Husband gets angry when wife gets sick

Christy - posted on 01/20/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




I love my husband and I have not a single doubt that he loves me. He is a wonderful father and a good husband, but he does do one thing that I just do not get. Everytime I become sick enough that keeps me in bed or in active he gets upset. (And this olny happens to me maybe once a year). Like I am doing this on purpose to keep from helping with the kids. Does this happen with anyone else?


Evelyn - posted on 01/20/2010




My husband use to act like that,but not as much anymore.(you know the saying treat people the way you want to be treated) well the last time I got sick and he acted as if I'd done something wrong,I waited for next time he got sick and treated him the same way he treated me,and when he started to complain I reminded him how he treated me when I was.Don't get me wrong I luv my hubby with all my heart,but I sometimes I need to be taken care of too, and so do you. You just have to remind them some times :)

Melyssa - posted on 11/25/2012




I think it's because they are upset that they can't fix it so the get angry

Jennifer - posted on 01/20/2010




Mine is pretty much the same way. He doesn't get mad at me, but he still does nothing to help. I am expected to make supper and clean the baby after supper and still do everything for the kids. All while he sits on his butt and watches tv. His excuse is that he gets up at 2:30am to go to work and doesn't get home til 4-6 everynight and he is too tired. The last time I think really got him, because I still had to do everything and ended up so sick that it landed me in the hospital for 5 days. Of course there were still the dirty dishes in the sink when I got out that they used the night before I went in (disgusting!). I think he finally learned that when I say I'm sick I really am and if he doesn't want to have to take care of the kids on his own while I'm in the hospital, then he better help me from the start so I don't get so worn out and dehydrated.

Susanne - posted on 05/16/2013




I have never had this situation happen.
I admire you all for you patience, that you take care and love your husbands despite, what seems to me, an unacceptably demanding attitude.
My husband is the one telling me I shouldn't do anything and get some rest when I am sick, and I try to repay him with the same when he gets sick. We've been together for 7 years, and I hope that won't ever change...

Susan - posted on 01/20/2010




Unfortunately, some men sometimes feel that mothers and/or wives are not allowed to be sick. But when the men are sick they expect you to act as though you are their mother - the way you tend to the children when they are sick! I say let the men play mommy for a week lol!

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Emma - posted on 01/20/2010




i think that this happens to all wives and mothers its a man thing no matter how good the man women are not aloud to be ill LOL

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