How to potty train a two year old boy.

Leslie - posted on 04/21/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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having problems with the boy. Cant get him to potty train. If I put Cheeroos in the toliet he tries to go after them. Please help!!!!!!!!

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Also teaching them to sit with their legs together will direct the pee down into the toilet. We have one of those toilet seats that also has a toddler seat (about $30 at Walmart & its a slow-close so he can't hurt himself) & a step stool & he can get on & off the potty on his own which helps. We've never used the little potty chairs because it's easier if they just use the toilet like mom & dad from the beginning, no confusion or resistance to deal with later :)

Stacey - posted on 04/28/2010

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I have two boys, ages 4 1/2 and 3 years old. Both started potty training around 2 1/2 yrs. Because I am the one home with them, I trained them sitting down. (also, I HATE cleaning up the bathroom after boys!!) We did a lot of "naked baby" time, brought the little potty into the living room so they could sit and maybe watch a cartoon. Once they got the hang of that situation, I moved the potty to right outside the kitchen, then inside the kitchen, then into the bathroom. They still sit down to pee and it's fine by me! We used pullups during the beginning when we left the house, during naptime and bedtime. Now they are only used at bedtime because both still pee at night.

Try teaching him to sit down (I taught my boys to push their peepee down so they didn't spray their clothes or pee outside the bowl). If it doesn't take, then perhaps he's just not ready!

Good luck!

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Teach him to sit to potty, it's way easier :) & since he has to sit to poop anyway & the bladder often will void just before or after pooping. Diaper free time can make a huge difference in potty learning whether boys or girls, we've used it with both. My son is 22 months, he first showed interest in potty learning at about 15 months & we worked with him on it then but we've been very casual about it since because I'm pregnant & don't have enough patience & energy to be really hands on with it right now. The last couple weeks he's started communicating his need to potty more so I'm trying to give it more focus. I highly recommend the book Early-Start Potty Training by Linda Sonna (it covers everything from elimination communication to late-start problems in a simple, easy to read format), she discusses the psychology behind potty learning & the challenges faced at each age with different methods. If he can't make it through a nap without wetting I suggest 2 things, diaper free time while awake so he becomes more aware of his eliminations (it does make a big difference & usually pretty quickly) & a possible food sensitivity (dairy makes my kids pee more frequently & in greater quantity-it's actually fairly common). Don't stress about the potty learning, if he senses your frustration & stress then he will probably be more resistant to learning so take a break for a day or a week & then try again.

Rachel - posted on 04/28/2010

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I struggled with my first - we were battling and he was winning because I was getting frustrated, this went on for 3 months. Funnily enough when I stopped pushing him (I gave up and thought would try again a couple months later) he showed me he could do it - he went straight to the toilet within 2 weeks on his own accord. When the battles not there kids can surprise you with what they can do.

Debra - posted on 04/28/2010

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If the father is cin the house, let him go with dady to the bathroom and see what happens, when my son was potty training i let or my husband took him in the bathroom with him. try it and see, keep me posted. debra day

Wendy - posted on 04/28/2010

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Hi, he'll do it in his own time when he's ready - you can't force them they'll just ask one day to have the nappy taken off. My first son was 21/2 but my second son is nearly 3 and still doesn't want to do it all the time - he'll go before bedtime of if he feels like it occasionally but I always say they won't be in nappies when their 18 so don't stress about it.

Marlene - posted on 04/28/2010

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i did better when my son was 3 ,and he was a twin ,his sister potty trained much earlier

Pam - posted on 04/28/2010

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I didn't get my son potty trained until he was 4. It usually takes awhile for boys then girls. With me I used the training disposable pants pull ups they make them so when they get the picture fades on them. I started potty training my boy at 2 and it took him until he was 4. Starting him now I think is a good so he gets the hang of what to do. Yes, always start with a potty chair for him and don't make him stand and pee yest. What I did is make sure the potty chair was in the bathroom always never moved it. Then he realized thats where everyone goes potty. Also try sitting in the bathroom with him. I would read him books or gave him something to play with. I had a little book box next to his potty so he would just sit down grab a book and give it to me or he would just sit on his potty looking at his book or play with a toy. It helps also if there is a man around to to help. My sons father would go to the bathroom with him my son. My son started imitating what his dad did. Remember be paticient with him and don't get frusterated with him. I don't realy think you need to give your child an award or candy or anything like that. As long as you give him lots of praise for even trying to go or just sitting on his potty like a big boy. All he realy needs is lots of support and praise from his parents or if your a single mom then lots from you. It just takes a time and don't rush it. It will happen when he's willing and ready to get pooty trained.

Christy - posted on 04/27/2010

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How two is he? It kind of sounds like he's just not there yet. We started trying right at two but I'd say ours didn't truly "get it" until closer to two and a half.

Hope - posted on 04/27/2010

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YEAH MINE WANTS TO GO TO THE POTTY AND PEES BUT THAT IS A ONE DAY THING THOUGH HE SEES HIS 3 YEAR OLD SISTER GOIN SO HE WANTS TO GO

Launa - posted on 04/27/2010

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I agree with letting him go naked also. We tried our son in underwear right away (pull-ups were too much like diapers) but he treated them like diapers. He'd be standing over a puddle of pee telling me his big boy underwear had a hole in them lol. Once we let him go naked from the waist down he was using the potty a lot more and was fully trained in no time. Have fun :)

Lynda - posted on 04/24/2010

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I have to agree with letting him run naked. I did that with my son at 2 and he got it real fast, especially poop. We had a few accidents but it made him much more aware than he had been. I also only used pull-ups at night, not during the day. I bought Gerber cotton trainers and vinyl (or pvc now?) outer covers so when we went out or he went somewhere where he could not run naked, when he wet he knew it. It made him much more aware. He just turned 3 and is almost fully night trained, usually having 1 or 2 nights during a month period where he will wake up wet. He is dry through the night otherwise. When I was training, I'd put him on the potty first thing in the am, then every 30 minutes after drinking for as long as he'd sit and gradually increase the time to 60 minutes. We did that for awhile since my son is rather stubborn. Poop he got right away, pee took a bit longer and I did it sitting down. He also goes potty last thing before bed and I limit liquids to the bare minimum water before bed if he asks for any. As long as he's not sick and been drinking throughout the day, it shouldn't be a problem. Keep to a regular schedule and if he fights too hard, back off a bit and try again in a few weeks. Even once they figure it out, they do regress, so be prepared for that if and when it happens. Good luck!

Kerri - posted on 04/23/2010

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I have 4 toddler boys. Two are already potty trained and two are in the process of right now. Two words: RUN NAKED. (Not you, the potty-trainee!) It is the fastest, easiest way I have found. It only took my first two a day or two to get the hang of it and the next two are well on the way. Especially with summer weather coming on, it's the perfect time to let him go bare-bottom for as long as you're comfortable. The longer he's allowed to, the more aware of his body and when he has to "go potty" he will become. Good luck!

Outi - posted on 04/23/2010

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lol.. I'm sorry but the image of your son chasing after the cheerios is just too funny :D I always pottytrained my boys sitting down. Thats how they saw me do it and that way if they had to poop, there was no position change needed. I thought it was easier ( and more mess free with no aiming issues) My 4 y old still likes to sit down to pee but my seven y old has started to stand up.
If you are set to have him stand up though just try little toilet paper balls etc. He can scrunch them up and toss them in and then go at it :)

April - posted on 04/23/2010

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It's been my experience that boys are harder to potty train then girls. Also, I think we mom's get too stressed over potty training.

Before my son was ready for potty training, I put a potty seat in the bathroom, so he can sit on it (with clothes on) when Mommy and Daddy go to the bathroom. I didn't want him to have a fear of the potty. He would then start pulling his pants down and sitting on it.

I eventually moved the seat to the living room. I used a timer and set it every 45 mins - hour and told him that when the time when off, we had to run to the potty. This would catch his bladder sometimes, so we could get excited when he went. I used a timer because I'm easily distracted and it kept me on track. I quit using it after a while because I didn't want the sound of a timer to always give him the urge to go.

When I felt it was time for him to stand up and pee, I made him go potty with his daddy so he could show him how to properly do it. My son didn't get fully trained until he was 3 1/2.

Like I said, I think we mom's get too stressed about it. When we see other kids trained early, it makes us think we need to hurry and get our kids trained. Every child is different.

My middle child,a girl, is actually potty training her younger sister. Every time she goes to the bathroom, she takes her sister with her. You might try that with your two children.

Leslie - posted on 04/23/2010

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he has a four year old sister. he could care less about what she does except for if she's playing with his toys.

Heather - posted on 04/23/2010

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just keep working on it.. does he have an older sibling?.. maybe he could be inspired if he does or on the other hand he might be doing all this for your extra attention . both my boys were pottytrained really early(before two) , my younger one followed in his brothers footsteps almost like he didnt want to be left out(they are 14 months apart).

Leslie - posted on 04/23/2010

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i did all that with my 4 year old. he is just being stubern. its like im the only one doing this. their grandparents are not much help.

Heather - posted on 04/23/2010

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we brought the potty chair to the living room so when he had to go it was right there ..no accidents of not making it in time and it just didnt seem like a big deal since it was in the room all the time... hope it helps just keep trying ans once no more diapers dont go back to diapers even at nite it will just confuse him more -when its ok to go(in the diaper) and when he should hold it for the potty ..you might have to wash alot of sheets but it is all worth not confusing the little guy with diapers then without!

Stephanie - posted on 04/22/2010

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im having the same problem he sometimes ask for his potty and goes than sometimes he just does in his nappy and ask after words for the potty!!! he was almost there last summer hes 2 now...but last summer it was really clse than he got sick tummy flu and he just stopped for the rest of the year he cried his eyes out every time i tried to put him on his poyyt..now we r trying again but it depends on his mood!!! he has to start doing till nxt year cause here in malta if he still has his nappy on they wont accept him at school:(

Leslie - posted on 04/22/2010

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Thank you everyone. I've been trying everything the last couple days. Im about to give up for awhile.

Kristi - posted on 04/22/2010

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i agree no disposable pull ups. i used cloth diapers with my son so he knew what wet felt like and he was potty trained at 2 except nap time which he started being dry at about 2 1/2 and now at almost 3 is dry at night too. it's not impossible everyone tried to tell me it was too early but my son was interested so we just took him to the potty every hour or so. if he went great and he was rewarded if not that's ok too. luckily it was summertime so i could just let him run around the house in his "big boy unders" makes for a lot less laundry when there were accidents. my son also thought it was so cool to sit on the big potty backwards like he was riding a horse(we were big on cowboys!) rather than use the little potty. worked really well pee stays going down and he didn't have any problems with falling in.

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Sounds like he interested to be like others in the house but doesn't really know why. My son did the same thing...was interested at 18 months, but then no more going, all of a sudden. We just let him be interested for a while and gave it a try again later. It's hard to do because we as moms ARE ready to be done with diapers by then. If he does go, rewards like stickers or small candies can be good incentives to making a more regular use of the potty. If he doesn't just praise him for what he does know, "yes the potty is for peepee, do you want to try to peepee in the potty?" and see what he does. When he is ready he'll get there...in the meantime he'll be doing so many other cool things that you can enjoy and put the potty on hold. 3 is a very common time for boys to get it...any earlier is more luck and training on moms part. When he is ready I say no to the disposable pull ups that don't let them feel wet too but before then it is just more of a mess.

Leslie - posted on 04/21/2010

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he still wet naps and bed. his sister was 3 before she was completely broke. he acts like hes interestead. he say peepee and get the chair to sit but just wont go.

Kristin - posted on 04/21/2010

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Stop with the training him to pee standing for starters. Too much to remember for him and clean up for you. There is also the ewww factor of the Cheerio chasing. Is he making it through naps without wetting himself? If so, get him to the toilet or potty chair and sit him down. If he goes successfully give lots of praise and some sort of a reward. I like stickers on a chart or calendar, but some use candy and other things. Another thing, try to stay away from those disposable trainers as much as possible. They just don't feel wet and so don't learn to associate that gotta-go feeling with the wet feeling that follows a little later.

If he isn't making it through a nap without wetting, you may be trying to get this going to early. It may also explain the Cheerio chasing.

I've only had experience with boys and mine didn't want to do it until closer to 3. From what I've read and heard, it is harder and starts later with boys.

So, if you really think he's ready for this, just be consistent with him and your efforts. Good luck.

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