How to get my 2 children to stop fighting

Kristal - posted on 06/10/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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I have a two year old son and a four year old daughter. Latley they have been arguing and fighting non-stop. They fight over toys, blankets, attention, and pretty much everything in between. It's really starting to drive me nuts, I try to let them have there own specific items and there own mommy time but this has not helped at all. Please any suggestions or have you gone through the same problem?

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Jane - posted on 06/11/2010

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The major cause of sibling rivalry is having more than one child. That said, I guess what has worked the best for me (I have seven) is to ground the combatants from each other. They are not allowed in the same as room as each other for an entire day. Takes about 30 minutes, and they're begging to play together. :)

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Ali - posted on 06/12/2010

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Stop the fighting? Ha! I hate to say it, but I think it's innate. A primal instinct. But, good luck with that!

Jane - posted on 06/11/2010

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Having one is like having none, having two is like having 10. Once they can run more directions than you can chase, it's over anyway. :)

Kristal - posted on 06/11/2010

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Thank you so much for all the mothers responding. Jane, I give you a lot of credit, I would never be able to have seven children...my mother had four birth children and adopted two other children and I don't know how she did it. I only have two and I think that is plenty enough especially being a military family, moving all the time and all the deployments.

Mandy - posted on 06/11/2010

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I have a 2 and 3 that fight sometimes. Yesterday, they were both crying so I put them both in their rooms to separate them and calm them down. I also have a 6yo that loves to pester his sisters. I mainly have to keep them busy so they stay out of trouble. We have playdates, go to the library, go swimming, go to the movies, reading, do puzzles, play doh, painting etc. I would try to provide more structure in your day and separate them when you need too. Plan time when they can play together and make sure it is supervised. Plan time where they play alone. Plan time where you play with each of them separately.

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I have 2 children the same age. The 4 yr old isn't to bad at sharing and i feel bad when she is made to share even though she had it fair and square but I just can't take the 2 yr olds screaming sometimes. I am 36 weeks pregnant and i think that is why i am short fused to screaming at the moment. We have more trouble with the 2 yr old not understanding. I wish i could help more but they are the same age so i'm sure doing the same thing.

Christy - posted on 06/10/2010

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My kids are 2 and 3, and fight all the time! They are really fighting for your attention. You should take them places they can play with other kids to get the "lowdown" on playing. Once I joined a mom's group and started taking my kids to playgroups, it got so much better (not perfect, though).

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