Humphrey Boguard or Complacent Negligence?

Nadine - posted on 04/09/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




So let me ask this... in the south it is comon to let someone else dicipline your child if you feel you know them decent enough/live under another's roof with your child. How far,if at all, would you let them go?
Furthermore, those that let others (with children) live in the home; either require themselves to be involved in the discipline methods of said children (by the reason that it's their house--their rules) or completely ignore how that child is/isn't being cared for.

What are your thoughts? Which veiw do you hold?


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Nadine - posted on 04/09/2010




Yes but some people aren't given the coice so easily. they move in to a place to live out of desperation for a place to stay and are now hoplessly locked ina battle on how to raise their kid in another's home. as if the situation wasn't stressful enough!

Miranda - posted on 04/09/2010




I would discuss discipline issues with whoever was staying with me or if we were staying with someone else. I don't think I would let someone else discipline my child unless it was a dangerous situation (like touching the stove and they smacked his hand away...I would understand that). I would definitely not be ok with spanking or letting my son watch tv or movies. He is way to young and I do not think that is a productive thing to do. I wouldn't want to discipline someone else's children. That is their job. Unless I am babysitting then they clearly understand my rules and punishment policy.

Kristin - posted on 04/09/2010




I can't imagine letting someone who has a totally different philosophy discipline my kids. I am totally fine with others putting my kids into time outs that are age appropriate, but nothing more. Now, I also go over what is okay and not okay when we go to someone else's home. At that time, I do make a point to ask our host or hostess if there is anything they would like to add.

In the past, when we've had others over for playdates, if someone's child is getting into things they shouldn't be, I give the warning and ask the parent to keep their child out of whatever it is.

I don't really know how I would handle a living situation. I am probably more strict with my kids than the family that we've gone to stay with would be. But, I don't know how that would work the other way. I guess, I would probably want to lay down some rules for either situation before the living together began.

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