Husband feels left out

Angel - posted on 08/31/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




you heard of Mama's Boy...well I for sure have one of husband made the comment that our son always wants me and he's not good enough or that our son does't like him?? I feel bad for my husband but I am the one he is with all the time and I am the one who takes care of his needs....Its hard becasue my husband works late a lot and doesn't really get to see son much except on weekends...


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Brandi - posted on 09/02/2009




my husband still says thoes lines lol but don't worry it gets better..i've been pretty much a single mom in a sence since my first son was born 4 years ago..(but not by choice) my husbands job called for him to work night shift for 3 /12 years and he slept all day. Then he finally went to mid day shift about 6 months ago but now he's gone all day long! both my sons still come and get me over their dad when their hurt or don't get what they want and so on b/c it was just the 3 of us all thoes years and like u said u took care of their needs.. but other then that when it comes to fun it's all about dad! my husband learned to make his days off all about him and the boys and having a blast! it took some time for the boys to catch on since his days off are never the same and of course never the weekend! but now their 2 1/2 and 4 and when daddys home it's all about them spending time together..going to the park... getting ice cream from the ice cream truck etc.~ i make sure i have something to go do so i don't get in the way of their "special time".... and so they are completely alone together.. tell ur husband not to get frustrated the older they get the easier it is to bond and find lots of fun things to do together!

Shauna - posted on 09/02/2009




I understand how you feel. My husband works and I stay home as well and he doesn't get to see our daughter much through the week. Why don't you try letting your husband give your son , his bedtime feeding and change and let him put him to bed. That should help a little bit with bonding. During the weekends, he should try to take care of more of his son's needs and play with him. These are just tips. Good luck! I hope it works out

Jane - posted on 08/31/2009




he needs his own time w/him. maybe he can do his morning feedings or pick a time when he's home, weekends, etc. that can be just theirs. it will take time but kids are all the better for it.

Karrie - posted on 08/31/2009




It goes in phases, just like our moods! Encourage Dad to drop everything when he walks in the door & pay special attention to the child. Maybe Dad could make up a special funny game to play with just him to encourage him to notice Daddy has something to offer, too. Sometimes that makes all the difference.

Ara - posted on 08/31/2009




My daughter went thru that stage too. She'd cry like crazy when my husband came near her. A few weeks later, she warmed back up to him. Good news, he'll grow out of it in a few weeks. :)

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