How to get her to self feed?

Tina - posted on 04/23/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )




Our baby just turned 1. She will pick up and eat her Cheerios, but that is it. I have to hand feed her all the other solids. How do I convince her to pick up her food?


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Jeney - posted on 04/24/2010




My son did the same thing for a while... I just put the baby fork in his hand and help him to pick up the food... now he loves to use the fork and pick it up hisself because of the praise he gets.

Kathleen - posted on 04/24/2010




i agree with everyone else... dont rush it... once she starts there is no more baby.. i would start letting her have a differnt variety of food more than cheerios... and see if she picks up other foods... she will start doing it.. just think how many older kids to see wont feed themselves.. i have yet to see a schoolage kid being fed by mom... she will do it.. keep her little while you can... good luck

Jamie - posted on 04/24/2010




My daughter was the same way. What I did was put alittle food in frount of her on her tray and spoon fed the rest. While I was eating my food she had food to pick up off her tray. Eventually she didnt want me to feed her anymore!

Ayndriea - posted on 04/24/2010




With my daughters I made it a game. Simply make it fun for them and yes I agree with Kristen on walking away, but staying close enough to know if shes choking. You have to give your child a certain independency. She will get the hang of it. Just give her time she is only 1.

Lily - posted on 04/24/2010




I agree with Allison, be paitent :) theres no rush :) remember this is all a new thing for our little ones, so give it time, your daughter will get the hang of it :)

Allison - posted on 04/24/2010




Reframe your thinking. Try to think about what you would like to look back on when you're 85 - what stories you want to tell your grandchildren. Do you want to remember all the cleaning/laundry/etc you got done? Or do you want to remember the sweet moments you spent caring for your child?

It won't last forever. She will be feeding herself soon enough. Trust me, my oldest is 11. The last thing you want to do is rush them to grow up because once it happens, you can't go back. Slow down and enjoy every second of every stage with her.

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Maybe try putting the food in front of her and then walk away and get busy with something. Stay close enough to see her in case she starts choking but don't pay any attention to her. Do this for a few days and just refuse to feed her yourself. When she gets hungry enough she will feed herself. Goodluck!

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