I am a stay at home mom of a sweet 5 month old,

Stacey - posted on 04/06/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )

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and while I LOVE being with my daughter full time, it is really taking it's toll on me. It is SO MUCH HARDER than I ever imagined being a stay at home mom. Anyone else feel this way?

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Devon - posted on 04/06/2009

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Yes, some time's i wish i could lose my mind so at least then i could have some escape. The hardest part is the guilt of feeling like your kids really should make you feel filfilled and that being a mom should be EVERYTHING. I'm still trying to understand that yeah i'm mom but somewhere in there i'm still me and it's not my kids job to fulfill me. My advice to you that i WISH i could follow, step out of your mommy roll every once in a while and just be you. and if your husband doesn't like that some days the laundry and dishes aren't done then maybe that's his problem and he should take care of it.

Alicia - posted on 04/06/2009

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i luv bein a stay home mommy 2 my 2 1/2yr old and 3month old!!! it gets easier as they get older, and more fun :D i took on another persons kids and i almost 4got my son and a 1yr old girl cuz they were so quiet and content w/themselves... the twins on the other hand were a nightmare!!! that had to b the longest 4hours of my life...but if ya ever need anyone to talk 2 im always here :)

Kat - posted on 04/06/2009

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when i had just one, it seemed impossible! now that i have five, life is much less stressful. it's certainly chaotic, but i've learned to let the small stuff go and just enjoy them being young. goo luck and God bless!

Kerrie - posted on 04/06/2009

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I'm there with you!!! I always thought it would be easy. Just try to remember to rest nd get out if you can! I'm not sure how much help this is, but I've had to try it too!~ I've been a stay at home mom for about 3 1/2 years now. Also, don't tak on anther persons kids unless you have lots of extra energy, I did that! OOPS!! Great job staying with them!

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Stacey - posted on 04/08/2009

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It would definitely be nice if daddy helped out. I have already explained that just because I'm at home DOES NOT mean I want to or even like cleaning up all day. I am suppose to be spending quality time with our daughter. Not running around being the maid, chief, chauffeur and nanny.

Tanya - posted on 04/07/2009

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Well, I know what you mean. My daughter is now 8 1/2 months old and it has been tough. She has reflux and needed my constant attention for so long. Since she turned 6 months it became easier, because she could sit on her play mat and play with her toys while i was cleaning the house around her. I would move her to whichever room I was cleaning or just made sure that I could constantly see her. It made it easier for me to get everything done so that when she took a nap I could take one with her or surf the net or do what ever I wanted. Other times when she really got to me I would lay her in her cot for 5 minutes so that I can just recap and take a breather. I found that I would then be able to attend to her needs more efficiently than before.

You know, we really go at it all the time and need to think about the following: When we study, we are suppose to study for 45 min and then take a 15 min break and repeat this throughout the day, but when we have children we don't take any breaks if we are cleaning the house as well. When you study you soon realize that with the 15 min break, you can concentrate better when you return to your studies / work and you are sharper than you would have been have you not taken your break.

Anyways, I push on my family's buttons to give me some time to myself. My parents sometimes babysit for a couple of hours so I can shop, sleep or go to a restaurant / movie with my husband. I also organize it when I know my daughter is due for a long nap to make it easier for them. That way they want to babysit again. My mother taught me how to take care of my daughter, so I have no problem leaving my daughter with her for a bit.

As for partners that don't help or only do dishes, if they helped making baby they need to help taking care of baby. And by helping to keep the house clean they are helping to keep baby away from any unwanted germs and insects that come about when the house is dirty. And by doing that they are helping to keep baby healthy and mommy happy. If mommy is happy, daddy gets more attention. She doesn't have to spend all her time taking care of baby and cleaning and can spend more time with daddy. Then mommy and daddy can be happy together and baby will also be happy... one big happy family.

So it all comes back to daddy helping mommy to keep the house clean :) hehehe

If there is no daddy the family would have to help even more.

That's my opinion and has worked for me.

Jaclyn - posted on 04/07/2009

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I agree i am a stay at home mom of a 5 year old and 8 month old. I thought it would be easier then working, boy was i wrong. I find myself much more tired now then i did when i was working. I would never trade it for anything cause the time i get to spend with them is worth it.

Cheryl - posted on 04/07/2009

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One piece of advice i read on here when My son had thrush and I couldnt get a thing done and was not feeling good at all. Was flylady.net it is advice for cleaning. It made so much time in a day when things are just routin.
We are great moms and just need time to ourselves in a day. now that my son is just over a year I wish I could go back.
Take time for yourself so you are able to enjoy the small moments with your daughter it really does go by too fast!

Tina - posted on 04/06/2009

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I definitely understand what you are going through!  I am a first time mom and it feels extremely overwhelming at times.  My son is 17 months and has become quite the handful!!  I cannot take my eye off of him for one second or he will get into something he is not supposed to.  And during his naps I try and get the other house stuff done.  It gets crazy sometimes.  My boyfriend will do the dishes every once in a while to help out but that really doesn't help.  But I am glad to hear that it gets easier with more children.  Is that really possible?!?! I hope so because we both want to have more kids.  

Kerrie - posted on 04/06/2009

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Quoting Kat:

when i had just one, it seemed impossible! now that i have five, life is much less stressful. it's certainly chaotic, but i've learned to let the small stuff go and just enjoy them being young. goo luck and God bless!



It has gotten easier the last year with my older two kids helping out!  Great advice~  and God Bless you too!

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