Husband very little help

Rielle - posted on 03/28/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )

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I'm a stay at home mom of a 13 month old and 3 month old.. and my husband is very lazy.. he will sit and watch his tv shows when right in front of him is clothes to be put away etc.. plus when he's sicl witj a cold he thinks its a free pass to not wake up with our 3 month old after I have been going on three hours sleep for months.. how do I approach situation. as I can't do this all by myself anymore. .. help

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Carol - posted on 03/29/2013

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I agree with Michelle. I broke down in tears when my oldest was about 10 months old. I was exhausted. The kid still nursed at least once at night and took maybe a couple 15 minute naps during the day. His nights lasted 8 hours tops. My husband had no idea how tired I was and how much I needed his help. As soon as I told him, he started to help out more. My second son slept more, but my husband helped from day one. The combination made my life much easier.

I found that help with the clothes or helping get ready or making a meal needed to be pointed out every now and then too. It's hard to say what we think is so obvious in a way that doesn't come across as nagging or complaining. Good luck. The conversation is sooo worth it.

Michelle - posted on 03/29/2013

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Tell him you need help. Men aren't mindreaders and if we don't tell them straight out they think everything is fine.

If nothing changes then stop doing things for him. Don't cook his meals or clean up after him. He will either pull his finger out and start to help or he will starve.

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