Husband claims I have no say about things because I don't make money

Marisa - posted on 10/09/2016 ( 3 moms have responded )




So I over heard my husband whispering to his mother that I don't have a say on anything because I'm not the one who makes the money bc I stay at home . Now I am very hurt by this I've already expressed to him prior to this incident that I'm feeling worthless bc I don't contribute financially. Then he goes and says this to his mother? My heart is broken. Please any advice would be great.


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Meg - posted on 10/10/2016




Sometimes men need someone to turn to when they are processing life issues, and they are afraid to share those feelings with us, because they don't want to upset us even more. So, in trying to figure out how they feel, and what action to take, they will vent to someone (like we do at times). Does he have any friends who support your marriage that he could safely vent to without judgement? If not, maybe he could talk to a counselor, pastor, or his dad to help him process what's going on. He may not be trying to "hate on" you, just trying to work things out over time and his mother listens. She might not be the best confidante, but that might change if he joins a men's hobby group to let off steam or something healthy like that. I hope things go forward in a good way for you two.

Michelle - posted on 10/09/2016




My ex was like that, that's why he is my ex.
You need to let him know how it made you feel like Jodi said.

Jodi - posted on 10/09/2016




You need to let him know how this made you feel. If he continues to insist that this is the case, then maybe some counselling for the two of you is in order. Personally, if my husband had ever said this when I was not working, he'd be wondering who was going to be cooking his dinners and washing his clothes, because I sure as heck wouldn't be doing any of it!

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