How to get my 7yr old to sleep in her own bed?

Starr - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My husband is in the military and has been gone for 3 months now. My 7yr old has formed a bad habit of sleeping in bed with me (and before you say it, I know I have created this problem). I am trying to get her to sleep in her own bed, but every night it is a huge battle with me getting mad her screaming and having a major fit. I have tried having her sleep on my floor then moving her to her bed, praising her when she does sleep in her bed and even locking my bedroom door. Any suggestions on how to get her to sleep in her own bed?

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Jessica - posted on 09/25/2013




I'm in the same boat. My almost 7 year old son has been sleeping with me since he was 2 when his father and I decided to divorce. I'm the problem and I realize it because I don't stay consistent with making him sleep in his own bed. I read online to tell the child the date or let them pick the date it will happen and then prep them daily for it. My son cries every time I mention it. Ugh. Help.

Darlene - posted on 08/10/2010




First of all I feel for your child. I really do. In reading your story I got a glimps of how she must feel. I have two daughters. Both quite young. But, My 4.5 yr old sarted sleeping in my bed when daddy went out of town. Now he travels a lot. I happen to sleep with baby in baby room, however, knowing the older child will want to join, I put a bed in there for her too. Here is how I deal with certain situations that seem "complicated". Ask yourself this "Is it really important"? Seriously. Your daughter is obviously sleepign in your bed with you for a reason. Probably the obvious... daddy is gone. But then again, I could be wrong. Have you tried to talk with her about it, when it is not around bed time? Ask her what problem she is trying to solve by doing this? If you find it to really be a huge deal, then get her awayf and off any and all bad news propaganda, get things lightened up more if not already and see if you can get her to offer some other solutions and see if she can stick to that. Now, if you answer the question above that it is not really important that she move out of the bed, then enjoy the coziness that you two have and continue to make her feel secure. It will not last forever. But in all honesty, I think she is seeking security, and well, you are it for her. You are mom. You are the rock and stable person in her life. She needs that. And basing my opinion off my own parenting philosophy ( attachment parenting or conscious parenting), I am a supporter of meeting your childs needs, and if this is a situation calling for that, well, then I say co-sleep until daddy gets home and build an agreement that this is what you will do until then... unless sleeping with her is a rough ( as with my 4.5 yr old), we just can't share. I wake up with bruises. LOL

Vanessa - posted on 08/10/2010




My hubby is in similar boat - however I started from the beginning explaining that it was only ever temporary and a treat.
She's 7. Normal cognaitive 7 year olds can be reasoned with and they can understand. Seems to me she just doesn't want to understand - I'm sure a motivator would work well such as - no birthday party this year etc. By this age she's smart enough to understand you easily ---- forgive me but it sounds like she's playing you!

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