Husband seems very needy about sex. what do you think?

Jen - posted on 01/20/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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We've been married 5 years with 3 kids ( one from my previous marriage). Of course things have slowed now but it's still on average once or twice a week not counting the other "services" performed on him. I'm home with the kiddos and work a part time job about 20 hours a week. I'm just plain dog tired and no my sex drive isn't really that high. He expects it to be like it was in the first two months we met! I'm not fat, good looking, cook, clean etc. I really feel like he expects the perfect wife and I'm starting to resent him. Not to toot my own horn but I dont think he realizes how good he has it. We have a beautiful home, 3 healthy kids, we get along but he keeps finding things he wants to change or have me do different.

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Trisha - posted on 01/23/2015

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Perhaps try to get your husband to help a bit more around the house so that you have the energy to have sex. Do your best to get to bed just a little bit earlier. Sex is big for intimacy. Do yourself a favor, and just talk to him and let him know you are exhausted. It will be a lot better than just refusing him on a regular basis. That will eventually build up resentment and tension between the two of you.
I actually am in the exact opposite situation. My husband's sex drive has slowed down dramatically in the past few months (from 1-2 times a day to once every 2 days).
I get really upset when I do not get that sexual attention from my husband. I like the connection we have after sex. Plus, it is a huge tension relief.

Matty - posted on 01/22/2015

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Hi Jen, I think your man has it lucky, once a week is good and he needs to know that, men and women are so different and have different needs most times and their must be respect for each other, it is quite ok to say no, not tonite, you have all the right too, it's your body and mind.I've been married now for 17 years and yes sex dies down, I lost my only child 4 years ago and I still grieve daily for her , she was only 12 years old and our marriage took a beating, I didn't want sex anymore and it has affected me bad still, I'm not sexual with my husband at all, he is however very horny and I don't know what to do about that either,most nights I just want to be left alone!! I know it's selfish but I can't pretend and can't fake the sex either,every couple are different , you just need to find what works for you, good luck,Matty

Letha - posted on 01/20/2015

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Ive only been married for 2 years but ive been with my husbnad for 6 years and we jave 3 kids as well and its gets stressful but my husband makes enough for me to stay home. And so for when my husband wants to change something its normally to just try it. And thats coming from a woman that does everything for her husband i spoil him. And im not fat, good looking, i also cook every night and i makes sure the houae is clean everyday before he gets home. But my husband had a thyroid removed and so his sex drive was down. But now its always him wanting me to change certain things but its because he is attracted to it. My husband has dont this multiple times its like a phase or something. But if your exhausted make sure you tell him because i didnt and my husband thought i wasnt turned on my him, and thats not at all what it was. But it was because 3 kids only a year apart are exhausting. Hope this helps. Good luck.

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