how/ when do you shower?

Christy - posted on 11/06/2008 ( 29 moms have responded )

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I am a mom to a 3-year old and a 4-month old. I am a new stay-at-home mom, on maternity leave from teaching. I love it, but am finding it hard to get into a routine, especially with breastfeeding my son. I think the biggest struggle is when to shower--I try to shower before DH leaves for work, but that means getting up before 6am and hoping that my son will sleep. Otherwise, my son tends to cry for all or part of the 20-30 minutes it takes to shower and get dressed, no matter where I put him (swing, bouncy seat, carseat, crib). Any suggestions? How do you do it??

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Kisa - posted on 03/18/2012

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I am not sure why noone really mentions simply taking baby into shower with you. I took my daughter for first time at 2 weeks ( and I had a 13mo old). Get a good baby tub that has the sling thing for newborns. fill it up with warm water. put baby in and push baby tub to back of the tub, turn shower down on only you and shower. babies LOVE the water, and they can see and be with you. my daughter was so attached to her pacifier I gave it to her in the shower and she would get SOOOO relaxed. THen I would pick baby up and have skin to skin bonding and cuddle time. is great for baby and breatsfeeding and hormones. sometimes we even nursed in shower. I would wash baby while it was in the baby tub as they get so slippery if you are holding them. my kids always lasted longer and stayed calm and content this way. I could get out and dried off and partly dressed usually before getting baby out and dressed.

IF the baby was going to sleep well I did the bouncy seat or travel swing in the bathroom. when I had to two the 1yr old could jump in the doorway jumper. He loved it eventhough he was walking. and he never get to do it unless I was showering. so 13mo old in doorway jumper and 2 week old with me. worked great. In fact we still shower with kids a lot now 4 and 5yr old. it is faster and we can all shower so much faster before we run out of warm water.

Really showering and bathing with your kids is very good for them and you. the lactation consultatns I was working with suggested it when my 1st was 4mo old for bonding and better breastfeeding. I didn;t know why we didn;t do it sooner, made life so much easier. And the babies get used to the shower hitting them when your holding them and can help prevent them hating the shower when older.

My son has a sensory disorder and even did well with the shower on him.

Rachael - posted on 11/06/2008

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I have 4 kids ages,5,4,3,and 1.I shower when there taking there naps or at night when my husband gets home from work,those are the only times that I can do that!

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Heather - posted on 11/11/2008

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Both my kids are going to be 4 and 1 this month. I shower at night after I put them to bed. My husband works out of state during the week so Sunday - Thursday I am a single parent so I know how hard it is. Night time is the ONLY time I have to do anything for me! Good Luck!

Melissa - posted on 11/11/2008

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I try to shower at night too after my two are in bed, but sometimes by the time I get them to bed, I'm too tired to even think about showering -- Sometimes I cheat and take a bath with the kids! (mine are 3 1/2 and 1 though -- you might have to wait until your 4 month old gets a little older to do that)

Jennifer - posted on 11/11/2008

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I think showering is overrated!! HAHAHA I seem to never get a chance to get one. My son is2, and is a fish..I nor my husband can getinthe shower w/out him. The girls love the water too, so it's harder yet. If you find a good solutoin, PLEASE let ME know!!

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My children are just a few more months apart than yours, but I also had to resort to showering either at night, go without, get up at 5am, or try it at naptime. Now that the boys are a little older, I make my husband get up with the children while I shower ;)

User - posted on 11/11/2008

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My daughter is 9 months, i'm not breast feeding but if I leave the room my daughter screams. If I need a shower really bad and she is awake i take her to the door of the shower, and keep the bathroom door open while i shower peaking through every once in a while.
Sometimes I wait until she takes a nap and sometimes I wait until her dad gets home... really depends on how bad I need a shower lol

Andrea - posted on 11/11/2008

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When I was expecting #2 I started the routine of showering before bed, and I'm glad I did. Now that my kids are 5 (kindergarten) and 3 that is officially my "mommy time", and something I look forward to every day. I don't have to feel guilty for getting clean, and I go to bed refreshed and feeling like I accomplished something important for the day. Plus, it makes my mornings go so much faster!

Hollie - posted on 11/11/2008

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i have a 3 1/2 year old and a 8 month old i find it easier to take a shower a night when they both have gone to bed.... and if needed just wash hair in the morning

Christina - posted on 11/11/2008

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I have an 8 month old. As long as the bathroom is somewhat clean no tissues or cuetips on the floor i throw some toys on the floor and let her crawl around and play. When she was younger I put her in a papasan chair and she was generally happy especailly if I played peek a boo w/ the shower door (even though its clear glass she thought it was fun)



As for nursing. I would suggest having special toys/ activities for your 3 year old that he/she only gets to use while you are nursing. Aspecial box/basket of toys and or a ctivities that he/she can do by him/her self. That way the toys are special and it is fun when you nurse because your 3 yr old gets to do some special activities near you while you nurse.



That's what I plan to do once I have a second baby.

Jonelle - posted on 11/11/2008

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I would say as long as you have you kids in a safe place you take a shower when you need to or want to. It is okay to take that little time for yourself. It is what helps keep us sane sometimes. Don't be afraid to make yourself priority sometimes.

Kim - posted on 11/11/2008

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If I can't squeeze one in at nap time then I do one of two things.... My Son (11mo) LOVES the bath/ bathroom... I have the bottom drawers filled with kid friendly things he thinks he can't have ( to make it more fun).. travel shampoo bottles, lotions.. and some toys mixed in.. and I lock us both in the bathroom- he is usually occupied enough that I can take a shower while he explores- OR We just take a bath together . He loves to splash and throw toys at me, he's not a fan of me turning on the shower to wash my hair at the end.. but he'll live. Won't be the first or last time I've made him mad!

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I take my daughter in the shower with me when my son naps. Because I don't want to miss any of the few moments with my husband.

User - posted on 11/11/2008

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I finally had to give up and shower at night after the kids were asleep. I have a 5 yr old daughter and 2 yr old son. My husband has to leave for work really early and it helped him more if I showered at night. In the mornings I re-wet my hair and blow dry. If the kids interrupt me then at least I don't have to dry off or run out of the shower dripping water everywhere!

Carolyn - posted on 11/11/2008

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You could have the 3 year old bath while you shower and if you have a swing or a bouncy seat you can put the younger one in that in the door way of the bathroom while you shower. I put my son when he was 6 months old in a bouncer in the doorway while I take a shower and I occasionally look around the curtain and play peek-a-boo with him

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yah do you like baths? my sons are 4years and 3 months and i put him in his little tub where its like a reclined tub with a bit of warm water, and i put it right next to the tub while im in there, he loves being in the water and most babies do because its like the womb. theres no way his face even comes close to the water in this tub but he loves it and when his water cools down and mine does i bring him in the tub with me when im done washing up and wash him up too. My 4year old hangs in his room doing an activity and comes in and out of the bathroom while this is going on too lol. Or if your 3 year old naps and your baby does at the same time. If your 3 year old doesnt nap you should get him to at the same time everyday so you can plan around it. I find getting the kids on a schedule sets yours. Good luck :)

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I have the living room gated and baby-proofed and let my 2 year old daughter toddle around and my 6 month old son rolls around. I think they get used to it... I've even caught my daughter giving the baby toys to play with!

Loni - posted on 11/10/2008

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My kids are now 5 and 2 so we've moved onto the "Mommy's trying to shower, please close the door/curtain." stage lol :D



When they were smaller, I'd shower when the hubby was home, or else, I'd make sure the oldest was occupied with something that WOULD hold his attention long enough for me to shower, and take the baby monitor into the bathroom with me, making sure the door was left open. When I had to take the baby into the bathroom and there wasn't time for both of us to be showered, dressed, etc., I'd leave the door open (so the temperature wasn't differant when we were done), toss my daughter itno her bouncie chair, grab her favorite toys, and usually have both kids playing on the floor while I "power-shower" lol ...... btw, brushing your teeth, and playing peek-a-boo at the same time is entertaining and kills two birds with one stone!!

Amanda - posted on 11/07/2008

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Hi! I have twin almost two year olds and this was a problem for me as well. When they were under 12 months, I would put one in the play pen and one in the saucer and bring the monitor with me to the bathroom. Now that they are older and mobile, I nap during Seseme Street or a video with their baby gate shut. If I had a 3yr old and a 4m, I think that I would have my 3 year old have alone play time in his room with a video or music (you need a gate!!!) and have the 4 month old in her crib or a play pen with a monitor. That way each child is learning to be alone for a short time while mommy takes care of her business. Hope that helps.

Marisa - posted on 11/07/2008

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My son stopped napping at 2 years old so I couldn't wait for him to nap in order to shower. We had gates installed upstairs and I closed the doors to all the rooms I didn't want him to be in unsupervised, kept my bedroom door and bathroom open and took a shower while he toddled all around. When my baby girl was born, I just put her in her bouncy seat in the bathroom while I showered. My son is now 3, daughter, 15 months and walking and there hasn't been a missed shower yet! My daughter no longer sits patiently while I shower but with the gate and closed off rooms and some baby-proofing, I feel comfortable enough to let her walk around. Just make sure you baby-proof those doorknobs and I found a good and inexpensive way to keep your babies fingers from getting caught in doors: wrap an old dishtowel, scarf or tshirt from one knob to another on a door so that it can't close all the way and those little fingers won't get pinched, plus the kid can't close himself out of your room/bathroom while you're in there.

Cheryl - posted on 11/07/2008

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Oh, the stinky mom syndrome!! lol I understand completely!! I have 4 kids 17, 13, 4,3. When the 4th was born, I had a 21 month old. When my husband would be at work and the other two at school, I just didn't get a shower. Actually there were times that I didn't get one for a couple of days....and honestly was too tired to care!! I still have problems finding that time some days, but it's usually easiest to wait until my husband gets home. My 4 year old still cried the entire time I was in the shower, even when daddy had him. Waiting for your husband to get home is the best suggestion unless you have a neighbor that would be willing to come and sit with them long enough for you to shower. I've done that before too!! It will get better. Eventually!!!





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Maria - posted on 11/07/2008

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My kids are older now... soon to be 8 and 10, but long ago I gave up on morning showers! I hop in the tub as soon as I tuck them in at night and relax. It is the best solution for us. It takes some getting used to when you are in a routine of doing everything in the morning, but it saves me soo much time on hectic days! Best Wishes!
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Amanda - posted on 11/07/2008

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I have 2 children a 3 year old and a 9 month old. I always have my shower when he goes down for his morning nap. If we have to leave the house before that time, I am very lucky and my 3 1/2 year old daughter looks after her little brother. I think once he is crawling this will be harder!!! I say the best options are at nap time or at night after they have gone to bed.

Andrea - posted on 11/07/2008

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I first used to put bubs in a pram in the bathroom & occassionally, I would cuddle him holding him under a soft shower, & he loved it. Then he was bigger, i used to put him in the bath & put the plug in so he cld have a bath whilst I showered.

Sarah - posted on 11/06/2008

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I would try nap time like the others said, but don't worry if he wakes up during your shower. Babies cry. That's what they do. :)

Jenn - posted on 11/06/2008

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LOL I shower at night. Or I shower with my daughter when my son is taking a nap. *shrug*

Melissa - posted on 11/06/2008

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I went through the same. I learned to shower durring naps, with the pack and play set up in front of the bathroom door, or with the baby monitor on. I had more luck waiting to shower till my husband got home. He was tickled to hold and play with our son alone while I showered. He was even more tickled at a clean and relaxed wife,lol.

Erin - posted on 11/06/2008

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hello...I have a 4 year old and 2 year old...and I used to shower when my son was napping and I would bring my daughter into the bathroom with me in a bouncy chair. I bought a clear shower liner so she could see me. As long as she could see me and I talked to her she wouldn't cry. She still comes into the bathroom with me while I am in the shower and I just bring in a few waterproof toys..because they always end up in the shower with me...lol...

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My kids are 15y & 15 m (big gap!), so I was lucky all summer when my eldest was home from school. before that, though, from ages 2m- 10m, I had the same issue you did. I actually found it easiest to bring the baby in the shower with me- as soon as she was old enough to sit in a bath sling-seat. I put that at the end of the tub & turned the sprayer so it went straight down, so the most she got was a mist. I shampooed quickly & sudsed up quick, and would stop to cuddle her in between when she needed it (sometimes nursing in the shower!). As she got older, she could sit in the end of the tub with some toys & play. Now, at 15m, she still showers with me often- she loves to play with the water (a rain dance!) and it gets her clean at the same time. Then we get dried off & I dress her while I'm in my robe & she plays on my bed, looking at books,etc, while I dress. Just make sure the bathroom is nice & toasty! It also helps if your baby loves the water like mine does!

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