Husband thinks he deserves all of the money because HE works and I am a stay at home mom.

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Any ideas on how to deal with a husband who is super controlling with money (well actually everything)????
I have to "ask" for everything. He "gives me $800 a month but that is for groceries and 3 kids and all of their needs. Then He goes and buys himself whatever he wants. He makes about $450,000.00 a year!!!
I am so sick and tired of this. I don't have a key to the mail box because he doesn't "trust" me & he is such an a** if I do buy anything. He also bought 2 VERY expensive cars, even though we already had 3 perfectly good cars without even talking to me about it. He called me and asked if I wanted to meet him for lunch and that should have been my first clue. He never, ever, ever did that before. We're in public and he informs me that a Dodge Viper will be showing up. then he did it again..... minus the lunch and the car was a different color.... Yesterday, I went to move his car because we were having a snow storm and we can't park on the street , and I find a bag of brand new clothes for him (of course)- $400.00. He took my key to his car and I haven't seen it again. Help......


User - posted on 03/15/2013




Sorry hun, men like that make me sick to my stomach! You can try and reason with him by threathning to end the relationship if he doesn't change. You are not his employee, you are his wife, his companion. I don't have much to add but would like to wish you good luck dealing with the matter and I really hope he changes as a man like that really shatters your self-esteem.

Terri - posted on 03/12/2013




He is wrong. but you have to find the strength to stand up to him. That's not right at all. When you become married you become one! You became his helpmate not his doormat. Hope everything works out for you!!

Christina - posted on 03/11/2013




Don't take this the wrong way but it sounds like you know this is all wrong. You either have to be strong enough to stand up for yourself or get the help you need....meaning counseling. Your kids will suffer if you guys don't figure this out.


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