guess that is better than nothing..your post was very helpful

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Stephanie:

My oldest(4) was a pro no problems but my 3 year old had some issues with the nights and it took a while to figure out why but I noticed that when she stayed up later she had accidents I think from being just to tired to wake up when she needed to go now we go potty before we get in bed no drinks after 7 and in bed no later than 9 and haven't had anymore accidents


ms stephanie thanks will stick with regimen similar to yours but have to stand more firm on no drinks after 7 she gets thirsty at the weirdest times and i hate to say no to her but i will enforce most definitely

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting sheryl:

i would keep up what your doing! i know it not easy! but you are doing the right thing! i think it happens alot cause kids may have small bladders or just are really heavy sleepers! some kids it takes longer than others! my youngest is turning 2 and still pee's through the night but my oldest didn't have any of those problems! i even have to clean wash sheet too. even with a diaper! so, best thing i can say is just hang in there! good luck! hope things get better and marry chirstmas!



thanks sheryl some days are better than others very helpful and encouraging that is not me that is apart of her developing into that phase of going to restroom at night time...

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Jackie:

Sorry be the one to tell you this but bed wetting is NORMAL until the age of 13 for some children. The only thing you can do is not make a big deal about it when it happens. And pay attention to what may be triggering it. My 5 1/2 year olds triggers are when he is over tired, if he has been away from home to long and along with stress.


thanks another mom told me the same thing ok it is a process they have to develop in gradually and in their own timing very helpful

Tammie - posted on 12/30/2009

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Quoting Lynda:

Keep washing the sheets, it's a process. Just keep getting her up at night to go. My daughter is 3 and sometimes she get's herself up and sometimes she doesn't. It's a process they will get it eventually.



thanks i keep telling my husband its a process until her it links up with brain and body function and control he says she is lazy but i beg to differ she is only 4 not 7

Jackie - posted on 12/23/2009

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Sorry be the one to tell you this but bed wetting is NORMAL until the age of 13 for some children. The only thing you can do is not make a big deal about it when it happens. And pay attention to what may be triggering it. My 5 1/2 year olds triggers are when he is over tired, if he has been away from home to long and along with stress.

Helen - posted on 12/23/2009

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my eldest cracked it almost from day one she was ace at it she is now nearly 6 and hasnt wet for years however my 2nd eldest is 4 in feb an still wets not alot but now an then i put it down to her dreaming she dreams alot and shouts out in her sleep so she doesnt remember to get up for toliet there may b a reason ur daughter wets bed maybe take her gp just to check all is well ? maybe she dreams too ? anxiety ? i find if my eldest stays out at family over nite the one that dreams tends to wet cos she is in her bed room alone with out her big sis

Mandy - posted on 12/23/2009

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sorry, my son is 7yo and still wets most night.

dr has done tests and cant figure out why.

Lynda - posted on 12/23/2009

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Keep washing the sheets, it's a process. Just keep getting her up at night to go. My daughter is 3 and sometimes she get's herself up and sometimes she doesn't. It's a process they will get it eventually.

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