I am so Overwhelmed....Help?

Catherine - posted on 02/21/2013 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 month old baby boy and my husband is an underground electrician in the coal mines, he works midnight shift and I try to stay quiet during the day so he can sleep. As a result my house is seriously bad off. I have no clean dishes, I have so much laundry that by the time I finish what I have a whole new weeks worth needs washing again, what is clean I cant put away during the day because Hes asleep in the bedroom and Im to tired at night, theres papers everywhere...........Basically my house is a disgusting mess and I just cant seem to grab a toe-hold ya know? I love being a mom and im not depressed or anything Im just overwhelmed and dont know where to start or how to fix this or what to do.... any suggestions?

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Ebony - posted on 02/23/2013

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lol! Best wishes, it makes you a great mom because your concerned for your family.

Catherine - posted on 02/23/2013

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Thank you guys so much, Knowing that Im not the only one who has fallin so behind on chores makes me feel loads better. Sometimes when I get up to get a drink or go to the bathroom and I trip over something or see the massive pile of clean clothes that need putting away, I feel like Im failing as both mother and Wife because both my child and my husband deserve a clean home. But knowing that Im not the first or only mom to go through this makes it much easier to deal with. Thanks guys. Oh last night I got all my clothes put away but now ofcourse theres 5 loads that need washing lol but hey progress is progress right!

Liz - posted on 02/22/2013

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First of all, just know that you are not alone! I remember when I had my first that I had such a hard time fitting in a shower! Now, I look back and laugh because I have 4 kids and one on the way. Finding time to shower is a minor concern of mine now, haha. Having a baby takes a LOT of adjusting, and you're still in that phase.
Do you by chance have a tv in your room that your husband could turn on while he's sleeping? Or maybe a radio? Just something to create some background noise to drown out the sounds you'll be making. Maybe even just a fan. Could you also bathe your baby during the day instead of at night? That would free up a little more time for you at night. Relax, and know that this stage of your life won't last forever!

Ebony - posted on 02/22/2013

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No problem catherine, I was in the same boat as you one month ago my daughter is now 4 months and spends more time watching me and playing. I have a four year old and as crazy as it may sound i get most of my work done with her help. Maybe if you have a neighbour that you can trust, you can possibly ask them to help you out by either spending time in the day with you and the baby. I find even just having hold the baby for an hour a day makes a huge differe someone nce. Just keep in mind it will only last a little while where things are like this. I struggled with pumping but what ill do is have a big meal just befoer im about to pump then drink a big glass of something hot like tea. I usually pump 4-8 ounces when i do this. sorry about the spelling errors my daughter likes typing. lol! Sometimes when im cooking she likes to watch me move around the kitchen so i put her in the car seat and talk to her and explain what im making... she loves that too. the laundry, i still havent wrapped myself around this situation but i hope my suggestions help somewhat.

Catherine - posted on 02/22/2013

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i breastfeed and he gets one night a week off, its usually sat night off. but sometimes he doesnt even get that. So on his one night a week we have to get all our family visits in, do our shopping, and try to have alone time for the two of us but that never happens lol, so i only get mabe an hour of cleaning done before baby and I have to go to bed! I know it sucks right! the biggest problem is pumping if I could get more than 2 oz each pumping then it would b fine but usually even pumping all day i still only get mabe 1 bottle a day for him. and that gives me enough time to shower and cook while he eats and naps, then hes back up by the time foods ready! I dont know how to get organized, I think if I could find just one day of alone time without anyone (including baby :( tho i love him) being home then i could get caught up and if I could just catch up I know daily chores would be so much easier to handle I think thats my biggest problem. Since theres SOOOOOO much going on thats wrong ANY cleaning I do just doesnt make a dent in the whole! I dont know. Thanks for letting me vent about it though.

Catherine - posted on 02/22/2013

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He gets home anywhere between 8 and 930 am depending on his workload, trys to b in bed by 11 am and trys to get up at 6pm but has to leave for work at 9. that usuallly only gives me an hour in the morning to take a shower and get him fed and off to bed then when he gets up i have 2 hours in which i have to cram dinner, the baby, spending a few minutes talking with him about house needs and responsibilities plus a bath for baby then trying to find a spare minute to hang with my husband and son as a family before packing his lunch and sending him off to work!!!! The baby then wants to feed and go to sleep for the night so from about 9 30 pm to 7 am i am trying to sleep while getting up every 2-3 hrs to feed him and change his diaper. then at 7 we get up and i pump what little I can so Daniel can feed him once a day while i shower then I feed the baby and by the time we've gotten fed and dressed daddys home to do it all over! WOW i am so sorry guys i didnt realize i was going on a giant rant!!!!! So as you can see i just havent worked out the ability to do it all yet! Again sorry bout the rant!

Shawnteria - posted on 02/21/2013

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I can most definitely relate my fiance also works third shift so he sleeos during the day which makes the chores hard to do. right now we're trying out a schedule i asked him to go to sleep in the morning at ten he gets off at 730 so that gives him time to dull down his body from wake mode to sleep mode and to sleep til 3pm or 4pm that way i can clean the house bathe our son feed him and he can spend time with him til about 7 or 8 and then we all go to sleep. so far its working out fine. so my advice is to, if its possible, work out a schedule like that that way your not cleaning to late. And if he comes home during the afternoon maybe c if he'll stay up for an hour or two so you can wash the dishes and sweep the floors.
Whatever kind of schedule suits you both
Hooe this helps...

Catherine - posted on 02/21/2013

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He usually only gets about 5 hrs of sleep, and the ear plugs hurt his ears which cause him not to be able to sleep well. But he has said he will if I need him to. I just want to look at any alternatives first!

Liz - posted on 02/21/2013

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Can he not wear earplugs so that you can get more done in the day, at least the chores that don't need you to go into the bedroom?

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