Husband is drawn to facebook women

Yorkvillemom - posted on 02/02/2016 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I'm numb already about all his nonsense. Whenever we are in the same room all his does is check on his phone. I found out that he still adds random women and even chats with some behind my back. We have a 11 month old and it's hard for me. I know it's just online stuff, I try my best to be positive . We often have financial problems because he handles all the money he earns and he over spend. He doesn't give me any money even if I do all the chores in the house, cook everyday, and take care of his two dogs. I'm feeling tired ... I am unemployed.

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Michelle - posted on 02/02/2016

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He's very controlling. I would suggest you get out and find yourself a job and gain some independence.
This line worries me: "He doesn't give me any money even if I do all the chores in the house" You are his wife, not his maid. You need to decide if that's the way you want your child to grow up thinking a "normal" marriage is.
Also don't say it's just online stuff, that leads to a lot more. He is emotionally cheating and you don't need to put up with it.

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Shantel - posted on 02/22/2016

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If he is the provider he is going to act like he can do what ever he wants. You should defiantly have your own. Try to boost up ur business, get more traffic coming in. If I have an issue with something I make notes so I won't forget what to say and have a nice sit down with him.

Lydia - posted on 02/08/2016

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I guess there are a couple of things I would like to know. You said you aren't "really" making any money with your arts and crafts shop?
A little advice...I would be putting back even a little money for yourself. I would find out how much you have to have on hand to open a savings account that doesn't charge you.
All this talking to other women is not a good sign. Neither is it a good sign that he's not giving you "any" money. Don't put what he's doing on yourself. You think somehow that you do all these things that should make him happy and he's still going after other women. I hate to say this but unless you know where the money is going he could be cheating on you. Checking the phone, talking to people behind your back, and not giving you any money are red flags.
Do you have anyone that would help you if you leave him? Family or friends?

Monica - posted on 02/08/2016

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This is too bad to hear. However, this is definitely his own insecurity if he can't find the comfort in his own home, with his wife, and child. Sounds like you are doing a phenomenal job up-keeping the home, too bad for him. I remind myself that no matter what I do, how much I bring to the table, if my husband Is going to walk away, that is his own problem not mine, and I know my worth and my attributes, life is way too short. I would look for a job or even a at home business. =)

Yorkvillemom - posted on 02/08/2016

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Hi everyone, thank you for the responses. I would like to talk to him about everything. I'm a little younger than him. I'm a stay home mom and I have a a little arts and craft shop but I don't really make enough money (I'm still unemployed) . I didn't do anything for him to treat me like a maid and not trust me with money and chats on Facebook with other women. However, I don't know how to confront him about it. He always think that what he does is right and always post on Facebook about me and our son. He makes everyone think he is a very good man so it's hard for me to understand. Any advice on how to talk to him about our issues? Thank you in advance

Raye - posted on 02/05/2016

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Being a stay at home mom is a job. And if you're married, what's his is yours and what's yours is his. So he does need to meet your needs (and the baby's) financially. If he controls all the money he makes, then maybe you need to go make your own, and start becoming more independent of him. As Michelle stated, the online chatting to other women is emotional cheating, which is bad enough itself, but usually leads to physical cheating. Don't stand for it. He either stops, and begins respecting you and your marriage, or you leave him and take him for everything he's worth.

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You seem very drained physically and mentally, first thing u need to ask yourself is do u need really need this person in your life, I say person I refuse to call him a man,,, then make a list of reasons why you would want him, a very small list I pray, n believe u deserve better, he's not helping u financial wise or emotionally. Never ever forget your self worth as for Facebook thing it's a childish way for him to gain admiration, which is fake and a sure sign he's very insecure, get away from him n rebuild your self esteem, x

Michelle - posted on 02/03/2016

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Please do NOT post any "contact me for more info" regarding to jobs, that is still soliciting.
Michelle,
SAHM Admin.

Yorkvillemom - posted on 02/02/2016

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Hi Tonya, that would be great! I'd like to get at least a work at home job.

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