Husbands

Jennifer - posted on 12/03/2008 ( 17 moms have responded )

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When will my husband wake up, get the kids ready by himself...take them out all day, bring them home, put them to bed and then look at me lovingly and say, "I have a completely new respect for you, I could not do your job." ????? :)

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Brandi - posted on 03/01/2010

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WHEN YOU ASK HIM TO. LOL men are dense. If you want something, you have to say so. Tell him, Honey, Next saturday, I need a day for myself. I'll need you to get up and get the kids ready, take them to the mall, park, whatever, feed them and put them to bed for me, thanks. :-)" Tell him you'll "make it worth his while" lol.

Nakisha - posted on 03/01/2010

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Please, when your husband do that, tell him to call my husband for a little insight. I have to schedule times for my husband to even take the kids by himself, out the house, away from me LOL

Melissa - posted on 03/01/2010

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UUUUHHH, sorry NOT gonna happen. if he wont do it by now it just aint in him! lol! he is probly a very good father who picks his moments. they just arent on your schedual!! right?

Amy - posted on 03/01/2010

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guys are honestly clueless. tell him one morning you are going solo grocery shopping early and make him a list of things you do every morning to "help him" have an easier morning. my husband opened the list after i left and his jaw dropped - but he did it all and also unloaded the dishwasher! he goes "i just had no idea how much you do in a morning" he always helps out now. his excuse was that he wasn't ever home weekdays and really didn't know how it went down.

don't ever say anything like "oh, i have a huge pile of laundry to bring down tomorrow" he hears - you'll get it tomorrow and don't need help. guys also do not understand hints. you have to flat out say or have written down - this is what you can do to help out so i have more energy for the BEDROOM! later. ;)

Felicia - posted on 03/01/2010

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My husband works during the week, so on weekends he tries to help more but he cant stay motivated. We get up of the morning and he will tell me that he will take care of everything to include the housework and taking care of our son. After about 3 hours, my son completly ignores his dad. My husband will go get on the computer and not pay him any attention so therefore, instead of me relaxing all day I end up doing all the things I do every other day. I never get a break unless my son goes stay at his grandparents for a night or two.

Ana - posted on 03/01/2010

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at first i have to ask my husband what i wanted him to do but now the baby is 22 months and my husband is doing more without me asking him. so as time goes i believe is going to get better. in the mornings i ask my husband that while i make breakfast if he could take the baby out the room and change his diapers and defenelity for just leave them home alone for a couple of hours u dont have to go far just let them bond with each other alone.

Maria - posted on 02/28/2010

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Arrange to go do something with friends for a weekend, and leave the kids home with him.



And you actually have to communicate your needs to your husband in an explicit manner, at the time you need him to do something.



Tell him, "Hon, I need to take a shower and get dressed (or lie down, or use the bathroom, or read an article or book). You watch the kids." Don't ask. Just tell him. Same thing with household chores, "Hon, I want you to do the dishes, please. I'm going to be doing (this other thing)."



If you just get back from doing something outside the house, and he expects you to take over, say "I need half an hour before you throw the kids at me."

Latisha - posted on 02/27/2010

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Never lol!! They just say you don't do anything all day that because they have a job they do all the work.

Jo - posted on 12/04/2008

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Oh, nearly forgot, at one stage he suggested we alternate the three hourly roster, so each could get a period of unbroken rest. Good in theory, but in practice, without fail, each time it was his turn he'd ask me to help him, because he couldn't manage. Might as well have just done it myself!

Jo - posted on 12/04/2008

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My husband is getting better, but used to use the excuse of "I have to go to the toilet" to death. Our son was waking every three hours for a feed and nappy change. If i asked my husband to do it (give me a break) he'd give the above excuse and tell me to start and he'd take over. Of course, he stayed there long enough to ensure that I had it all done before he got back!! Looking back I should have told him he's a grown man and can wait to go to the toilet, our son can't wait to be fed!

Also, when I was participating in the paid workforce, he would expect me to completely look after our son until literally I left the house and then take over immediately upon returning home, sometimes even before I could take my uniform off! Of course, when HE was going to work, he expected me to look after baby so he had a chance to get ready and then he had to be allowed time to de-stress from his job when he got home, before I could ask him to do anything. Man, would it be different if I had that time over again!

He does, however, defend me to family and friends who criticise the fact that I haven't returned to work (I left my other job when our son was 7 months old) saying that I'm dong the most important job I'll ever do, so at least he's got it right in that respect!

Carolann - posted on 12/04/2008

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I have to say as well that my husband has come to terms with how hard my job is. He tried much hard that he did just 6 months ago. I think he realized I wasn't very much fun to be around come the end of the day after being yelled at all day by the kids. He makes an effort to set up dates or ask that someone come watch the kids so I can have a break even if he has to be gone. God bless him he is a savior.

Stephanie - posted on 12/04/2008

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When you get your husband to do that, let me know how you got him to, lol.

Melissa - posted on 12/03/2008

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lol, My hubby is the same. Can't function without a woman in his life. He grew up with mom and two doting grandma's. Went to college and stayed with doting gma. got married to me, and we lived in apt under same doting gma for three months. We didn't have our son till the third yr we were married. He still isn't used to having a son. But with a little proding, he is starting to help occasionally. Just not between the hours of 9pm and 6am (Sleeps like and elephant on tranquilizer lol) or 7am to 6pm (work) If he is off, I have to ask if I need his help. or he just doesn't notice.

Kerry - posted on 12/03/2008

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Unfortunatley my partner is the same as Jennifer's, I get up early in the morning make his breakfast & lunch, whilst he gets up showers & goes to work. I then spend most days cleaning up, he gets home from work & I make tea whilst he either plays on ps3 or starts up his laptop. When it comes to bath & bed time he always seems to need to do somerthing or one of his programes are on!! He is a loving partner & does spend time with our little girl but I wish he could just help out a bit and show more appericiation, espcially as I am 61/2 months pregnant!! It's good to know I am not the only one who feels unappriciated, lol xxx

Alishia - posted on 12/03/2008

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I'm lucky, my partner understands just how much work goes into it. he's tried the whole day thing, and can barely last 3 hours! lol gotto love em though for putting in just a little bit of extra effort when its overtly obvious that its all getting a little bit much. A little more would always be nice though :)

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